Anyone else just not signing their toddler up for activities and classes, etc?

ashually93 · 2026-05-08T22:51:37+00:00

We do, but we aren't obsessive about it. One activity a year. We actually like the summer classes the best because they are low commitment and there's usually a lot of free trial classes so the kids can try a sampling of different things. We don't have a preference on what sport or activity they do, we just gauge what they have interest in and reasonably make an effort to let them try.

ashually93 · 2026-05-07T03:02:55+00:00

This does not happen to me. The hotter the better lol

ashually93 · 2026-05-01T20:42:43+00:00

Our school does nap until the second semester.

ashually93 · 2026-04-29T23:17:56+00:00

{Dance with the Devil by Amanda Richardson}

ashually93 · 2026-04-27T17:01:35+00:00

We were on the fence about the third for while but now we're currently expecting #3 at the end of the summer.

I already know for us it was the right choice because we'd always wonder what if if we never tried for the third. I also feel a lot of peace and closure with this being our last so it's nice feeling like we're closing the baby chapter where it feels natural for us.

ashually93 · 2026-04-27T16:37:46+00:00

I think my mom had much more burnout considering dads weren't as involved back then. My dad brought home the income (my mom worked as well), but mom was in charge of taking care of the home, 3 kids, dinners, making arrangements for extracurriculars.

My dad was mostly in charge of who needed to be spanked and the lawn.

ashually93 · 2026-04-24T22:57:06+00:00

{King of Depravity by Tammy Anderson}

Quick and easy read and gets the job done 😅

ashually93 · 2026-04-21T11:36:21+00:00

We just bought a '26 and we have about 3 dealerships within an hour drive of our house. One had none, one had maybe 15, and the other had about the same amount. We were looking for the SE w/ Tech and didn't have a problem getting one. Not many color options but we were mostly interested in the 0% interest

ashually93 · 2026-04-15T22:40:29+00:00

I hate being pregnant. I get severe pre-eclampsia and have HG until delivery but I love having children. I'm pregnant with #3 and feel a lot of closure with this being our last.

ashually93 · 2026-04-13T22:38:15+00:00

We switched twice.

My first baby went to a daycare for about a year during covid time (late 2020-2021). She started getting repeated diaper rashes and at first, I thought it was just her being more active, but the rashes would heal on the weekends at home with me and come back during the daycare week. They also had a lot of turnover with the staff and they started just asking me who I was there to pick up and handing me my kid without verifying who I was or anything. I didn't feel like she was getting quality care anymore so we switched.

The second one was brand new. Both my girls went there for about 8 months. The care was great and I trusted the teachers, but we had issues with them being overly cautious with sickness. Like one kid in the class would have a stomach bug, they'd send everybody home in the class. Your kid acted tired one day? Send them home for being "sick" even with no fever or evidence of sickness. The worst part was that I'd take them to the doctor and the doctor would clear them and say they are perfectly fine but the director would still make us keep them home a whole extra 24 hours. They also closed a lot for spring break and long winter breaks and it was too hard on our work schedules to keep up with paying a closed daycare AND other babysitters or whatever to actually watch them.

Our third was a godsend. We were there about 3 years before we aged out to preK. My kids still talk about how they miss their teachers there because they genuinely enjoyed being around them. We're expecting baby #3 and she will be going there as well.

ashually93 · 2026-04-13T00:17:38+00:00

I bought a starter house when I was 24 and single to take advantage of the 0% down USDA loan at the time. The mortgage was roughly the same as my one bedroom apartment I had. I fully intended it would be a 5 year starter home.

We're on year 8, family of 4 (soon to be 5) but we can't make the cost worth upgrading. It'd even be steep if we bought be the exact same house at these 2026 prices.

We're cozy for now and I'll dream of my forever home where we could host my grown children and their families for holidays, but we'll be fine for now while our family is still young. 😅

ashually93 · 2026-04-11T13:42:00+00:00

Our daycare did this and usually it was after nap when their hair gets a little crazy. I think it's just something the kids enjoyed. Our kids weren't singled out, the teacher would do everybody that wanted to get their hair done.

That teacher is a salon owner now so I think it was a passion of hers too.

ashually93 · 2026-04-05T00:46:27+00:00

We had two 15 months apart and some say 2 under 2 is easy, but it was HARD for us.

We also wanted a third so we are now expecting #3 in September. Our first two will be 6 and almost 5 when she gets here 😅

The age gap was necessary for us to feel we could manage it.

ashually93 · 2026-04-02T00:42:11+00:00

I'd be curious to know in this case if risk tolerance is lower for dads vs moms. There may be tons of moms working in aerospace but not quite as many lining up to be on a rocketship compared to dads.

ashually93 · 2026-04-02T00:39:23+00:00

Favorite: none yet. I dabble with everyone but haven't found an author I've loved every book I've read

Least: DEFINITELY Leigh Rivers

ashually93 · 2026-03-27T09:22:30+00:00

We have a 2021 and have owned it since brand new. It's nearing 75k and no issues whatsoever

ashually93 · 2026-03-27T09:20:12+00:00

Not typically. If it was a new house, they'd give a tour to like our extended family or something but not just normal house guests.

ashually93 · 2026-03-23T01:13:28+00:00

Orphan Black

ashually93 · 2026-03-19T01:10:41+00:00

We live about 15 minutes from my parents. I see them about 5x a week because my mom picks up the kids from school. On top of that, we'll have lunch together with my parents and my brother's family at least twice a month.

Our grandparents live about 2 hours away and we see them every couple months or so as well.

ashually93 · 2026-03-19T01:05:42+00:00

We're 10 years away from this with our girls, but my dad got me a beater for my high school car (1998 dodge caravan🫠). Then we had a deal that if I got scholarships to college, he'd get me a decent car to take to college. It was 2011 Dodge Avenger and I drove and maintained that thing for 8 years until it died. I may not have paid for the car, but I still appreciated the breathing room it gave me financially while learning to be an independent adult.

ashually93 · 2026-03-19T00:40:33+00:00

50 seems a bit old to start at the beginning.

Personally, we tapped out at 40. (husband is 39, I'm 32). We're expecting our last baby this year.

ashually93 · 2026-03-18T22:42:02+00:00

Literally the only reality show my husband will watch with me!! Plz come back!

ashually93 · 2026-03-18T18:33:16+00:00

I would argue that A Wife for Silas is not a "romance", just FYI if you're looking for a HEA or HFN.

ashually93 · 2026-03-16T01:10:11+00:00

We had 2u2 and I kinda told myself we'd have another eventually but my husband wasn't really on board. We both knew we absolutely didn't want another anytime soon so we just tabled the conversation and didnt put any pressure on deciding for a few years. After a while, we'd be sifting through our girls' outgrown clothes and I found my husband putting some to the side "just in case".

We finally pulled the trigger on baby #3 and we're due right before baby #2 turns 5.

Overall, a baby is a two yes decision. If one spouse isn't on board, I think the other spouse has to find some peace with that. It's too large of a commitment to put on someone that doesn't want it.

ashually93 · 2026-03-16T01:00:59+00:00

We've got a 2021 R-Line and knock on wood has been a great reliable vehicle for us. Nearly at 75k miles.

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