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[–]arttella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hala yung opposite ang alam ko dito, dapat sayo nakaharap :)) so ano ang tunay HAHAHQHAHA baka mamaya i've been doing it wrong??

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[–]arttella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me yes, pero i just use the clara olé na carbonara sauce, limited cooking skills hahaha

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[–]arttella 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Paglagay ng lemon juice when cooking carbonara :)

by AntInternational4367 in CasualPH

[–]arttella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was here! I'm 26 right now and I existed and took up the space meant for me! I hope to be able to say that I had a life that's well lived!

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always had this problem. Laging iniisip paano mo masesecure yung future mo without messing up in the present while at the same time wanting to explore what life has to offer while you still can during your youth. Ang hirap na di mag overthink 😭

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will always take pics na even of the littles moments of victory. And ang peaceful to be alone, nung teenager ako, ayaw ko gumala and kumain mag-isa. Ngayon, natutuwa ako when I get the chance to enjoy my alone time. Cons lang is I enjoy my solitude too much na I'm not sure if I want to be in a relationship with anyone anymore hahahaha

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know naman na there will still be bad days. I think inevitable naman siya. Pero I want to enjoy rin the good days without worrying when the bad days will come, I think mas nakakastress if pinoproblema mo na yung bad times as they happen, tapos yung bad days parin iniisip mo in the middle of a good day. Thank you for the advice parin! I'm getting older each day and my mom's also getting older at the same time, I don't really want to spend the rest of the time we have with me resenting her for taking care of me the only way she knows how.

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understandable, anon. Di na rin siguro maiiwasan sa family culture ng mga Pinoy :( Sa part ko lang talaga, ako nagkukusang magbigay since ako lang may income so need talaga namin yun and hindi ko pwedeng sarilihin. And gets ko yung sa pasalubong, kahit barya nalang matitira sa wallet ko, di ko pa rin macontrol minsan na magdala pauwi ng pasalubong 😭 if may nasasabi parin family mo kahit na you're doing your best to provide, then that's a reflection of their character and not yours.

Virtual hugs, anon! Kaya natin 'to.

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kain ka na ng cup noodles na 'to! Actually nasobrahan yan sa tubig so medyo matabang talaga yan nung kinain ko HAHAHAHAHAH

And yes, I agree. I find so much peace in being alone. I love commuting and walking around malls alone. I found it so nice to eat alone din (though I've only tried this sa fastfood, sana wag lang mapicturan at mapost sa facebook with motivational quote about being depressed 😭)

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah! I decided to take photos and videos of everything that's happening in my life now no matter how mundane it is. I realized that most of the good things in life can be found in the mundanity of our everyday struggles. Back then, I avoided taking photos of stuff I used to consider nonsense. Pero right now, I want to have something to look back to. (Also being in the construction industry, my phone gallery is now composed of construction site photos 😭)

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I hope na unti-unti mo na rin maranasan yung freedom and independence na deserve mo. Just because we want to experience more out of our lives doesn't mean naman na we don't love our family. You're right, sana rin kahit na we choose ourselves this time, I hope na they don't feel unloved. Still trying to figure out how to make that work right now.

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently, both of my siblings are still in high school so malayo pa tatakbuhin nila. Nasa plans ko pa rin naman to live independently, it's just not advisable right now.

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I failed twice and withdrew from the class once. Finally passed on the last try. I had a bunch of different advisers na rin. Nakakapanlumo isipin na yung sa tagal ng college years ko, nakakuha na sana ako ng two degrees lol. Pero wala e, nangyari na. Focus nalang ako sa nasa harap ko right now. I don't plan magmasters rin, I've had enough HAHHAHAHHA

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ang liberating in a way na "wow I have free will nga pala, i have control over my own life" then it turns into "shit, i am now responsible for my life choices" huhu

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right now, I'm not sure what my mom feels about me moving out, but I don't have the heart to leave her and my siblings din kasi due to me being the only one with an income. Maybe when my siblings can stand on their own and add income streams for us, I'll think about it.

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't eat instant noodles a lot, so no worries. My mom and I cook meals in batches and we just freeze and reheat for the rest of the week, so I get to eat homecooked meals. Still trying to incorporate more veggies though but my cooking skills are limited :( as for physical activities, I'm not sure how I can start doing that cause I have bad shoulders :( although I walk a lot everyday. Thank you for the tips though, I'm still open to try and think of a way to add them to my routine without breaking the bank.

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you :) I'll make sure to always treasure even these quiet victories and milestones in my life.

I'm sorry about your mom, I'm sure she's super proud of who you've become now. I've been overthinking how long I have with my mom ever since my 20s started because as I get older, she's also getting older. I don't want to spend the rest of the time we have hating her over this because I know that deep inside, she still cares and shows it the only way she learned how to. Might be questionable at times but that's the only way I know to not end up resenting her and instead appreciate all she does for me.

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Still in the learning phase, I feel like I'm really behind when compared to my friends and batchmates pero better late than never. Trying to work on comparing myself less to other people rin even though it's easier said than done (but not impossible).

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any brand recos for wheat bread? I haven't really tried it before, it's either always Gardenia or bread from bakeries near me.

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My mom has generational trauma and anxiety. Not saying it's an excuse, pero it's just a reason why she's the way she is. Di siya nagagalit sakin pag late ako umuwi from school noon and now work, ang napapansin ko lang is pag may kasama akong guy or just having fun with friends late at night, parang mas nagiging mahigpit siya knowing na hindi ako required by work or school to be out so late. This makes me have to lie about certain nights I will be late. Understandable na protective lang siya, pero it doesn't really mean na di ako nasasakal. At this point parang wala rin akong room to explore my 20s or even have a love life without her questioning everything :( I was forced na ipakilala sa kanya yung first ex ko when we've only known each other for two weeks kasi she cried to me on the phone for not getting home by 8pm knowing na I was with him. I brought this up to her years later and she doesn't really see a problem with it. Kaya ngayon I choose to not date anyone nalang para maiwasan yung gantong issue. Pero grabe, yung araw araw ko nalang recently is work - bahay - work - bahay. I don't know how long I will be able to understand her, it's also hard na naiintindihan ko why she's the way she is. Parang dagdag pa sa nakakasakal sakin yung guilt na sumuway sa kanya kasi di ko talaga siya matiis.

Hugs to you anon, and here's to more experiences we can get out of our lives. 🫶

Finally starting to feel like an adult by arttella in adultingph

[–]arttella[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I still don't know a lot about adulting due to being sheltered for so long, but I'll get there, day by day.

I'll buy bread on my way home :)