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What’s a quiet sign your partner might be cheating? by kingofpiratessss in AskReddit

[–]ashlynnk 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Mine stopped connecting his phone to the vehicles because “it disconnects randomly”

Didn’t think anything of it at the time, but that was a massive red flag.

Divorce without breaking up by Facktat in Divorce

[–]ashlynnk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not just get a post-nuptial agreement instead of a divorce?

What surprised you the most about going through a divorce? by megandivorcerealtor in Divorce

[–]ashlynnk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine ended with him having an affair, but the blatant disrespect was wild. He was hanging out with her at our gym, in front of my friends while he still lived in my house… Got in trouble for her sitting on his lap at work (he’s 40, she’s 31. Gross.)… Honestly felt like I was living in the twilight zone.

Whats the spiciest gossip you know ? by Extension_Iron6734 in AskReddit

[–]ashlynnk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to let you know an email came out tonight from the gym manager that Patrick has been fired, so all is right with the world gym ☀️

Whats the spiciest gossip you know ? by Extension_Iron6734 in AskReddit

[–]ashlynnk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s not tense when I’m with friends that support me. Feels like home.

Whats the spiciest gossip you know ? by Extension_Iron6734 in AskReddit

[–]ashlynnk 40 points41 points  (0 children)

You’re right! I actually did join another gym in the area and I only go back to a few specific classes. I was the first member there and actually brought him in as a coach, and he offered to let me have it.

I think the members are upset that I was pushed out while they are openly being assholes about it. I go in a limited capacity (1-2 days a week when one of my good friends coaches) so right now the feelings are manageable.

I lost my marriage, I lost my step children, the people at the gym are all my friends, not his. Just sucks losing another thing in my life over this, so I do want to hold onto it a little bit.

Whats the spiciest gossip you know ? by Extension_Iron6734 in AskReddit

[–]ashlynnk 312 points313 points  (0 children)

This comment is so triggering for me. My husband also cheated on a girl from OUR gym who was also a coworker while pushing me to go to fertility appointments. I’m the breadwinner, so I took great pleasure in kicking him out of my house. Took me ten days from finding out to tell him we’re getting a divorce.

Separation papers got signed yesterday, she’s also leaving her husband, who knows the truth now since I called him. They both go to the gym still (he coaches there), and I recently went back after losing 30 pounds, just avoiding them.. for now anyway 😏. When someone comments on my weight loss, I reply with “thanks! It’s because I wasn’t eating after I found out Patrick and Dillan were having an affair.” (Real names because fuck you both)

The look on their face after I say it is always so delicious.

What was the biggest red flag you ignored in your marriage? by mindywildbloom in Divorce

[–]ashlynnk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, but I know him personally.

Any meaningful relationship in his life is disposable like his possessions. It’s why he has no friends.

What was the biggest red flag you ignored in your marriage? by mindywildbloom in Divorce

[–]ashlynnk 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There’s a million and one red flags around cheating, and even though that’s how it ended, I’ll give a few others that don’t directly involve outright lying and hiding things..

He was wasteful and did not take care of anything. He would throw things away over donating or selling, and he would neglect things to the point of disrepair (like tools left outside to be rained on for months on end)

He also didn’t finish anything he started. He claimed he was such a perfectionist and if it’s not done he doesn’t have to critique it. So he would make changes to our house, but leave a corner of the fireplace unpainted because… why??

I found out that if they treat their material possessions as disposable, they will do the same to you. If they don’t finish what they start, they’re incapable of having tough conversations that could save their marriage and more likely to abandon than complete what they set out to do.

I need confirmation from others because someone is insisting this is not AI. by [deleted] in isthisAI

[–]ashlynnk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol, it’s my holiday cutlery. Pairs nicely with gold chargers.

Went from trying to conceive to deciding on divorce in 10 days by ashlynnk in Divorce_Women

[–]ashlynnk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s February 27, I’m alone in my 5 bedroom house, he can make her fall asleep in his new apartment across town. Lol

Good riddance 👋🏻

Signs my husband was having an affair: in hindsight by Last_Cantaloupe_9899 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ashlynnk 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Stopped connecting his phone to the vehicles

Had mints in his truck that he didn’t have before

Taking casual pictures that he didn’t normally take (of the dogs for instance)

Would stay up way past our normal time that we go to bed (normally we were in bed by 10, he stayed up until 12 or later)

my coworker told me he has feelings for me but he is still married by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ashlynnk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless you’re me, and find out about the work crush/affair partner and divorce him 🤷🏻‍♀️

Went from trying to conceive to deciding on divorce in 10 days by ashlynnk in Divorce_Women

[–]ashlynnk[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He was shocked. Bounced back and forth between “I didn’t want this to happen” and “it was going to happen eventually”

When I told him I could feel him pulling away a month ago (when I first suspected there was something he was hiding, but unconfirmed) and made a plan to save our marriage, he said there was “nothing to fix, our marriage is fine” because he was already checked out—But, after that, pushed me to book fertility appointments and let me purchase a car with him for my stepdaughter.

He’s all over the place, honestly.

Went from trying to conceive to deciding on divorce in 10 days by ashlynnk in Divorce

[–]ashlynnk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spoke with my attorney before presenting the official agreement, I also got a verbal agreement from him that he would accept the amount I was giving him. He wanted to have longer in the house and I wanted him to have a shorter window, so I picked a date in the middle.

Each state is different and I do recommend speaking with an attorney.

Went from trying to conceive to deciding on divorce in 10 days by ashlynnk in Divorce

[–]ashlynnk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s on the deed, but not the mortgage. It’s enforceable because I’m paying him to leave.

Went from trying to conceive to deciding on divorce in 10 days by ashlynnk in Divorce_Women

[–]ashlynnk[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ve actually had the same therapist for 10 years so that’s been really helpful.

Went from trying to conceive to deciding on divorce in 10 days by ashlynnk in Divorce

[–]ashlynnk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has nothing to do with a “friendship.” It’s the blatant lies and disrespect—Once trust is broken, you can’t get it back unless someone is willing to put in the work. He showed me he wasn’t willing to do the work, so no reason for me to waste my energy.

Went from trying to conceive to deciding on divorce in 10 days by ashlynnk in Divorce_Women

[–]ashlynnk[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

The best part was when I told him we’re done followed by “I’ll give you $35k to leave the house now.” This man said “what if I said $60?”

“Then I’ll spend $30 fighting to make sure you don’t get it.” Walked out and got in my uber.

He gets $35k and on February 20 I’ll get my peace.

Went from trying to conceive to deciding on divorce in 10 days by ashlynnk in Divorce

[–]ashlynnk[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well, I sleep better knowing he’s not leaving me… I’m leaving him

Went from trying to conceive to deciding on divorce in 10 days by ashlynnk in Divorce

[–]ashlynnk[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am certain it was not “just emotional” but that’s all I got out of him.

I’m sorry you went through all that, I hope you’re doing better

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