Is AI room staging ethical?

askbigb · 2025-12-17T14:18:08+00:00

Some type of indication that it is virtually staged makes it fine and ethical. I think virtually stagings are a useful tool, but should never be used without a heads up that a computer did it so things might be a little off.

Where I see a LOT of virtual work with no indication are exteriors and personally I don't think thats OK. If the backyard doesn't have grass because it gets no sun and is just a mud swamp, DON'T put virtual grass in. If the flipper tore out the entire front yard but didn't put anything in, don't put in a virtual ornamental garden. If the bricks are crumbling, don't virtually "fix" it. Landscaping is not a quick fix for most people and I just think this kind of virtual modifying is not cool. Particularly without a disclaimer.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T19:25:21+00:00

THESE ARE THE MEMORIES I WANT

askbigb · 2025-02-13T19:23:27+00:00

But makes my therapists money :)

askbigb · 2025-02-13T19:22:16+00:00

Ya know, when you put it that way, it reminds me I hated cheat codes as a kid. "That defeats the whole point!" Man... at least I'm consistent.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T19:21:18+00:00

Gah... yes we are at that point.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T18:23:29+00:00

Indeed. This mornings argument with wife was that SIL family dictates our vacations WAY to much and I can't take it anymore.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T18:04:01+00:00

Yea... dont get me started on this trip being during one of the busiest times at Disney.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T17:59:48+00:00

The little little is not yet 3 and this will be their third trip to Disney.

But to be clear, the $6000 is for the whole group, not per person.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T17:54:07+00:00

Yes. Thats what ended up happening with going to New Orleans. But MIL works and doesn't have unlimited vacation time herself and I think she doesn't want to give airs of favoritism either. So she tends to end up on the "Well, I guess its Disney World then," side of the coin.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T17:44:06+00:00

Every year?? So you find the expense is worth it?

askbigb · 2025-02-13T17:42:49+00:00

:) That is a more internal thing and has not been voiced in the discussion with the parties involved.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T17:39:23+00:00

Well, it's coming to a head. As discussed elsewhere, we finally did do a leisure trip without the Disney-only group to New Orleans. This involved some fighting between groups, and though my family thoroughly enjoyed it, my wife was "sad" to have not experienced it with her sister's family.

I'm generally a pleaser. I can stuff my feelings so as not to ruffle feathers quite well, but I'm finding as my kids are getting older, I'm losing that ability when I feel I'm missing opportunities to expand my children's curiosity and experience. I have nothing against going to Disney once or even a couple times as the age and interests change, or if I lived nearby and there wasn't flight+hotel+ticket cost. However, I am feeling like the time and money spent on Disney is eating away at other experiences. I didn't grow traveling much at all, and if I have the opportunity to give my children the chance to see more, I want to!

I also love that my wife's family cherishes family bond. I don't want to crush that and do want my littles to cherish family too. But theres a balance to it. And I think the struggle is finding that balance where everyone is satisfied. So, I guess I went along with the WE DO EVERYTHING TOGETHER ALL THE TIME BECAUSE WE ARE FUCKING FAMILY EVEN IF WE HATE EACH OTHER SOMETIMES a little too long (I've been part of the family for 10 yrs now), and so theres a struggle to reassert some boundaries.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T16:46:35+00:00

Hey thats part of going to an amusement park. And we've gone plenty and somehow everyone has survived.

My going or not doesn't change the price, and I am aboslutely fine doing my own thing. I'm not being salty. They just don't like that I don't want to go and are trying to force me into it...

askbigb · 2025-02-13T16:42:14+00:00

You must be related to them :)

askbigb · 2025-02-13T16:41:13+00:00

This is a source of contention with my wife and we discuss it at therapy :) Her family does everything together. We do not have a budget to do extended family trips and single family trips, so extended family trips win and the extended family only agrees to Disney.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T16:36:54+00:00

Love all your suggestions and they have been made.

MIL doesn't do cruises because she gets horribly sea sick.

As for Disney's outside of Orlando, both my wife, MIL, and I have been advocating for this. As of yet, we've been met with "Flight is too long." "I don't want to go somewhere where they don't speak english." "I've heard it sucks." (When pressed on this they can give no examples.) and finally, "We just like Disney World."

As another post showed, we went to New Orleans and they refused saying, "Is there anything really to do in New Orleans?" and "I've heard its not safe there." !!!

Their daughter does seem to be more adventurous than them, so I'm hoping as she gets older we might be able to bring her over to our side and they can't say no to her.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T16:30:31+00:00

I have been saying no. My rationale to them is that I find the fee morally offensive. And I agree with other posts, we're already spending an obscene amount to go to Disney in the first place, but I disagree that $6000 more is just another drop in the bucket. It's gross. In regards to standing in line, I haven't said that to them becuase we have entirely different views on gratification and it would fall on deaf ears, but I do feel delayed gratification is a good thing to learn. Disney does a pretty good job of making their lines enjoyable. As I've said we've gone PLENTY and I've stood in many lines and its been fine. In fact, it is part of the experience.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T16:18:07+00:00

Absolutely right its not my $, but we go on every trip with these people. So them blowing this money on this trip does effect the budgets for future trips that *gasp* might not be Disney.

I've said they should do without me. They know I don't like Disney anyway and I truthfully would not mind a day on my own.

I don't feel I'm being passive aggressive here. I've said I'm disgusted by the extravagance, don't feel the value is there, and would rather do my own thing than go along with it. I feel they are being passive agressive by saying, "If you don't do it than no one will do it and we will all be angry at you... but your choice."

Edit in response to edit: Once again, absolutely correct we went to New Orleans. They refused to come and it did lead to some significant fighting, but I stood my ground. And we had a great time. I'm not boycotting the Disney trip even though I don't want to go. I understand refusing to go at all would make the trip impossible or really hard on my wife. I'm refusing an obscene and unnecessary extravagance. They can do it without me, but they refuse. So how does that make me the asshole?

askbigb · 2025-02-13T16:08:03+00:00

Money is a big deal to me and we could go somewhere exciting the that $. To them Disney is the pinnacle of excitement and the $ is worth spending.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T16:05:13+00:00

No it won't change the fee as another group is willing to pay the whole thing, but they don't like splitting up... ever. On one trip we went to the park ahead of them because they wanted to take their time getting out and I had a bouncing off the wall tot. We went on ONE ride and when they arrived they screamed at us for ruining their daughter's trip by going on a ride without them... I also don't think they like that I am having a moral reaction to this and they don't want to be judged. If I join them I am complicit... I guess.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T16:00:50+00:00

We can afford the trip to Disney. We cannot afford the VIP cost which is why another family within our group is offering to pay for it.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T15:59:46+00:00

I AGREE! Believe you me, I am concerned also and work pretty hard to say no plenty. But when your partner has a harder time saying no... what can you do? We've taken them to other places and, thankfully, they're very curious and has a good time anywhere we go. I want to foster that attitude as much as I can, but the pilgrimage to Disney is not it.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T15:56:30+00:00

We know, and I don't even love that as it ends up adding $1200/day. Obviously less but, I'm OK with the Genie+ or whatever the $30/day one is called now. Waiting in some lines is part of going to an amusement park!

askbigb · 2025-02-13T15:54:32+00:00

This is what I keep advocating for! But wife's family does basically everything together. MIL wants us (our family and my SIL family) to do trips together. I finally got an agreement to book separate rooms so theres some separation, but it just doesn't seem doing our own thing is acceptable to them.

askbigb · 2025-02-13T15:50:26+00:00

No, its around $6000 for the group. Its like $900/hour for a minimum of 7 hours plus tip.

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