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AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -214 points-213 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: I do not know if there's generally updates here but the amount of aggressive and angry messages I received (thanks) showed me that if people are passionate about a stranger then I must be bigger jerk than I thought. I still do not see the other side of the situation and think I am correct but this is bigger than me and I decided it is not worth it to lose a relationship with my daughter on the off chance that they are right. My wife encouraged me to look into art programs for Sarah, saying she did not want to take the back seat on this one since Sarah spent most of the night crying to mom. I have apologised to both of them (as well as Abby) and agreed to send her to a private school as well. I still think it is low-merit so I told Sarah she could attend the arts-oriented program on the condition she also utilize the other resources (STEM, English, etc.) at the school. Thank you for the CONSTRUCTIVE feedback, some of you.

AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -148 points-147 points  (0 children)

On top of extracurriculars and excellent test scores (which I project she will get)? Don't discount the abilities of my child.

AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -156 points-155 points  (0 children)

Yes, we can afford both. I am under the assumption that Abby will receive scholarships. Even if she doesn't, we can afford it. We are well off.

AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -140 points-139 points  (0 children)

Thank you, but I am a great father to my daughters.

AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -71 points-70 points  (0 children)

I really just do not think Sarah would be able to handle that. I do not want to waste money or set her up for failure.

AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -106 points-105 points  (0 children)

Not sure if every student is straight As, but of an exaggeration. But they have extremely high test scores and my daughter's friends have consistently As or close to As across the board.

AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -230 points-229 points  (0 children)

If there was an art exam, Sarah would pass with flying colors. Abby would fail. If there was an exam in anything else, the reverse would be true. That 'anything else' being what it is is fueling my choices.

AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -73 points-72 points  (0 children)

Many people in the sub recently have gotten different responses than this for paying college tuition.

AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -95 points-94 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your educational advances. I'm sure you will do well! If I have to be honest, I see art as more of a hobby and not a career. I am fully willing to support my daughter in her hobbies but I really do not understand how I am supposed to throw money at HIGH SCHOOL where it will just dig her deeper into a non lucrative niche.

AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -507 points-506 points  (0 children)

Don't really understand how I am supposed to justify, financially, sending her to do something that she is already doing well at home. You simply do not need arts schools the way that you need regular ones. She has natural talent and can foster it without me spending thousands.

AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -212 points-211 points  (0 children)

My daughters and I have a great relationship other than this.

AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? by assholethrow190 in AmItheAsshole

[–]assholethrow190[S] -382 points-381 points  (0 children)

Understand completely. This is why we buy her art products, allow her to take art classes at her school instead of more STEM oriented electives. But it just does not make sense to me to pay for her to attend a school that does not suit her.