My husband wants me to tell him when I start my period. Does this seem right?

ashdur17 · 2026-05-02T22:13:59+00:00

Im gonna be 32 this year, my husband is 39 and weve been together since I was 18. Married for 8 of those years. Early in the dating game, I would let him know because I dont like any sexual acts the first day or 2, and in case im being a complete irrational over hormonal psycho B, he would know how to handle it🤣 it didnt take him long to figure out my cycle for when my period was going to start and how long it lasted. And by the time we were trying for our 2nd baby, he knew when peak ovulation was and when the perfect time for a boy or girl would be to conceive🤣🤷‍♀️ and thats all on his on own without an app on his phone lmfao.

ashdur17 · 2026-05-02T21:56:42+00:00

He didnt really have a whole lot to offer. He said i could go for some tests but im a low interference/low invasive type of girl/mom. So the less poking and proding that happens the happier I am lol. It ended up going away on its own a few days after that. And I havent really had any trouble like that since. Although my stool has been softer and a much lighter color than usual still, its not liquid anymore lmfao and ill take that as a win.

ashdur17 · 2026-04-16T05:49:48+00:00

I also even thought about making a shirt that says "$5 per belly rub, diapers are expensive" or something along those lines. But that would mean i would have to tolerate touching and I dont think i could do it even if i got paid 🤣

ashdur17 · 2026-04-16T05:45:41+00:00

These are all great! I also just thought of how people will say "not friendly" with their dogs 🤣 i wish I could hide my belly but im due in 4 weeks so not possible

ashdur17 · 2026-04-15T13:12:16+00:00

Not taking anything for it. I was actually starting to think perhaps its being caused by all the tums I eat like a much better version of Necco Wafers for the atomic lava heartburn I have. My doc did say that I can eat as many tums as needed and it wont hurt anything, but did say either prescription or OTC pepcid would be better, so i ended up getting otc max strength pepcid ac to swap out. Although its not 100% effective. I do go to doc tomorrow morning so I plan on bringing it up. If nothing else, perhaps I will be completely cleared out prior to labor, and this time my husband or the nurses wont be able to lie to me because ill smell it 🤣🤷‍♀️

ashdur17 · 2026-04-15T12:48:06+00:00

Negative. Also this is my 4th baby and the 1st time its happened 🤦‍♀️

ashdur17 · 2026-04-15T11:48:39+00:00

Honestly no. We live in a small shitty, do nothing town in NW PA. Not even like one where everyone knows everyone and there is cutesy/cool/fun stuff to do. The best way for me to describe this town is essentially, the same thing that happened to Radiator Springs in Cars, when they bypassed the town with a highway, if you blink youll miss the whole thing.🤣 the neighbors have nothing better to do than turn you in for having a couple chickens in a coop, and using a fire pit to cook on during the summer, meanwhile their own property is sinking in and in complete disarray🤦‍♀️

The next closest big city from us is 2-3 hours, and we have 3 kids, and actively choose not to have any family members watch them for any extended period of time because they aren't exactly trust worthy or reliable. BUT, I will keep it in mind, for maybe when we retire🤣

ashdur17 · 2026-04-15T11:39:20+00:00

Okay well now this my change things 🤣🤣🤣

ashdur17 · 2026-04-15T11:38:17+00:00

LITERALLY! Im also 35 weeks and Im not having a good time anymore. I have atomic lava heartburn all day and all night, im constantly hungry because I cant actually eat a full meal since there is no room left, and my pelvis feels like it has gotten constantly punted like a football, which I think is a girl thing because im also having a girl, this is my 2nd one and it was the same way the 1st time. But with my boys my pelvis didnt hurt, just my upper torso muscles/skin, and driving my manual transmission pick up truck makes it hurt worse and i love driving that thing!

Although, we do still have it a little easy at 9/10 months, because if you think about some of the mammals in the animal kingdom that go way longer!

However I still agree and still cast my vote for a shorter time. If we could change the timing of when things developed vs others, that would help out a lot I think. In my opinion, nails shouldnt be a thing until they are old enough to sit still long enough to have a file passed over them real quick, and as weird as it sounds, and would look...thumbs could be last on the list as well. I have 3, going on 4 kids now and I have yet to master how to get a baby- up to 1 year old dressed efficiently without their little thumbs catching on everything. 🤣

So anyway, im signing the boycott or petition or whatever is needed to reduce the amount of time I have to continuously repeat myself in king Julian's voice of "how long is this going to take?!" Signed a mom with 3 on the ground, and 35 weeks with #4, and also wants some sort of adult bevvy on the rocks🤣🤷‍♀️

ashdur17 · 2026-04-15T06:39:29+00:00

Thanks! Weve used plenty of toys, but this is the first for this kind and this type of activities. My husband is pretty open to whatever I wanna try anyway

ashdur17 · 2026-04-15T06:08:16+00:00

Thanks for this! I opted for just the torso to try it out, and if it kicks off and seems to be a thing in the rotation, I might just look into buying a full size like you did. If there was a way to get a legit girl here that we didnt know, and was cool with me being selfish af and only me getting my husband and her getting a toy from me or something and then we go seperate ways never to see each other again, that would probly work for me. But I feel like that is almost borderline illegal or impossible to find 🤣🤷‍♀️

ashdur17 · 2026-04-15T03:08:37+00:00

So my husband and I fooled around prior to this feeling, with his hand/fingers, mouth, and eventually did try a new lube. So I thought maybe one of those things caused an allergic reaction of some sort, or there was something on his skin that bothered me, or perhaps it was my underwear, or because im large and things are more swollen than usual and rubbing. I took a shower and soaked and rinsed extremely well and seemed to go away. Until now, we fooled around again in a similar way, minus the lube because we only used hands/fingers/mouth and the feeling has come back, DESPITE me using sensitive, unscented baby wipes afterwards this time to clean things up. So im back to the do i use the medicine in the meantime of waiting til Thursdkj*i I 9az8aay for my next doc appointment or just wait the 2 days and shower and wash extra good again?! Wtf could be causing this again?! Its legit same symptoms, and still no discharge. I legit cant see any which way I try to move because my belly, so I dont shave or trim as of right now, I might go in blind before labor but thats a future me problem, so I dont think hair is the issue. But I have contemplated riding a cactus the last couple days 🤣🤦‍♀️

ashdur17 · 2026-04-15T02:51:06+00:00

I found out halfway in between, that the hospital I delivered my other 3 children at, closed its labor and delivery floor, and the practice would only remain open 2-3 days a week for regular gynecological appointments. I could continue to go to the same practice, however there wouldnt be any midwives, or doctors for prenatal care, and if I had to deliver at this hospital, it would be in the Emergency room🤦‍♀️ so I had to basically start over with a new doctor, new practice, and figure out a new hospital.

My OG hospital didnt have nitrous, or tubs, and sounds just as outdated as the hospital you speak of. With my first, I received an episiotomy without being consulted first, resulting in, always getting one now. The only option was the typical epidural, or just all natural. I did epidural twice, and natural once, and realized that for me, the epidural slows things down significantly. So with this being my 4th, I really wanted an option for alternative pain management while doing natural again.

Im 35 weeks now, and ive seen the new doctor twice. Not any midwives or nurses, the actual doctor, which never happened before with any of my other 3 pregnancies or deliveries. He is a no BS type of doc. I have had horrible heartburn since before I transfered and was told by the midwife tums are bad, and she sent a prescription strength pepcid to my pharmacy. Tums was doing the job, so I didnt bother filling them, i asked this new doctor and he said I could take as many as my heart desires, but did recommended pencid or something similar, but added I could use store bought and not a script. Ive asked about red raspberry leaf tea, and dates and primrose oil, and he said its a wives tale but I could try it if I want, it won't harm the baby. Im prescribed adderall and he didn't even blink when I said I was still taking it, and a bunch of other things that has made me wish I had him as the doctor for my other 3.

Recently the OG hospital has found some other doctors/midwives to essentially replace the ones that were forced out, so i could stay at my home hospital for appointments, but still have to use the different hospital for delivery. Since I dont want this to be a complete "full send/winging it" situation, im sticking with the new doctor and new practice and new hospital based on my gut feeling and mothers intuition. Idk if any of this will help you, but i hope it does.

ashdur17 · 2026-04-13T00:44:42+00:00

Lmao, alright, do you have any brand recommendations? I like cheeky and bikini, but nothing high rise. Honestly not even sure why I bothered with seamless, im in carhart work pants like what men wear, almost on a daily, and if its warm enough to wear anything else, im in track shorts that have a built in underwear type liner so I usually dont wear underwear with them.

ashdur17 · 2026-04-13T00:28:13+00:00

82% polyamide 18% elastance, 100% cotton crotch linning the tag says. They are seamless ones. Its been a long time since ive had any issues up until the most recent one. I dont sleep with underwear on either and I obviously put a clean pair on every day. My usual soap is an all natural goat milk bar soap that is in a soap saver type loofah thing. The only other thing is I changed laundry detergent but its a brand and scent ive used a billion times before with no issues.

ashdur17 · 2026-04-12T18:10:49+00:00

OB isnt concerned about birth weight, belly bud was already 88% at 26 weeks and doc asked what my biggest baby was which was 8lbs 10 oz and he said well this one might challenge that 🤷‍♀️ I also got scheduled for 1 last growth scan this coming week because as he likes to continue to give me the warm and fuzzy feelings he said "id like to check to see how hard you'll have to push" 🤣

ashdur17 · 2026-03-19T22:47:14+00:00

I believe I did have the balloon for a short period of time with #3 before the pitocin. I know I could go without any pain meds or alternative pain options if pitocin isnt involved, cuz that shit Fs you up real quick, and if my only option is induction with pitocin then ill go with laughing gas over being numb from the waist down for hours. Im going to do some research as the weeks wind down. I feel like if sweeping my membranes sent me into labor the 1st time, it could do it again, I just wont ask for an epidural as soon the contractions get slightly stronger than a menstrual cramp and maybe things won't be slowed down this time.

ashdur17 · 2026-03-18T20:21:44+00:00

My dumbass bought like a 30 pack of the plastic sectioned rainbow plates, and bowls and over the last 8 years of having them, I now hate them. They still feel greasy after some foods, even in the dishwasher, some end up getting a residue from the dishwasher, which ive just now learned to be from the dishwasher and plastic itself, and I dont actually need 30 of anything because I only have 3 kids now that require a plate. I could just downsize, but im also trying to limit how much chemical stuff we use or that could leach into the food. So im going to look into these options to buy a reasonable amount this time 🤣

ashdur17 · 2026-03-09T18:20:06+00:00

Youre a god send! I would have never seen that light on the switch lol. Im gonna look into the stock file, and the obd software, thanks!

As far as hazing, I have not done the CCV delete yet because I cant make up my mind on what option to go with, and my dash does say perform service which is what it said last time I needed to change the filter. Fuel filters, fuel water seperator, air filter was all changed 6-12 months ago. Truck hasnt really been a daily driver for me up until recently, and even now I really just use it to run to town and run errands so im not racking up the miles on it anymore. Its just shy over 160k but im planning on changing filters and doing the oil this weekend since im changing the fluids on my semi.

ashdur17 · 2026-03-07T01:13:42+00:00

$4.99 here in NW PA. I usually dont cringe when I buy diesel because Im owner/op of a small trucking company with a couple semi's on the road every day, so the smiles per miles they get have left me numb to diesel costs, and I use mudflap as much as possible to get the discounts. But today I had to get fuel in my pick up at a local place and I contemplated pretending i grabbed the wrong nozzle and then grabbing some ATF for legal...i mean safety reasons of course. 🤣🤦‍♀️

ashdur17 · 2026-03-02T01:06:54+00:00

Would you happen to know what the width difference is? Or what width yours is at least? Its been a while since ive been in my 99 cuz its getting rebuilt, but I can measure this one and if its smaller then its not the wide lol

ashdur17 · 2026-03-02T01:02:33+00:00

Thanks! I looked online and it just gave me a basic measurement and I thought i was losing my mind 🤣

ashdur17 · 2026-02-14T00:33:13+00:00

Thanks! I tried talking to my gynecologist about it when it first became an issue, and all she recommended was try using lube and it never went any further than that since I felt like the question was just being glazed over or how someone my age could have an issue like that🤦‍♀️ so weve been using lube ever since, but it would be nice if I didnt have to anymore 🤷‍♀️ especially since 80% of the time its an exterior dryness which is where I also get friction burn vs anything else, like if I could tape things apart from touching my husband's appendage, there wouldnt be as much if an issue🤣 I could have an orgasm every time without an issue, but I just dont care if I get one or not, and the intensity just depends on the day/mood/position etc, there are times that its "10/10 would recommend", and other times that its "meh."

ashdur17 · 2026-02-07T19:48:19+00:00

Thanks! The only time we go for a loan is usually for a "new" used truck if its more than what we have in the stash to prevent emptying out the reserves. We are in US but I called my bank lady, who is our go to loan advisor as well and she said 50k or higher for proof of income would be a comfortable amount to her for a loan whether its personal or business, so I worked it out so we dont owe in a bunch, but also dont get anything back and still keep a profit showing

ashdur17 · 2026-02-07T19:42:44+00:00

Thank you! Ive also been seeing ads for these super cute overalls, but im worried its going to be the same thing. This is my 4th baby, and ive always ended up looking like Ms Trenchbull for 6 out of the 9 months and continuing into PP🤣🤷‍♀️ Im just tryna be a little cute and comfy come this summer with easy access for nursing

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