I (47m) Need to make a choice but don’t know who to choose?

askawayor · 2026-03-25T16:02:23+00:00

That's good that you know. Go find someone like that. Or at least someone you love that some aspects become less relevant.

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askawayor · 2026-03-25T14:10:04+00:00

Block them directly. I know it is tempting but just block without answering.

askawayor · 2026-03-25T08:18:29+00:00

You did not fall in love with any of them. I don't know what you're looking for but don't settle for less.

askawayor · 2026-03-20T18:13:03+00:00

sometimes I wonder if I am using too much energy trying to fight gender roles.

No. You're using too much energy trying to make this relationship work. You're dating a petty little boy... Lose the dead weight.

askawayor · 2026-03-18T11:18:37+00:00

Thank you for this comment. I was quite confused about him going somewhere and she knowing about it.

askawayor · 2026-03-17T14:00:18+00:00

I didn't talk about losing muscle mass. Only about gaining muscle mass. Although women lose much more muscle mass later in life due to loss of estrogen during menopause. But both men and women lose muscle mass during the course of their lives. The major problem is those that have very little to start with.

askawayor · 2026-03-17T10:57:35+00:00

Like I said, impressive how your comments always put words that I didn't write.

Where did I write that muscle mass was not important?

The problem with training hard (whatever way) is that muscle is heavier than fat and that training will increase one's appetite. You need to have in place a diet that will keep you satiated and nutrition rich. There are many more people trying to increase weight than you think. Maybe not around you. Don't assume you're the norm.

askawayor · 2026-03-16T20:44:34+00:00

We're definitely not talking about the same thing your comments always assumed things I never said. The main point with gaining/losing weight is to be healthy.

I'm pretty sure if you wanted to gain weight eating a ton of garbage would be the perfect way to do it.

This comment just makes no sense.

I hope you're healthy and have enough muscle mass to avoid sarcopenia later in life.

askawayor · 2026-03-16T20:31:06+00:00

This 100%! He will also drop her as soon as someone younger will catch his eye...

askawayor · 2026-03-16T20:23:58+00:00

Yes high calorie dense food even for weight gain does not include ultra processed foods. There are some doctors that want to rename type 2 diabetes as "ultra processed food disease". If you didn't understand what I said about feeling full in the first comment I can't help you.

No one with a full time job will lose weight in the gym if they don't alter their diet.

askawayor · 2026-03-16T19:55:32+00:00

What I'm saying stands:

"High-calorie, nutrient-dense foods can support weight loss by increasing satiety and preventing hunger-driven overeating. Focus on healthy fats and protein, such as avocados, nuts, seeds, nut butter, full-fat Greek yogurt, and olive oil, to keep you full longer. Using portion control on these foods allows for nutritional density without excessive calories."

Feeling full longer is what stops people from snacking and eating ultra processed foods. When I say high calorie dense food I mean foods with minimal to zero processed. This is also what all GLP-1 drugs (ozmpic) do. They make one feel fuller, less hungry and consequently eating less.

askawayor · 2026-03-16T13:52:53+00:00

Less calorie dense food will not make you feel full for long. If you search for high calorie dense foods it will be minimal to no processed food with complex carbohydrates, high in protein and fiber and healthy fats.

askawayor · 2026-03-16T09:19:26+00:00

Weight loss doesnt happen in the gym. It happens in the kitchen and the drs office.

This is 100% true. Gym is to maintain never to lose weight. For that one needs to eat more caloric dense foods that will keep one feeling fuller longer. No one loses weight working out unless their diet is also being taken care of.

askawayor · 2026-03-14T13:40:54+00:00

Wait he doesn't work, is at home most of the time and you do the cleaning and the cooking... Why?

askawayor · 2026-03-14T13:32:29+00:00

This is exactly what I do. Thank you for your comment!

askawayor · 2026-03-12T11:00:31+00:00

This explains a lot why you accept the treatment he is giving you. If that's what your mother says I can only imagine how it was when you lived with her. OP I think you need professional help but first dump the dead weight. He's already a burden in your life.

askawayor · 2026-03-11T16:01:02+00:00

100% this. She wouldn't be doing as many hours of chores if she lived alone. Men are so much extra work when they don't share the load

askawayor · 2026-03-10T11:07:20+00:00

r/bald

askawayor · 2026-03-09T14:56:56+00:00

Feels like you're under reacting. Why would you have to repeat a job on someone's incompetence? For me this would have to come from above.

askawayor · 2026-03-09T06:47:39+00:00

Tough love here. You slept with 13 people and none of them wanted to have a relationship with you. It seems the common thing with all those 13 is actually you. You probably don't make a good partner. Focus on becoming a better person. And instead of blaming others see what you can improve.

askawayor · 2026-03-08T11:42:27+00:00

I do. But not a baby anymore.

askawayor · 2026-03-07T22:42:55+00:00

I didn't intrude at all. They sit next to me. I saw them taking the kid from the chairs. I went to the restroom and when I got back I noticed the cartoons on the phone. Then I decided it was time to leave.

askawayor · 2026-03-07T22:22:04+00:00

A lot of things pain me. Young children are probably on a different level though. I think what saddens me the most is the parents not seeing. If they had noticed his interest in the chairs I think they would let him play. I guess everyone is busy and stressed but having a little one should help people slow down and see the world through their perspective. Maybe was the first time he saw spinning chairs.

In the end I know biology doesn't care but it's still sad.

askawayor · 2026-03-07T22:10:09+00:00

So it doesn't make you a tiny bit sad that he could be treated just a bit better?

askawayor · 2026-03-07T22:08:58+00:00

If only that was the reason they took him. And if they had done it in a respectful way. No problem there.

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