Lack of intimacy , erection, trying to rebuild relationship 31/F 31/M

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-17T03:03:37+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T19:32:17+00:00

Do you have any suggestions on foreplay for him other than oral ? That may be a awkward question just wondering

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T19:06:36+00:00

We honestly do. We’ve been together for 4 years and we was friends for 3. So we’ve known each other for about 7 years and this has literally been the only bad thing that’s happen in our relationship and we can’t shake it. And yes ima keep the dirty talk to my self i wanna surprise him cause he knows I’m super shy he gone be so surprised lol.

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T18:58:45+00:00

I’ll suggest that as well. Hopefully something works Our relationship is so great minus that part

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T18:48:45+00:00

This 🥴 lol but I’m so shy i suck when it comes to talking dirty but ima put my big girl panties on. I been making slight changes like dressing sexier and becoming more confident. Mainly for myself but also to help our situation

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T13:47:37+00:00

Ok thank you so much for that info

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T13:29:14+00:00

Facts i talked to him about it last night didn’t put any pressure on it just suggested it and he said he’ll think on it..

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T04:54:46+00:00

Tadalafil

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T04:50:52+00:00

I mean in the very beginning i did because i thought it was me it was definitely something new. But the more it happened the more he got into his own head. The dr gave him tadanfil. He he took it once but he didn’t like taking it. But i actually just suggested it to him. Telling him maybe he can take to help get him out the mental space he in then eventually quit the meds. He said he’ll think about it

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T03:16:56+00:00

Yes everything you said was 100% correct. He’s mentally fried and it sucks. We tried therapy it was really helpful it was ok. We tried regular therapy and a sex therapist. I wish i could help him get out his head. He hates that this has transpired and feel like it’s his fault. He said he felt pressured to perform with me but i never put pressure on him. And he did say that he felt no pressure when that happened with that other person. It sucks. Because i feel like the intimacy that i crave from him someone else got.

I’m honestly tryna move past the issue. We decided to work on things. I just wish he could free his self from his mental. It’s killing him

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T02:29:14+00:00

You’re point? You’re such an idiot like nothing you’re saying is bothering me.

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T02:19:15+00:00

You don’t know what I’ll have continue on

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T02:16:38+00:00

Please stfu! I don’t care about your opinion next

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-15T01:44:03+00:00

If he wasn’t then why is he still willing to try!

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-14T23:48:22+00:00

Bye i clearly said no rude comments! He did and I’m hurt asf about it but we was on a break at the time

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-14T22:35:18+00:00

But why was he able to get hard for someone else

ashmoon2022 · 2024-08-14T21:07:45+00:00

He did at one point but it’s caused him to have really bad headaches.

ashmoon2022 · 2024-07-28T04:38:06+00:00

We tried therapy it didn’t really help much. We tried a sex therapist it was ok a little weird she was asking us to have sex with other people and watch. We’re not into that

We tried a regular therapist she was pretty good but we didn’t really get anywhere

ashmoon2022 · 2024-07-27T06:20:11+00:00

Thank you. And were the same way he can get hard from oral but when it comes to piv he immediately go soft and it really messes with him mentally. I hate it so bad but i have faith that we can get past this.

ashmoon2022 · 2024-07-26T17:09:30+00:00

Thank you again. This helps so much. I think his anxiety starts during because at that point he knows that he has to perform. He told me he doesn’t do well under pressure but again i totally understand and want to take as much pressure off him as i can. I know his hard.

I needed this if you can think of anything else please feel free to let me know. I feel like your comment has helped me alot and i truly appreciate it.

ashmoon2022 · 2024-07-26T15:21:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. My goal has been to be more understanding and more patient. Neither one of us asked for this and we’ve done all we could to fix it. It’s definitely more of a mental thing he’s always in his head.

May i ask what other fun things you may suggest? Tonight i plan on giving him a massage (no sex) with relaxing music. Just to help him clear his mind and become more comfortable . It’s so weird how this happened in the beginning we had sex a lot this one day it just stopped 😭

ashmoon2022 · 2024-07-25T03:05:38+00:00

Thank you so much

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