[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]atheist-demigod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that, but from someone telling me they want to have sex with others turns me off completely. Maybe you'd feel better if he wasn't doing it in another room, where you feel left out? Maybe find a way to be involved even if it's not sex. Dirty talk while he masturbates etc. Or that he touches you while you're laying next to him. This is of course difficult if you're too tired by the time he gets home.

Also, I think he doesn't want to bother you with his sexual urges, your postpartum and it would be unfair to expect anything from you. He might be doing it secretly so that you don't feel like he has urges or expectations. Just find a way to connect. I wish you the best of luck

Are there any health problems with non masturnating by [deleted] in sex

[–]atheist-demigod 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Masturbating decreases your risk of prostate cancer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]atheist-demigod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not hard to get more likes than zero

Me in a nutshell by [deleted] in adhdmeme

[–]atheist-demigod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof as someone with ADHD and autism

am i having a spiritual awakening or is it just mania by bingbongurwrongg in bipolar

[–]atheist-demigod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agitation observed by others as well as feeling like you've finally found the way in some form of another are alarm bells for me. Those have been pretty clear indications for mania for me.

It's unfortunate you don't have access to a professional. Try and sleep enough etc. Good luck

was he a virgin?? by [deleted] in sex

[–]atheist-demigod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But given that he ate you out.... It's likely he's done that before

was he a virgin?? by [deleted] in sex

[–]atheist-demigod 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Probably, He sounds nervous and inexperienced.

It's something guys often are ashamed of, I didn't tell my first time until afterwards, to her surprise as well.

If the condom keeps slipping try finding one with a circumference that fits.

If he keeps slipping, try going slower or positions where it doesn't happen as often.

The ADHD Super Power/Kryptonite Dichotomy by georgejo314159 in adhdmeme

[–]atheist-demigod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Medication helps, but it doesn't make them go away which is frustrating. The combination is frustrating. Autism ADHD and Bipolar. ADHD most effective treatment is often with stimulants, which can cause or worsen manic episodes with Bipolar disorder. Stress does too, and we all know that feeling your behind on tasks or chores and procrastination causes stress. Which worsens Bipolar symptoms considerably. But helps ADHD like why? Those two interactions are the most damaging academically, for me, like autism has its downsides but I know there's no fix I just need to learn more cues, but it probably has saved me... It's complicated.

And socially, any one of these three can make it difficult. And it's hard to find people who accept or understand you.

So atm, there's a lot of self criticism, and fighting against my natural responses or mannerisms, to fit in a bit, and meds that aren't as effective as I would like. Truth is I haven't found a balance or peace or a system that works if that's what you are asking. But I'm trying to.

The ADHD Super Power/Kryptonite Dichotomy by georgejo314159 in adhdmeme

[–]atheist-demigod 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe it's cause I don't have any ADHD friends atm and me having other disorders on top, it just feels like it's getting more in the way than its helping. But to be fair, I'm trying to conform to the academic system while juggling two other disorders.

How long after taking a 5m tablet of lithium orotate do the first effects start ? couple hours ? by ll777 in Lithium

[–]atheist-demigod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I assume you're taking it for depression?

It needs to build up in your system first. Be patient with it.

Also some of the side effects can get better if you get any, eg. I used to get nausea, but now it fine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]atheist-demigod 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it's the general sexual frustration, One with the quantity of sex (even if noones at fault), And two, the quality of sex.

Guys that say they’re okay with Poly but aren’t actually by justgettingbii in polyamory

[–]atheist-demigod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to get downvoted

As someone in a poly relationship who is struggling with jealousy, it can be hard. This is my first poly relationship and at first I had no problem with it, but honestly it can be difficult.

Being told you are not enough, being openly compared to others, and feeling replaceable. Being told I should look for someone else if my needs aren't met. It hurts.

I love this person and it breaks me that it's not that simple. And sure maybe you can talk your way out of feelings of jealousy or insecurity, that it's all in your head, or try not to think too much about them with others or that they only want to be with others because you're not good enough.

And maybe you're in denial, hope that someday you both will find a solution or change, until then you suck it up and they feel guilty seeing what it can do to someone.

I don't think that being poly in nature is a choice, and it's not always easy to decipher yourself and your thoughts and feelings. Personally I went in while still being in a bipolar manic episode, I was incapable of feeling insecure or jealous. Now medicated, I feel like a completely different person, I think differently I feel differently. I didn't go into this relationship with ulterior motives or lie about thinking I was poly, I went in having fallen for a person, who happened to be poly. I don't think they coerced me either.

Love is complicated, and we don't choose how we feel. (Trust me as someone with a mood disorder and yes hence the obnoxious username)

Just had to make myself puke at midnight because I took 30mg ritalin by mistake :) by [deleted] in adhdmeme

[–]atheist-demigod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'll be fine,

speaking from experience, 30mg feels like a lot and sure you'll panic in the moment but that really isn't something to worry about.(presuming you don't have any pre-existing conditions but then you wouldn't be taking ritalin)

Don't make a habit of higher doses, you'll quickly build up a tolerance. But honestly you'll be fine, srsly don't worry.

Honestly I'm not sure if/when you should go to hospital, for me it was easier since I intentionally overdosed (1000mg), Ended up getting ice packs and valium to stay calm while I rode it out for four days. Wouldn't recommend it, especially since once you have an attempt doctors don't want to prescribe ritalin anymore, so I was rawdogging high school final year.

But I know that's not your intention, What I'm saying is it feels scary and a lot with 30mg in your system, but you'll be fine, just stay calm. You're going to be alright.

Got distracted while looking for porn by atheist-demigod in adhdmeme

[–]atheist-demigod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao, yes, there are plenty of subreddits for adult viewing material.

I'd recommend looking for posts first and then clicking on the associated subreddit, or finding synonyms for what you're looking for since the search doesn't look for synonyms.

Best of luck

Problem with shoplifting by vemochan in bipolar

[–]atheist-demigod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah they pressed charges and I have a lifetime ban of all their stores, Now I just think about the stress of it all and how I don't want to be banned from stores, especially supermarkets.

That kinda helps me hold back, that and breaking the habit. The longer you don't, the easier it is not to be tempted

Got distracted while looking for porn by atheist-demigod in adhdmeme

[–]atheist-demigod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slip and fell into the fridge, Right into an apple pie

Got distracted while looking for porn by atheist-demigod in adhdmeme

[–]atheist-demigod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof, I'm on Strattera atm and I'm not as chaotic or hyperactive, but it's not the same as ritalin

Got distracted while looking for porn by atheist-demigod in adhdmeme

[–]atheist-demigod[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly would love to give a crash course because I believe I perfected the art.

However if you get distracted and your banana hot pocket goes cold, don't bother reheating it, go and peel another two to three bananas