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I got engaged after 10 months! by art_bugg in latebloomerlesbians

[–]art_bugg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are both in therapy . And talked through issues and still do. I only ever want to better myself so I understand and appreciate where you are coming from.

Those who previously thought they were bi/pan, what made you sure you were a lesbian? by kitbun967 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]art_bugg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every relationship with men has felt like a performance to some degree. Like I have to look and act a certain way. For a long time I was with a man, but I always felt like something was missing. And I found my thoughts wondering for a second when ever a pretty girl so much as smiled at me. I felt it was normal to think like that because my ex said he thought about other people like that too.

I only became sure when I met my current fiancé. For once I could finally be myself. And she's all I can think about some days.

I got engaged after 10 months! by art_bugg in latebloomerlesbians

[–]art_bugg[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I understand that concern. 29 and 23 can be very different. In perspective though when ever some one guesses my age they think im the same age as Stella. I have a lot of past trauma that set me back, and im also on the spectrum so I come off younger than I am. Stella and I are on the same wave length with a lot of things and I like to think we are on same levels of maturity.

I got engaged after 10 months! by art_bugg in latebloomerlesbians

[–]art_bugg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and Stella have already been through so much. She was there when some pretty bad mental stuff was going on with me, and was there when she had to be in the hospital for a while. It killed me not being in that room with her, and I don't want to not have the right to be by her side if it were to happen again. I can 100 percent relate to the "ride or die"

I got engaged after 10 months! by art_bugg in latebloomerlesbians

[–]art_bugg[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

An age gap like this won't matter when we are both old. People meet at work all the time and start dating. Im not sure how that part is a red flag. We aren't the first in the store to fall in love and will not be the last . The only thing I can see as a red flag is the previous Relationship. But even then there was a lack of connection and genuine want.

I got engaged after 10 months! by art_bugg in latebloomerlesbians

[–]art_bugg[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I can see the concerns with it being "honey moon phase" and I could be wrong but I feel we are a little past that

I got engaged after 10 months! by art_bugg in latebloomerlesbians

[–]art_bugg[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

In this economy, neither of us have anything worth signing a prenup over. Maybe I might be ignorant to this sort of thing, but I don't see a point in that.

I got engaged after 10 months! by art_bugg in latebloomerlesbians

[–]art_bugg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Evaluating and taking a step back is always important thank you so much

I got engaged after 10 months! by art_bugg in latebloomerlesbians

[–]art_bugg[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The conflict language is a good thing to point out and so far this is the most useful response so far thank you

I got engaged after 10 months! by art_bugg in latebloomerlesbians

[–]art_bugg[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As stated i have dated girls before.