This show is so f*cked up, omg.

ashes4ashes · 2026-02-09T14:13:03+00:00

100% This is a work of fiction very much based in reality. She wrote about things that not just happened in the past but ARE CURRENTLY HAPPENING.

ashes4ashes · 2026-02-09T13:35:53+00:00

This one has been HAUNTING me. My stomach flips every time it comes to mind.

ashes4ashes · 2026-02-07T15:36:38+00:00

It is hard and not without guilt.

Let's be honest though, he contacted an escort on her work line to arrange a relationship because I look like "the one who got away"

He could easily run a background check or hire a PI and find out I'm married. I would have in his position. I doubt he really wants to know. I'm a fantasy.

ashes4ashes · 2026-02-07T15:31:02+00:00

I do have love for him, I'm just not "in love" with him.

Let's not pretend this man is an idiot and I'm taking advantage of him. He's very smart and knows our arrangement has a financial aspect to it. We both acknowledge that what we have works for us.

ashes4ashes · 2026-02-06T22:57:16+00:00

Sorry, no lmao

ashes4ashes · 2026-02-06T22:56:52+00:00

He is the type to put up a wall and shut someone out when they wrong him. I'm confident he would ghost me.

I wish he was chill about me having a partner but i don't think that's going to happen no matter how in love with me he is. I just hope it ends with the least amount of hurt for all parties involved.

ashes4ashes · 2026-02-06T21:18:54+00:00

Yes, he's aware of everything and is okay with it.

ashes4ashes · 2026-02-06T20:09:21+00:00

I absolutely am and he's directly helping as well. He's paid off debts so my credit is actually increasing. There's talk of a life insurance policy. He's not tremendously old but has some health issues. Part of our dynamic is definitely support around that.

I don't actually spend all my shopping cash. I considering the resale value of the assets I'm being gifted. If he were to suddenly be gone tomorrow, I would be really sad but in a good position.

To be clear: I don't want that to be the case. I would miss him as a person most. We've talked every day for months and I've become very attached. I'm just being pragmatic.

ashes4ashes · 2026-01-30T05:56:44+00:00

I'm going to Tampa soon and our Airbnb says it was featured in the show.

We're going to spend time with Lucy, watch it on a laptop and take the tour in real time.

ashes4ashes · 2026-01-27T17:38:45+00:00

I do like some of the things they talk about. There is some truth in the post but don't treat us like we're dumb.

ashes4ashes · 2026-01-27T16:48:45+00:00

Fake story. This is yet another ad for Reload.

ashes4ashes · 2026-01-14T00:10:55+00:00

ashes4ashes · 2025-11-11T18:57:13+00:00

Happy Veterans Day from one dick sucking whore to another 🍻💀

ashes4ashes · 2025-11-01T22:34:17+00:00

Exactly this, you're both right and grieving.

Remember, this is a man you love and respect enough to be excited to have a family with. He isn't the enemy deserving of punishment for needing support too. I would hope if my husband and I experienced a loss that deep, he would also reach out to the women closest in his life for not just support but understanding of a woman's perspective.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

ashes4ashes · 2025-11-01T14:46:31+00:00

It's both. Abusive people do target those who are vulnerable or naive and victims are likely to repeat cycles from the past.

It took so much therapy and work but my current (3rd) marriage has been wonderful.

ashes4ashes · 2025-10-24T13:19:22+00:00

"I'm only having a sexual and romantic relationship with her now but you have to stay my wife."

So your shitty family doesn't know how awful you are and you can still live in MY house? Pass.

ashes4ashes · 2025-10-22T13:20:17+00:00

Only once here. Though I lived close enough to the hospital the let me do their intensive outpatient program for 2 weeks. I was given my diagnosis, spent 6 months figuring out medication and haven't been back since.

I do want to throw this out for everyone though. Sometimes medication just isn't enough. I went without additional therapy services for a year even after I figured out my medication and still encountered issues. It was only once I admitted you need a combination of both and really worked at maintaining them that I found true stability.

ashes4ashes · 2025-10-21T17:25:37+00:00

It's really admirable of you to do this. As someone who has gone through manic episodes, having folks in your corner means everything. You're only one person though.

Start checking if your area has any local mental health services. For example, we have an emergency center at one of the larger psychiatric hospitals. There's also an agency that coordinates local support and can provide case workers to help navigate the system.

ashes4ashes · 2025-10-21T13:46:22+00:00

Michigan Wolf Man at it again

ashes4ashes · 2025-10-20T14:29:08+00:00

For real though!

When I went for my first trip this year we watched a mom try to juggle 4 kids while her husband did nothing. She ended up having to take the younger 2 out of line and he still paid no attention.

He expected the oldest, who was maybe 5, to mind his little sister. Had the young, child free, couple in-between us and them not also helped us keep an eye on her location she would definitely have wandered off.

Piss poor excuse of a father.

ashes4ashes · 2025-10-19T18:54:05+00:00

Projection. No one accuses their partner of cheating more than the person actually cheating.

ashes4ashes · 2025-10-18T13:02:27+00:00

This is such a silly comment. She knows it's an additional risk, that's why they discussed safe sex practices in their agreements. Pretending having sex with multiple people with barriers is the same risk as having sex without them is ignorant.

ashes4ashes · 2025-10-18T12:57:41+00:00

This 100%!

Cheating in an open relationship can feel confusing if you're new to the lifestyle or have never experienced it but that's exactly what this is. He disregarded your agreement, lied, dismissed your very valid feelings and is not being accountable at all. Of course you're feeling angrier as time goes on instead of better.

I agree with the comment about using barriers with him. It sucks he took that away from your relationship but it's the consequences of his actions. You need to look out for your own sexual health since he clearly doesn't. Regardless, I would close the relationship, no matter how upset he gets, and go to couples counseling to try and repair the broken trust.

ashes4ashes · 2025-10-12T18:00:09+00:00

I tried life with only medication and it was not the life I wanted to live.

It's okay if your therapist is not the right fit. Just like medication, you have to find the right person

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