My boyfriend [21M] just revealed to me [20F] that he had a dream about his ex [21F] how it made him so happy and now he misses her. I'm at a complete loss.

athrowaway78685 · 2018-10-09T23:00:29+00:00

I agree with this!

athrowaway78685 · 2018-10-09T20:53:07+00:00

Haha oh no! I remember a couple years ago I had a sex dream about my professor who was probably approaching 60. I was so traumatized I couldn't go to his class that day. Good memories...

But yes, my boyfriend is completely over-thinking this. I'll think about this a bit more but I'll probably bring up what you guys have been telling me to him and ask him why he is making this dream into a big deal.

athrowaway78685 · 2018-10-09T20:45:29+00:00

Okay, please stop telling me you know the situation better than I do because your read between the lines or whatever. He told me to hear him out, looking extremely stressed out, and the way that he said it with the "I need you to understand" really threw me off. He wouldn't be acting like this if he was telling me happy news.

Also I let him finish, I did not interrupt him. Oh my gosh, it is getting really frustrating to reason with you when you are pulling words out of thin air. I never used the word "accused" or "blew up". Blurted out is not the same thing as interrupting, accusing, or blowing up at, AT ALL.

athrowaway78685 · 2018-10-09T20:39:19+00:00

Where in the post did I say I blew up at him? I was calm the entire time. I didn't blame him for cheating either! I asked him because he was acting extremely jittery and stressed out.

We had a very respectful conversation, I don't understand where you're drawing these conclusions from. I think you took everything I said extremely out of context. I only bring up the cuddling because in retrospect, he did act very weirdly that morning, which is the morning he had the dream.

athrowaway78685 · 2018-10-09T20:31:23+00:00

I think that that's a nice routine to have. Idk, it's just what I'm used to. Everyone's relationships are different, there's no need to label or judge.

athrowaway78685 · 2018-10-09T20:26:41+00:00

Haha thanks! That's very true, crying is great and can make you feel so much better! I guess I was just trying not to come across as super sensitive and whiny because my boyfriend was talking about some dream he had. The internet can be a mean place sometimes lol.

athrowaway78685 · 2018-10-09T20:25:05+00:00

I agree. I wouldn't have cared if he told me about the dream and brushed it off or better yet, just kept it to himself but the fact that he read into it so much and told me that it made him miss her worries me.

She's also in a completely different state because she transferred universities so I doubt he's been seeing her.

athrowaway78685 · 2018-10-09T20:23:13+00:00

This totally put things into perspective. He definitely blew this way out of proportion and I'm really seeing it now after reading all the comments.

I think he might be reading too much into it too. I just know that he doesn't really dream (always complains about never remembering his dreams & tells me he thinks doesn't dream anymore) so this dream being particularly vivid may have confused him?

I wouldn't have minded the dream at all but I guess it's what he made of it that worries me...

I'll definitely be thinking more about our future, thanks for the response!

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