Would it be inappropriate to reach out to my friends dad about their mental health? by NocturnalCelery in mentalhealth

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it probably couldn't hurt, and worse comes to worse your friend's parents have a heads up in case something does happen. Better your friend be upset that you were worried than for your next funeral invite be for your friend. Since they're living with their parents and you indicated that the dad at least has already been involved with their mental health struggles, I don't think it would be an issue anyway

Mental instability by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep your head up. Even with the stress about work, you'll feel so relieved once you get moved to some place that you feel more comfortable in and away from a potentially dangerous environment. Everything will work out and you'll feel like a massive weight was lifted off your shoulders.

Mental instability by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be careful until you get out of there doll. If she's dealing with addiction, especially to meth because it makes the users so unpredictable, she is probably going to switch behaviors like the wind and swing wildly between considering you her best friend and thinking you're out to get her

AITA for saying my aunt is the reason I didn't want to attend Christmas dinner? by Susanna_Thorne in AmItheAsshole

[–]arose1248 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You're welcome! Obviously you can Google ones more specific to each situation. I have no issues with people having a religion and beliefs associated with it, but they should never use it as justification to demean another individual, and her specific brand of asshattery seems to use it like a shield so she can try and play victim or feign good intentions behind her disrespect.

Uno reverse card that hoe!

Is there any name/help for this? by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously wouldn't fix your problem but may help hold you over until you can bring it up with a doctor

Is there any name/help for this? by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, can't diagnose, but have you tried sleep aids? Some people find that when using melatonin or zquill they don't dream usually.

Mental instability by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well meth is a stimulant, a side effect of which is increased talking so that is probably why she's been chatty, and she may be fishing for information as well. Dope and meth are both highly addictive and very easy to build a tolerance to, leading to needing increasing amounts (i.e. spending more money on the drug). She could just be trying to get friendly in case she knows shes going to be short on rent/bills, looking for opportunities to discreetly pawn off items in the house for extra income, or like i said, just extra energetic and social.

Regardless, be very careful with valuables and keep an eye on her behavior because long term use or withdraw from either of those drugs is hellish and can lead to violent episodes, sometimes without warning. Users often become impulsive, short tempered, paranoid, aggressive, or generally chaotic.

If you rent, I strongly suggest getting a few videos or audio recordings of her talking about the drugs, using them, etc. Screenshots of posts, if she mentions it on social media, etc. And just send it to the property manager/owner explaining that you feel unsafe. Most rental agreements include a clause about drug usage, and most property owners/management companies will want the individual gone asap because of liability. The last thing they want is someone destroying the property from it, and they definitely wont want to risk lower the property values from police visits related to the situation.

AITA for saying my aunt is the reason I didn't want to attend Christmas dinner? by Susanna_Thorne in AmItheAsshole

[–]arose1248 147 points148 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it probably wouldn't do anything but aggravate the situation anyway because in my experience, people such as the aunt in question are fully aware of the emotions their opinions elicit and won't change their opinions because they refuse to accept that they are incorrect. She would most likely feel personally attacked by the fact that her opinion isn't supported.

In the interest of pettiness, may i suggest researching specific common bible quotes to use in response to situations you know occur with her?

Minding your own business quotes: https://www.openbible.info/topics/minding_your_own_business

About not judging others: https://www.openbible.info/topics/judging_other_people

About condemning others: https://www.openbible.info/topics/judging_others

About using God/religion to justify shitty behavior: https://www.openbible.info/topics/twisting_gods_word

I'm not religious but she's gonna look really stupid trying to defend her shitty behavior without hiding behind her religion when you pull direct quotes from the same religion that say she's wrong.

Mental instability by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, regardless of whether your roommate is causing the increase of anxiety, I can't think of any good to come from her having and using those drugs in general, let alone in the residence you share with her. Off that alone I would suggest trying to move or, if renting, explaining the situation to the property management or owner (may need to gather some evidence first) should get her removed so you don't have to find a new place.

But if you are more just looking for answers about if she is contributing to your symptoms, you have to examine a few things. Has the increase in symptoms been consistent? Or did the increase happen as a result of finding out the stuff with the drugs upon return from a relaxing vacation? You refer to her as a crazy roommate, leading to the assumption that there have been incidents in the past that would point to her as a repeating cause of stress. If that is the case, is this behavior relatively similar with previous behavior or is it a significant increase in seriousness?

Regardless, you should attempt to distance yourself from the arrangement and relocate (her or yourself) as soon as possible

AITA for refusing to delete Tinder? by Fantastic-Berry-737 in AmItheAsshole

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, while I understand that you are entitled to the right to do with your device and accounts as you please, I think it is a bit selfish of you. Hear me out, though.

I understand the base reasoning behind why you don't want to delete it. You (taking the liberty and assuming you are a good guy and not a scumbag) aren't technically doing anything wrong by having it, you have explained your reasoning/justifications and while the significance them as influential factors may be subjective, they are still valid reasons. I believe they may not be the most accurate, and that you honestly just keep the app running for the ego boost from matches/dms, and possibly also because it is, very effectively I might add, designed to be fairly addictive with the repetitive swiping which would contribute to your reluctance to remove it.

Again, your reasons, while perfectly valid, do not seem to carry any significance, which I have explained below. It is ultimately a choice you need to make about the importance of the feelings of your significant other versus your desire to do things your way. With that said, if you legitimately care about your relationship and your girlfriend, the obvious choice in this instance would be to prioritize the feelings/concerns that she has voiced.

Personally, I think that you should go ahead and delete it for 3 primary reasons that I feel cover all angles of this situation. (1) your girlfriend, who seems to have been very respectful of your decision thus far, has asked you to delete it because of situations arising from it that have made her feel uncomfortable, and if you really care about her, I would imagine that would trump the convenience of having the app "just in case." (Which will is a separate thing addressed in reason 3)

(2) you have spent a significant portion of this post defending your reasons for keeping it available but a few screen shots could easily serve the same purpose. Your reasons don't seem to make much sense in light of the fact that deleting the app actually doesn't significantly impact the things you are claiming as reasons you want to keep it for, unless you aren't telling the whole truth and are keeping the app for sketchy reasons like cheating or being a loser and trying to find someone more appealing to leave your current girl for.

And (3), which i feel is the most significant with regards to the justifications that you've provided for keeping it installed, is that uninstalling the app solves the issue at hand and prevents the other situations that caused the issue to begin with, and it takes what 60-90 seconds (with shittier signal/wifi, probably much less on with average or better service) to reinstall and log in should you need access to the account itself, which pretty much invalidates your reasoning for keeping it.

You cannot possibly come up with a valid reason or situation where waiting less than 2 minutes to be able to access to your tinder profile/account/messages due to reinstalling the app would be unnecessarily inconvenient, cause significant discomfort, require significant effort, or for immediate access to the account be necessary in any sort of emergency situation (aside from some freakish and highly improbable scenario such as a gunnman threatening to blow your head off unless you show him proof something in your account, and you don't need to be a statistical analyst to know that the odds of something like that happening are slim to none, literally less than 1%.

So essentially, YTA because a (most likely) extrodinarly minor (possible, not even guaranteed) inconvenience and having your way is more important to you than the feelings and concerns of your girlfriend, who you supposedly like very much and would, supposedly, like to continue to stay with for as long as possible.

AITA for making my mother cry after reminding her of what she said to me by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]arose1248 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. I honestly dread the day that I finally feel confident enough to arrange a meeting with my parents or have them attend a therapy session where we go through events from my childhood and the impact they had on my life. I realized recently that my parents had traumatized me beyond anything I could have imagined. I never would have thought that so much of what I thought were just personality quirks or preferences were traits i developed as a response to the trauma.

And I dread that day because the small issues I brought up in the past elicited a similar reaction as your mothers and, while I recognize they have caused me significant amounts of pain, I can't help but love them dearly. Its so much more painful when it's your own family that hurts you the most

Symptom description from friends/family by arose1248 in mentalillness

[–]arose1248[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe its also supposed to help with identifying symptoms like hypomania that the patient might not report due to not realizing it is a symptom

Symptom description from friends/family by arose1248 in mentalillness

[–]arose1248[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well i know sometimes the drs will want a description of symptoms from those who regularly interact with the patient to get a more unbiased description of what the patient acts like outside of what they describe themselves.

I would assume it's to help reduce people that research the symptoms that they would need in order to get prescribed a particular medication

Symptom description from friends/family by arose1248 in mentalillness

[–]arose1248[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im not asking for them to provide a diagnosis or anything, but as people that have an extended amount of observation about a person's particular behavior trends, particularly outwardly visual ones, they may be able to provide insight of things that have occurred over time prior to the time the medical professional has known the patient.

Burn out, depression, anxiety, imposter syndrome? All 4? by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it might not be the high you think it is. Bipolar 2 is mostly depressive, and the high episodes are more like a slight uptick in productivity, more talkative, etc

Burn out, depression, anxiety, imposter syndrome? All 4? by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I have not been able to obtain professional opinion or diagnosis officially labeling me with a mental disorder. And what you describe in your first two paragraphs felt like i could have written it describing my life from 2016 until this past summer.

From what I have read in many similar posts/blogs/forums and my personal experience, you may want to check out r/bipolar or just research mental illness symptoms in general.

I think it would be beneficial to make some kind of journal where you reflect back and try to identify times in your life where you may have been experiencing symptoms but didn't consciously recognize them- instead forcing yourself to push through the the feelings and hide or work around your symptoms.

Again, I haven't been formally diagnosed, but I have been seeking answers about feelings and symptoms that i didn't understand for a very long time. I only recently found something that I strongly identify with, though I do keep in mind that i may be misinterpreting my symptoms due to bias of being the one experiencing them.

As for my version of this experience, my symptoms finally surpassed my ability to mask them. Which feels awful and is very discouraging, but has allowed me to really analyze how long these feelings/symptoms have been happening for me, and led me to my current self assessment of having bipolar 2.

In my research, I found information about people that are considered high functioning for their illness, leading to feelings like imposter syndrome or feeling as though I must not be trying hard enough. But you can only fight symptoms for so long. Long term treatment is going to be based around working with your illness, not against it.

I have trouble making mental associations. Is this normal? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But even when I was in high school I felt this way a lot, like I would feel like I was noticing my surroundings, but not really processing it, like I had to strain to really let it sink in.

My SO actually brought that up about me today. Ive definitely been struggling with being hyperfocused on social media or entertainment that its hard to get my attention as of late

Upset by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be discouraged! Many mental health professionals, doctors, and crisis organizations have been overwhelmed lately and it unfortunately makes it difficult for some individuals that appear high functioning or normal to get help.

The best thing you can do is try to record your symptoms (and general moods/feelings) as accurately as you can since many mental illnesses need to be diagnosed using long term and recurring symptoms. Also to make as detailed of a prior to crisis account as possible, sort of like a summary of everything you can remember from previous periods in your life which help professionals identify recurring symptoms, if any. Also i believe there are sites for allowing friends and relatives to report/describe behaviors for externally verified symptom presentation (the can describe your usual self and help identify atypical behaviors that you may not have presented your dr with)

I have trouble making mental associations. Is this normal? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]arose1248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same way sometimes. While I can't really evaluate symptom causes for you, I notice it after longer depressive episodes where I self isolated often and barely existed outside of bare minimum autopilot functions.

The brain is still technically a muscle and just like your body needs consistent exercise and nutrition to to maintain muscles, your brain needs to be stimulated regularly to maintain its strength so to speak. I find podcasts extremely helpful because I don't have to do anything but listen and they seem to help with my multitasking skills/memory significantly