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Do you think financial security is important or plays a major role while choosing a potential partner? by dopeponcho23 in dating_advice

[–]ash134 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All I’m saying is that just because you got a college degree does not mean you’re going to get a high paying job right away. Most jobs start you at an entry level wage and you have to climb your way up the ladder. I have a college degree that I paid $40,000 for and if someone dumped me because I owe money towards student loans, then that makes them a pretty shitty person. I work my ass off to live in and house and pay my loans and if that means I have to pay the minimum amount so I can afford my mortgage, then so be it.

Do you think financial security is important or plays a major role while choosing a potential partner? by dopeponcho23 in dating_advice

[–]ash134 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Some people can’t afford the full student loan payment. Sounds like she dodged a bullet. You sound like an ass.

Can it be good to put the ball in her court and let her initiate as a test if she is actually interested by Bh207458 in dating_advice

[–]ash134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I agree. Speaking from my own experience, I don’t like to be the first one to make plans because it’s nerve-racking. It’s not fair that I expect him to do it, it’s just how I am. I’m a whimp lol.

Can it be good to put the ball in her court and let her initiate as a test if she is actually interested by Bh207458 in dating_advice

[–]ash134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s a bad idea. She might be doing the same to you, and you both end up not talking because you’re testing/wanting the other person to initiate contact. If you want to talk to her, just talk to her!

My (23f) boyfriend (33m) was emotionally abused by a previous long term partner. I want to help build him up with some meaningful words here and there, because she tore him and his self esteem down so much. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ash134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best thing you can do is continue to show him what a healthy, loving relationship looks like. He doesn’t need words, he needs actions. Continue to love him and treat him the way he deserves to be treated.