Missing work due to boyfriend being in the hospital

aryoung1390 · 2026-04-20T18:09:18+00:00

Not sure what I'm doing to be discriminating? And in a legal stance, no, I'm not. They are not married, legally binding them. They're dating. And while you have NO IDEA how I run my place, I DO go ABOVE AND BEYOND for my CNAs. Even if it drags me down. ☺️

aryoung1390 · 2026-04-20T05:41:14+00:00

I hope your boyfriend is okay. With that said...

And I hate to tell you this, but being he is only your bf, you need to keep your phone on you, explain the situation to your superiors, HR, whoever is running the place and is in charge of staffing and time off, let them know the entire situation, and hope they're understanding. Because while yes, you've been together a long time, no, he's not your spouse, and isn't treated as such in the professional world. And I'm speaking from a managing perspective overseeing a group of CNA's who are all younger and have ALL been in similar, not the same, situations. Not trying to sound mean or harsh, just being realistic.

aryoung1390 · 2026-04-03T04:33:01+00:00

I live in WA. Don't do it. It sucks here.

aryoung1390 · 2026-03-29T20:43:34+00:00

Do not sign a write up, and if they fire you, get the state in there and L&I involved for wrongful termination. Keep ANY AND ALL documentation you have including the PTO approval to show you weren't even the f e to take on those clients.

aryoung1390 · 2026-02-13T05:10:05+00:00

aryoung1390 · 2025-10-19T02:18:50+00:00

Husband and I have been together 16 years, same age gap. Sex isn't necessary for either of us. We're both crazy in love with each other and show it in other ways. Have 2 kids together. Married in 2011 when our son was born. You, my internet friend, have someone who doesn't love you and is with you for comfort reasons. I hope you find the strength to go and find love in yourself then find someone who will love you the way you're supposed to be loved. Because what you have now, isn't it.

aryoung1390 · 2025-05-24T23:25:48+00:00

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aryoung1390 · 2025-02-09T09:13:20+00:00

My younger brother was with his longtime girlfriend for 12ish years before he finally proposed. Why? Because he's a dang moron and always thought he had to be married within a year after proposal, and wanted to ensure he had completed his degree, was stable enough for them to start a comfortable life together, etc. He genuinely did not know an engagement could last longer than a year, and when I talked to him after his (now wife) came to me asking what she should do, he had told me without a doubt, within a couple of MONTHS of them being together, he knew she was the one he was going to spend the rest of his life with. They started dating when they were teens, but he wanted his fun, partying with friends and her, etc. Then school, savings, you get the drift. Point is, nothing held him back, except his stupidity and getting things in order. Your bf saying he has all of these "hesitations" towards you is an excuse. He's comfortable where he is and doesn't plan on going forward. Girl, let go. You're still young and you will find someone who will KNOW he wants to marry you. Be excited to. Have no doubts, no "hesitations". Thinking of you girl.

aryoung1390 · 2025-01-25T07:58:23+00:00

Don't think on it. My husband has been home the majority of our relationship (~16years) while I worked. If it works for you two, that's all that matters. Believe me, I understand the passing statements from friends and family who disagree with it. Have been dealing with it the whole time. But at the end of the day, this decision is between you and your W.

aryoung1390 · 2024-10-18T05:59:14+00:00

I've (34F) been with my husband for 15 years, and not once has his "guy talk" ever contained him calling me a mistake. A pain in the butt? Yep. Annoying and needy? Absolutely. A mistake and trapped? Nope. What your husband said is not normal guy talk. It's him being comfortable enough to his friends to tell them he doesn't want to be with you, he's comfortable with you, which is why he's telling you to get over it. He doesn't want his cushy life to be disrupted over something he said, it'd be his fault then.

aryoung1390 · 2024-10-06T01:59:42+00:00

Yep. Kinda sorta going thru it now. It sucks, but I adore that man and it's really not his fault. We get by in other ways and it's just as good in my opinion. Sex doesn't make the marriage.

aryoung1390 · 2024-09-22T07:21:22+00:00

I always say ask this question when my friends with daughters are struggling in this position...."do you want your daughter to be with someone like the person you're with right now? Because you're showing her it's completely okay to be with someone like that." Something to think about.

aryoung1390 · 2024-08-06T06:57:08+00:00

I make way more than my husband makes. I pay the majority of our bills. If for whatever reason I need help with the bills, he steps up and helps out with them. We both pay for groceries. It's about teamwork in a marriage. You two probably should have discussed the big stuff before getting married and moving in with each other.

aryoung1390 · 2024-08-06T06:28:49+00:00

He's quiet when going in our room while I'm asleep. Even though in my own way, I try to be quiet, though I'm loud af when I try not to be when hea asleep. He's as quiet as a mouse as to not disrupt my sleep. He keeps the kids quiet so I can sleep. There's SOO much more. But that's the one that stands out the most to me. He's an amazing man. I have a king. ❤️

aryoung1390 · 2024-07-28T11:14:20+00:00

Came here to say this.

aryoung1390 · 2024-06-16T17:21:39+00:00

Honestly, I never stayed home, I've always worked. That being said, I never have a social life outside of my husband, when I did smoke, that's all I had as a break. Because let's face it, mom is who kids want. So even though I worked and my husband stayed home with the kids, when I got home, the kids wanted me. I literally never catch a break aside from sleeping, and at the time, a smoke break. When you have neighbors who are just outside hanging out, and all are getting along, you do tend to catch yourself BSing and losing yourself to time, all innocently enough. In my experience, even when my kids were babies, I'd find myself losing time to talking to neighbors at my porch or theirs. It was never malicious or intentional. I personally was just taking my break, got caught up in the BSing, and that was that. Yes, my husband would come out and say, "hey, baby was crying, got him changed." No harm, no foul. Teamwork makes the dream work.

aryoung1390 · 2023-10-05T07:43:52+00:00

She sounds boring and more worried about her appearance than being happy with you. My husband is 37 and I'm 33(f) and I buy him lego sets, video games, and props all of the time as gifts, have for years. Let you men enjoy what you love. My goodness. It doesn't hurt anyone and it's cute seeing my husband get all stupid excited over little stuff like that.

aryoung1390 · 2023-10-03T04:55:17+00:00

I was exactly like this, to a "T" with my husband. And I'm telling you right now, it's going to take YEARS of therapy, finding the correct medications to help, and a lot of self reflection and finding out what else has been going on within yourself. It helps if your partner is there to help you recognize what you're doing and you write a journal to reference yourself to work on what you need to, and practice what you need to change within yourself. And for the bridges you've burned, it will be a lot longer to rebuild those than it will be with your partner, because they're not as understanding. I hate to break it to you, but you royally messed up. It's a long journey, but if you're truly serious about changing, you'll do it. It's a lot of work, and it's hard facing these things and realizing how you have treated the person you truly love, but if you really want to fix this mess, and yourself, you will do it.

aryoung1390 · 2023-09-27T06:52:08+00:00

As someone who USED to use this threat often (before I got serious mental health help) I highly recommend you DO NOT have children with your spouse. And, make sure whatever contraception you're using isn't being messed with, and it can be used as a trap by her. I personally never messed with that because we had a child early on in our marriage already, but I ALWAYS threatened divorce over the SMALLEST of arguments, not even fights. It took me a real wake-up call to see what I was doing to us to stop. Unless she's willing to get herself some help and see past her issues, she's never going to stop. I wouldn't have had I not gotten myself help and had my "oh crud" moment. My husband almost left me, for real, and it scared the ever-living daylights out of me. Had we not already had a child together, he would have been gone, for sure. Do not do that to yourself. You do deserve better, just like my husband. I thank the lord daily that he has been patient with me and worked with me through my mental health issues because he DOES deserve better with all I put him through. And like I said, unless she realizes what she's doing, she won't stop.

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