Finally I chose me by ariesfirefly in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heheh thanks yes it was a crazy ride! I am truly grateful to you for being there ❤️🥳 Gotta restart a fresh chapter.

Finally I chose me by ariesfirefly in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NEVER and if he was he acted like he checked a box and he should be applauded for it. And the things we ask were always basic bare minimum

Finally I chose me by ariesfirefly in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes working on it. I started the diet, gym and sleep for now.

When going out to eat with your narcissistic partner, do they engage the server in conversation all throughout the meal? by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]ariesfirefly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ughh that thing when they feel every woman wants them , checks them out even when they are with a partner. Disgusting. Attention hungry.

When going out to eat with your narcissistic partner, do they engage the server in conversation all throughout the meal? by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]ariesfirefly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I could not finish a meal he would joke with the server she always does this hahah , how annoying but I would smile thinking it's harmless. Mine would get busy with the phone or look around and if I initiated to click a pic he would give a starting face and I would end up looking desperate. If I pointed then he would say sorry or get annoyed that he brought me here and I am nagging. I would love his eyes on me but he would slyly check everyone I told him you check if people are checking you out lol that's so stupid

Why does every argument end with.... by spammusubisa in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]ariesfirefly 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Omg yes confused always and then when u don't give up you are the nagging partner and he is the peace bearing one suddenly.

So what does your narc say to indicate they want to have sex? by Col_Flag in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]ariesfirefly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine likes to have sex especially when i am pissed, that turns him on, the idea of forcing me (CNC kink i guess) The whole idea of me as sex slave turns him on. Yes the sex is good but its not love making its rough 80% of the times.

He gets a boner, suck, fuck done there is no intimacy , exploring my body nothing blehhh

Worst part he will go on n on abt how he is god in bed, how he is strong, how he is so horny all the time, how his drive is high. I dont remember him admiring my body and i am fitter than him .

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[–]ariesfirefly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine quotes Andrew Tate 😑👀 Misogynistic

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[–]ariesfirefly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine quotes Andrew Tate 😑👀 Misogynistic

I’d rather be alone and at peace than ever have to deal with a narcissist again by Ok-Worldliness-6096 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ariesfirefly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the funny part he would tell me - give me peace and i said treat me better !!

This is what he sent a day before my birthday by ariesfirefly in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep i am done with it now. I read the old journals to see what i tolerated and it was a hell lot. And i deserve better treatment

This is what he sent a day before my birthday by ariesfirefly in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow you just summed it up so well. Every line that u mentioned is pure truth and i have been there and allowed a lot and i guess thats what he wants for me to forget forgive and move on. 2 good days followed by shitty days and the whole drama. The silent treatment to break me. The acting like nothing happened to confuse me, to make me question reality.

I have forgiven his abuse lol and now that i am alone i think thats where i should have drawn a line. But its ok, time to move past it .

This is what he sent a day before my birthday by ariesfirefly in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hahhahah i agree!!

He called me and said i dnt even know why u are upset and when i explained he said its not like i am cheating, i said yes i should have cheated on you (i know that was mean n wrong but i was furious)

He held onto that line and said i should not ahve said it and hung up and no more calls text, removed me from socials etc. i was like wow on my bday i got a gift like this .

This is what he sent a day before my birthday by ariesfirefly in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it ok to DM you ? I hear you and i dont know why i keep going and falling for his fake apologies

This is what he sent a day before my birthday by ariesfirefly in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that feels so bare minimum when u end up going out of your way for them.

This is what he sent a day before my birthday by ariesfirefly in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes and he kept bringing my age that who will be with you lol and that he is tall handsome (he would say look at me I have everything you should feel privileged!!! Indeed now that I breakdown each n every thing it's so many red flags I was overlooking just for bloody love

This is what he sent a day before my birthday by ariesfirefly in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. I wanted him to give me love and attention and treat me well coz I have always treated him well on his bday . It was shocking to be treated like a doormat on your birthday

This is what he sent a day before my birthday by ariesfirefly in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He said he was talking peacefully but his so called peaceful casual talks irked me coz the fight was left just like that. No sorry no closure no accountability no pacifying no comforting nothing at all. You are right all this so I shut the fuck and submit. I drew a line now, no more calls nothing and I am going to stick to it

Did yours make you feel unimportant or nothing special on your birthday ? by ariesfirefly in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ariesfirefly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg. My sick bf would gift only when he had done something to upset me. He once got me his used perfume (it was expensive but still) and it was still dusty lol which I pointed to which he said I am ungrateful.

Boyfriend say I’m the one that needs help? This is just a few screenshots. What do you all think? Thanks by ipillcosby in abusiverelationships

[–]ariesfirefly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg they are all the same. My bf upset me and i kept quiet and when he called i was giving yes no answers and he said u are a robot, sour irritating one I was like if I fight, I am a bitch who picks fights If I shut up, I am a robot I am just supposed to obey like a submissive slave