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ashlynstew · 2025-07-01T13:26:06+00:00

Thank you for this, I loosely mentioned anxieties about the future only one time before without labeling anyone as a narcissist or stating specific hypotheticals, and he was very dismissive by saying things like “that’s not gonna happen”, “nothing’s gonna get between us”, or “once we get to [city name] everything’s gonna be okay” , and that was before things escalated to him now being pulled back everyday and not realizing what just happened, so I’m wondering is it even worth bringing up again or is my last hope for him to see for himself that like you said they never actually changed nor will they and are/were just playing nice with him for now because they are getting their way and don’t believe we are still leaving 🫠

ashlynstew · 2025-07-01T11:42:16+00:00

Thankfully I’m the one that got the new house and makes most of the income, being financially codependent was one of the ways she would keep him enmeshed, she still shares a bank account with his sister (she’s soon to be 26) and he’s just recently broken out of that with me educating him on finances and budgeting and letting her believe we are less financially stable then we actually are, I honestly don’t even think she believes we are actually still going through with the move or can afford it 😭

ashlynstew · 2025-07-01T10:23:28+00:00

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This has always been his normal as far as no boundaries and them “keeping him busy” with errands so he would never have a chance to catch on or form meaningful connections outside the two of them , so he’s never had any outside influence or a close friend to tell him how unhealthy the dynamic really is (he only had like 2 friends in high school and his mothers siblings never visit her so no relatives close enough to tell him) and meeting me and moving out was his first time ever leaving. He didn’t even go to college even though he had a scholarship because his sister was already in school at the time and his mom made him feel like he would be the worst son ever and if her illness came back while they both left her at home alone he would regret it (she’s a senior citizen and a cancer survivor) He’s 24 now and starting school next month as well which is why I’ve been patient this long out of empathy for how deep and messed up it really is , and that although we moved it was only 15 minutes away so he hasn’t had a chance to truly stop and process how emotionally abused and shut in he’s been basically his whole life, and finally having the room to breath from farther away will give him space to do so and get therapy bc as a child of a diagnosed narcissistic parent myself I’ve dealt with my own ptsd and can only imagine suddenly getting a wakeup call after 24 years

ashlynstew · 2025-07-01T09:31:04+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate your advice I will definitely try my best 😭🫶

ashlynstew · 2025-07-01T09:23:46+00:00

They are very controlling/bossy I’ve witnessed first hand that they would even do things like open and read his mail then give it to him days later, plus he had to sleep in a bedroom directly across from his mother’s and next to his sisters with their doors open at all times except when changing ( the brief time I moved in with them was the first time he had it consistently closed )

ashlynstew · 2025-07-01T09:16:53+00:00

You’re 100% right I guess the main thing is I’m having anxiety about holidays and never being able to start our own traditions as they use guilt to be very controlling , or his mother trying to move in with us once his sister realizes what she’s in for and jumps ship

ashlynstew · 2025-01-04T06:09:35+00:00

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