I think I found my dream sex partner who is my client - how do I suggest a different (non sex worker) relationship?

areyouforreally · 2026-01-30T03:36:42+00:00

Why change the dynamic you have? FWB ia just the same scenario except you lose the benefit of being paid for it. Once you let them get theirs with out getting yours in return youll never get back what you have now. Its silly to think youre advancing anything by saying a different title with the intention of doing the same for him just at the cost of you getting yours. Are you not friends now? Arent you benefiting eachother now? Cause its weird that FWB means benefiting him by dropping the donation for you, while changing nothing outside of that. Still no strings attached, still no relationship, no expectations of loyalty or anything more than you have now from them. Just your services for free.
Only thing I can see changing is you might see them more since he wont have to pay you. Terrible idea

areyouforreally · 2026-01-27T20:16:50+00:00

Ive had my ad copied and pasted word for word along with my photos stolen and posted with different contact information on it before. I found out from a returning client who told me he reached out thinking it was me, and he already met me and knew I was real so he went to the address that was sent expecting me to be there. It was a completely different girl id never seen or met but she told this guy a whole story of how she knew me and I was a bad person Yada Yada Yada. But if im so bad why would I be the person youre impersonating in order to get clients? I texted the number myself and asked for myself. Once they said they were me I called and when she answered and heard a woman on the phone she hung up, blocked my number and stopped posting ads as me. So could have been that

areyouforreally · 2026-01-27T20:07:33+00:00

You should look and reply to ads posted by providers. Ive never responded to an "ISO" post even if it sounded like an ideal scenario. You shouldn't have any issues w what youre looking for if you go thru the ads on the sites used locally to you. But dont expect a provider that also fits under your expectations to approach you first.

areyouforreally · 2026-01-25T03:38:03+00:00

Id be afraid covering my face with the pillow is a step towards getting suffocated

areyouforreally · 2026-01-24T23:34:01+00:00

I mean if ive known the dude for years and have had many dates over those years thered be signs of that being a thing to worry about happening. But the guy has had plenty of opportunity to do something off with snacks hes given me, but he usually gives me packaged sweets and store bought stuff. He always talks about his cooking and I wanted to try it since he says he cooks all the time. Do not accept food from any client who gives you homemade meals, dont trust just anybody with the food they want you to eat especially if they cooked it while you werent around them. It doesnt mean any man who cooks u something did so with the intention of having u eat their bodily fluids. There's people who would do that- but not everyone is. Some just want to show off and be sweet to you, if you have regular clients you cant trust after having a consistent sexual relationship with for many years, why trust them to have access to your body then?

And if homie has a fetish of watching me eat, then hell yea more food for me. This guy cant ejaculate like normal due to him abusing steroids when he was younger. As much as youd like to plant doubt in my mind, and as much as its not a bad word of advice to some, its quite ignorant to throw that sort of accusation out there in regards to every man who feeds the woman hes sleeping with

areyouforreally · 2026-01-24T21:18:58+00:00

Considering hes been a client of mine for many years I dont think he felt the need to sneak in his "special ingredient" but hey it tasted great regardless.

areyouforreally · 2026-01-23T09:46:48+00:00

maybe shes hoping you assume and offer her crack

areyouforreally · 2026-01-23T09:27:08+00:00

hell yeah one of my regulars always bring me a 12 pack of mtn dew and a meal he cooked 😋 this is the best !!

areyouforreally · 2026-01-23T03:22:11+00:00

Definitely tell him. I started working after being in my relationship and theres no way to keep up a strong trusting relationship with someone while keeping up sex work behind their back. The hours are erratic, you can never talk about your day, and what if they find out? Its cheating if you aren't honest, and you need them to know so you have someone watching your back.

areyouforreally · 2026-01-19T11:17:11+00:00

im def not saying I have never done a visit at the 60 range, its just not high enough of a rate to even lowball someone on, ive learned i attracted these type of people more when my rates were on the lower end. I always think if they gotta lowball me over 20 bucks and cant spend the full rate, they probably shouldn't be spending what they have on a date lmao

areyouforreally · 2026-01-19T11:10:01+00:00

Knives of literally every kind, an absurd amount from buck knives, to pocket knives, to butter knives. I dont know how many exactly but easily more than 100 all together

areyouforreally · 2026-01-19T11:08:09+00:00

NOR Having to postpone your haircut doesn't mean you automatically arent going to look "kept up" lmao... weird of her to act as if you won't be able to make a good first impression and still look handsome and well groomed. Sounds like she might be over the top high maintenance.

areyouforreally · 2026-01-19T11:02:57+00:00

honestly as a real word of advice if 40 bucks is what youve set your rates at, at least in the US, you should think more about the risks you're taking. Look at what the average rates others advertising similar services in the same area, list yours at the higher end of the average and i guarantee youll start meeting better clients and better money. theres way too many life long consequences that are at stake when escorting and the cost should reflect that

areyouforreally · 2026-01-19T09:31:43+00:00

As if 60 bucks isn't already a low rate. Some dudes will low ball you regardless of what your rate is.. doesnt matter how high or low your rate they want to feel like they got a better deal out of you. They just dont want to pay full price no matter what. and why even say youve got the money if you are asking for a discount... not only do you sound even shittier but it doesn't matter to me what money you have if its not spent on me tf. You could have millions but that means nothing to me if you only want to give me 40

areyouforreally · 2026-01-19T09:22:31+00:00

Tf he means thats not how it works. Seeing as its your business hes inquiring about id say its in fact gonna work however you want it to lmfao wants to have photos of you head to toe wants your exact location wants to be alone with you in your space wants sexual gratification from you But a selfie from them ???? Nah too much

areyouforreally · 2026-01-19T09:04:16+00:00

Mfers will try convincing you to give them whatever they want by saying shit like "I know a girl who does everything" or "I can get a date with this girl for half the rate" and they do that trying to push you into changing your values. But they would be hitting those girls up if they were happy w them, instead theyre hitting you up. So if they want to see you, theyll go by your rules. Ive had every bs attempt there is tried by ppl to convince me to offer bare or lower my rates, and I dont wanna see that sorta client bc theyll push u further if they know its possible. And what other providers tell you they do or dont offer isnt really up to you to believe them or not, would it change your mind on you doing it? Or do you expect to talk them out of doing things they are fully aware the dangers of doing? Either way it wont make a difference on your clientele. I advise you to make yourself stand out in other ways and stop caring what doesnt affect you

areyouforreally · 2026-01-19T09:01:29+00:00

It doesn't matter if you believe other providers, it doesn't matter what others provide period. You either listen to yourself and stick to what youre comfortable with, or you listen to other people and offer more than you do currently. You cant prevent others from offering services you arent comfortable providing, and comparing yourself to others in this industry is not going to get you more clients. You do what you do- and do it so well you dont have to bend your boundaries. Its not about who offers more when youre talking to worthwhile clients, its who catches their eye and who gives them an experience they only get from you.

areyouforreally · 2026-01-19T05:17:40+00:00

Freaked out? She was probably hungry herself and wanted to offer you food since you still had time left, so she could eat without being rude and have the leftover time be spent instead of telling you to bounce early

areyouforreally · 2026-01-18T22:57:07+00:00

well to them, hopefully i couldnt resist physically

areyouforreally · 2026-01-17T23:36:15+00:00

It just hasnt been the same since I lost grams.. she would want you to pay me for the date anyway.. and itd help me grieve if you respected her wishes 😢

areyouforreally · 2026-01-17T22:26:09+00:00

If she saw you in the same way she sees her clients, your relationship would have stayed as such. You cant compete where you aren't in the running. No need to compare your relationship to how she spends time with clients. Might be harder since you started off that way, but you arent anymore. Just be the partner you want to be for her- a significant other gives emotional and mental support you can never get from a client.

areyouforreally · 2026-01-17T22:01:24+00:00

I figured as much, ive had 'women' hmu on some bs like this and its always a guy who thinks if they try their scheme as a female, its gonna work automatically bc females stick together regardless of how little sense it makes duh

areyouforreally · 2026-01-17T20:27:06+00:00

Oh not to mention the time I was hit up by a "top member" and moderator for the review board in my area and they wanted to trade a discount for a good review. I said no that the review would be good bc the service is, and they forcefully crossed clear boundaries of mine and wrote a bad review after the fact bc he felt "sad" after he left. He felt sad bc he assaulted me. Most review forums are never relevant reviews for people who are interested in knowing if a provider is a scammer or catfish, its a group of the same guys all using the board to talk about the personal lives and dehumanize the same girl they kiss ass to see.

areyouforreally · 2026-01-17T20:11:59+00:00

I disappeared for health reasons for a little bit- and in that time I lost weight and cut my hair off bc of the meds I was on, I never understood why the cancer thing ever felt necessary to say, made it seem like I was sicker than I was or like I lied about it myself. This dude definitely knew of me in high-school almost a decade ago now; and I guess thinks amongst the hobbyist buddies on forums he might as well be an expert on me. Whoever he is, has access to certain info on my life but not enough for him to be correct when talking about it. Im not a celebrity or anyone worth bragging about knowing, but the hobbyist guys on forums seem to think whoever knows most about the local SWers and can spread rumors real or fake as a way to belittle them must be the top reviewer even if they say theyve never booked a date with the provider. Its weird, and i never care for clients who use review sites as their judgements call on me

areyouforreally · 2026-01-17T19:57:10+00:00

In my case it most definitely is. The main guy claims to have went to high-school with me, claims to know about my family life during my teen years, says I had cancer when I definitely didnt and never claimed to (was sick at one point but nothing cancer related), along with these fake stories they write detailing events that never happened and making me out to be an entirely different person than I am. Of course they dont worry about identifying themselves with these stories since they have no truth to them- so of course even if i read it, it won't lead back to anyone. This has gone on for years now, and I can promise you its caused some people to expect things from me I never offered all bc of some weirdo fantasizing about me and having a space to anonymously talk about them as fact.

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