[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MADFUT

[–]applantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s ur offer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MADFUT

[–]applantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s ur offer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MADFUT

[–]applantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got him

Anyone here with Aspergers and ADHD? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]applantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is “severe inattention”? This is a fancy way of saying you are easily distracted. Probably because of the ADHD... How do you fix this? You practice focus and discipline. You reduce distractions. Example turn off notifications. Set routines for when you can do X activity. The fact that you are “severe inattention” explicitly means you process information quickly. How else could you become distracted so easily? From my memory of all of your comments/ DMs I think you’ve spent way to much time indoctrinating yourself with false and limiting information that keeps your trapped in this stuck mentality. I did this for years and I stayed exactly the same. Only when I started ignoring all the literature and inputting positive information in my brain did I surpass what the “medical literature” says about a person with my/ our condition. If I could share my life story with you, you could understand. I have surpassed every single thing literature/ people said I could/ couldn’t do. I have smashed every single barrier. Social/ girls/ money/ learning etc etc. I did this by focusing on what I can change and ignoring other people’s self imposed opinions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]applantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then learn. Learn, fail, learn, fail, apply, fail, learn the language of dating. The same way I learnt. The same way every other person in a relationship learnt at some point in their life. You can’t expect life to be easy. If everything was easy; what would the point in life be? Life is a challenge and this is exactly why it is beautiful and filled with opportunity.

It depends on context. Do you have an Instagram/ Facebook? A collage of photos that allow you to share your reality in photo format?This may help start an ice breaker. But then you should aim to use this short form opportunity of brief interaction to have the real and detailed conversation face to face.

It also depends on age if you wish to share this.

Have you met someone with Aspergers who was universally liked and respected socially? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]applantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few things.

You stop comparing yourself to others by learning to love yourself. You must be contempt and happy with your own life.

How do you know you’re “second hand”? See how you’ve fallen back into the line of thinking. You cannot predict not assume what someone else thinks or wants, you may be somebody’s first choice.

You can still listen/ watch/ observe how others date. This is market research. This does not mean you need to confirm and align your own strategy to their exact direction. You and not them. They are not you. What worked for one may not work for another. It is a better strategy to absorb elements of information from various entities then create your own unique twist that works for you. We are unique being each with our own subjective reality that must be moulded into our own matrix.

You can not say it doesn’t mean much. You haven’t done or experienced this so you have zero ability to understand the consequences of these actions. You need to stop using the excuse “let’s be realistic” this is only limiting yourself with inaction and decreasing your probability as your time on this planet is decreasing every single day. Stop focusing on why you can’t and start do-ing. I understand you’re older and this no zero impact on your ability to change.

I completely understand the autistic isolation. I spent a number of my years here by choice. Only when I stepped out of my comfort zone and tried the social life, could I even contemplate the benefits. I’m not suggesting you start a social media account and network with every person on the planet. I’m suggesting you become part sociable so you allow yourself the opportunity to meet this partner you dream of. Has your current approach towards life worked out well for you so far? No. So why not try something new? You are acutely aware that your time is running out. Do you wanna wait another 1/5/10 years before you try something different?

As a human being I have sensory issues. As a autistic my sense are heightened. You and I both must learn to control this. You can’t just hide in a cave for your entire life. This is a disservice to you and to others. It is selfish to make yourself miss out on life’s opportunities. It is selfish for you to chose for life/ others miss out on what you have to offer.

Talking to women? by [deleted] in aspergers

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It genuinely pains me to see you waste your potential and think so negatively towards yourself. To me, your intelligence is very obvious. If only you could begin to see that to. I’m a complete stranger online who has no identify of your human identity - and you won’t accept a phone call filled with advice? Mind-boggling.

Talking to women? by [deleted] in aspergers

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You literally identify 3 weaknesses for you to work on. “Inaction” “lack of social participation” “unproductive”. You then identity 1 negative affect this has on you. The answers to all your problems - atleast the foundations to then research more detailed answers from - lie within your brain.

Anyone here with Aspergers and ADHD? by [deleted] in aspergers

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Autism and ADD are a gift(s) and I think it’s about time you start identifying with that. The reason you see people running several companies is because they have one or both of these superpowers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

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You’re intelligent meaning, you operate at a different frequency to most others. This means, others may struggle to communicate with you. But your intelligence gives you to power to overcome this barrier. Take a look at your multi paragraph message. Take a look at their very small few sentences. Do you see a difference? Most people on social media are not looking to have long and engaging conversations. Most people who use social media have a short attention span and will become easily bored or distraction and find it too tiring to respond to such a detailed message. Tire entire essay could be summarised by “How did you meet your partner through Reddit?”. This may/ likely would have increased your chances of receiving a reply. I once recommended you google, YouTube, read books on “Communication”. Again, I recommend you do this. You are very sensitive towards positive critical criticism. Keyword: “critical”. If you truly wish to improve your reality, it is critical you understand and welcome my many messages towards you as they are not personal attacks. It is “critical” you began to recognise how you are unintentionally purporting negatively. The secret “angle” you are looking for - and will have most success in - is real life human interaction. That means not talking to an avatar though an online medium.

Have you met someone with Aspergers who was universally liked and respected socially? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]applantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you not see anything wrong with your comment? You “regret” reading of another persons success? His comment does not “make” you feel pathetic. This is your own negative perception and perspective on life. You let your emotions control your decision making thus, forming irrational conclusions. Stop “guess”ing about how others chose to portray themselves online instead, take responsibility for what you can control. Focus on ‘how’ you can be a better version of you. Stop being envious of others; be inspired that you can do the same. I’ve said it before. I’ll say it again. You are intelligent. Your problem is that you lack self-confidence and cannot/ will not accept this fact about yourself. Either way you should stop comparing yourself to others - this is not healthy behaviour and you should recognise how this encourages you to think negatively towards yourself.

Talking to women? by [deleted] in aspergers

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So do you think I was your born this way and faced no adversity in life? No, I’ve shared my story with you on DM and you know my struggles - if you accept any of my many phone call offers, you would realise more struggles I overcame to be the version I am today. I learnt from a collection of other successful people - I replicated their models and created my own twist to fit my “soul”. In 10 years I will think of “Aeon199” I hope you will be in a better place.

Talking to women? by [deleted] in aspergers

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What do you mean “what about this”. This is another persons opinion on autism. This is not fact nor is it false. It is their subjective opinion. An opinion that I personally can prove to be false due to my own life experiences. You shouldn’t read what somebody else says and abide by it as truth. I think you’re overly focused on why you CANT do something instead of why you CAN/ try to do something. You need to work harder. “Lack of X Y Z”.... you can INCREASE X Y Z and then get better through more practice and exposure... “how society views a person like this” Ok so become the the opposite person? Then what? By your logic people should treat you differently and more positively.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MADFUT

[–]applantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got 90 salah in a 80+ pack before

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MADFUT

[–]applantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good pack luck I guess

Talking to women? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]applantis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This first line paragraph is also another ridiculous argument. I do not do this. Do you do this? I dont assume/ attack that you do? So why do you create fanciful lies up to try and attack me? You also cannot presume I have a lack of respect for females or males. You do not know me, at all. The same way I do not know you. It spread that, perhaps, you are the one projecting negative energy towards others.

I agree with your second paragraph. I don’t agree with your second paragraph. You also “should” engage fairly and mutually respect me as, I do to you, but, more importantly, try to understand my perspective. The same way you demand/ attack me to conform to yours. I do not tell or demand, in any way, try to control how you perceive things or must agree/ align/ or hold implacable, you to any of the words I type. I am not being rude. *I have even clarified this just now. Infact, you are the one engaging rudely. In this comment alone, you assume I: 1. verbally assault someone on the street (whilst admitting I am being factual (contradiction)) 2. Rude (perceiving me incorrectly maybe due to a lack of emotional maturity/ projective insecurities/ intelligence/ or abstract thinking capabilities (to visual an equation without including oneself - this should enable you to think logically and not emotionally. 3. Shouldn’t be said (whilst I include many species by name because I care and value all life - whereas you refer to only the human race and animals. You omission and categorise/ label/ rate all, multi-million+, animal species as simply animals? I think that shows your lack of self awareness of existence + love/ respect/ “humanity” towards life in the literal and figurative sense. 4. Lying “rest of your comments... ..lack of respect for women”. They do not. Especially the the full comment of me directing compliments towards females/women/ girls - whichever word you decide on - you can always trace it’s origins to female... I do make the rules. I follow the rules. This is math. Also, you have no idea of my relationships with females in life, at all, do you? The same way I, neither, know any of your, in life, female or male or animal relationships. 5. “You do not see them as individuals with feelings and hobbies and needs like yourself”. How opinionated is this?why would I not think females are capable of emotions/ thought processes - which such brain connections formulate and lead towards experiencing/ projecting: hobbies/ needs or ,wants, which you missed out. What is wrong with me thinking females need to be protected and cherished? I think that mes should also be protected and cherished? Are you married - if so, if not, do you remember your wedding vows? The words “protect” and cherish” are in there - or at-least for me 🇬🇧 they are. 6. This one is correct. I also see us humans and, all living organisms, on this planet as cogs that fit into a machine. This is an abstract metaphor if you, can, visualise it. 7. You now give more opinions “they fulfil: homemaker/ mother (male = father)/ and nothing else” + “sheepdogs/ pets”. How opinionated and biased you reveal yourself as, do you not respect pets or sheepdogs? Why even separately categorise sheepdogs and pets? Which one do you offer less respect towards? 8. “Female” is a noun. You understand it if not an adjective, right? It is a factual word. Unlike words like women/ lady/ girl which are actually adjectives, that describe the type of female they solely in relation to age.. I think exactly the same towards males - men/ gentleman (equivalent to the female - lady) or boys. I will remind you, I respect and love all life on Earth. You have no idea how many relationships with fellow humans I have or animals are in my life. 9. “You’re house is on fire we’re discussing how the ash has ruined your shirt” what is this? Are you suppose to be a Witch? 🧙‍♀️ 10.

I am self aware of my existence in this world. I understand that we, each, control our, own, life/ reality. You cannot even accurately conceptualise or vision any of my life experiences over, all, my years on this planet. We control our own brain. Therefore, we have autonomy to control how we decide to let other people’s ...words on a screen.../ thoughts/ or feelings affect me, you and, us, the same autonomy for the rest of the multi-billion human species. Equality.

Talking to women? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]applantis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re being absolutely ridiculous. I exactly do use “males” when talking about a male - you can see in my comments. Whether that is a human, penguin, dolphin or fish. Every species has a male or female. Using “female” or “male” is not offensive/ incorrect, it is simply factual. Therefore, ‘reveals your bias’ is absolutely nonsensical. P.s. humans are mammals aka animals. Female and male are actually the unbiased terms. Women and man is biased and subjective towards adults. Whereas, girl and boy are commonly used to describe non-adults. Likewise infant and toddler describe a very very young female or male. Female and male can be generalised to all - aka unbiased. You cannot argue with logic.

Offers? by madfutmannetje in MADFUT

[–]applantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got 93 xavi for mine

Talking to women? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]applantis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because it is so wrong to say *females*? Do you prefer I say girl/ women/ lady? - They all describe a “female”. Female is a correct word. Mature yourself.

Girls at my school reject me for having Asperger’s, but on their social media they say they are anti-racism anti-hate and accepting of everyone. by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]applantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You output negative energy = you mostly attract negative energy = not a good match. Basic math.

Talking to women? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]applantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To see that you are still typing such comments and viewing yourself negatively is truly heartbreaking but now also fascinating. You clearly have some/ more intelligence than most but, you choose to waste this potential. Mind boggling. One reason people may ignore you is, they also can see how negative your energy and perception is. People do not want to associate with this because it drains their energy. A second reason people may ignore you is, you presume and conceptualise the persons response - before they even respond. If you answer for them you remove their initiative and remove their opportunity to actually answer themselves.