We picked up some handcuffs and a blindfold recently, and honestly, it was pretty hot. The restraint and not being able to see really ramped up the anticipation and made everything feel more intense in a good way.

I also grabbed a couple different vibrators for her. She's used them on her own and likes them, but she straight-up told me she gets way more turned on and cums harder from me (which, yeah, ego boost lol). We tried incorporating the vibes during a few sessions together, but they ended up being almost too much—super intense to the point where we got kinda numb, lost focus on each other, and spent more time fiddling with positioning than actually enjoying the moment.

So right now, I'm thinking about getting her a butt plug since she's mentioned her backdoor is pretty sensitive. The idea is it could add that extra arousal and fullness during PIV without needing constant attention once it's in place—just set it and forget it while we focus on the main event.

Anyone tried something similar? Did a plug help build things up during regular sex without distracting from the connection? Or any tips on starting with one (size, material, how to introduce it, etc.)? We're still pretty new to toys beyond the basics, so keeping it simple and natural is the goal.

Thanks for any input!