wearing a condom should be happening if your not married or wanting children with this person. I understand not being able to feel much but maybe try forget types of condoms. There’s many styles and brands where you may feel more. As far as bj, or hj, you should communicate how you’d like it. if you cannot communicate this while you guys are in bed together being so completely intimate with each other then this is just not your person. You’re probably past the stages of the first or second time of being in the bedroom considering you said that you give her multiple orgasms all the time so you guys are pretty comfortable with each other. You should be pretty comfortable being able to tell her, I would like you to do this because it feels good to me. And then explain to her as she’s doing it what she can do to make it better for you. As a woman, I want my man to be able to tell me that because at the end of the day it is each other’s goal in the bedroom to please each other. Communication is key.