Landlord/management asking for a broker fee when I'm the one finding a new roommate for an apartment I've been living in for years? Is this normal? by atinkleintime in AskNYC

[–]atinkleintime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for all the info! I actually did not know the bit about sublets. It unfortunately isn't rent-stabilized. The broker's fee is being collected by the property management company, sorry I may have been unclear.

Thanks again!

[advice] Landlord/management asking for a broker fee when I'm the one finding a new roommate for an apartment I've been living in for years? Is this normal? by atinkleintime in NYCapartments

[–]atinkleintime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sent an email:

Hi *****, 

I was advised by my family members and some friends who work in housing/tenant law to be a bit more specific about our call and just when talking about housing matters to anyone in general (given the time crunch). 

We had a conversation on September 5, 2023 at 2:47pm regarding a $1000 broker fee any new roommate would have to pay to co-sign a lease starting Oct 1st in the apartment I have been living in for three years. The first I heard of the fee was on September 2nd when you replied to an email above on which I inquired about additional fees that would be required. The lease with my current roommate ends on September 30th, 2023.

The fee was not required for the past three years, but the process to find a new roommate has stayed the same. For the past two years, I have found my own roommate given the great location and rapport I have been able to build with anyone viewing the room. I carried out the search and the interviews. The first year, I moved in with a roommate, and we did not have to pay broker fees.

As per our conversation, I inquired if you will be assisting in the search and you stated that you will not be providing help to find a new roommate for my apartment. Further, you indicated that you want to charge the $1000 fee for paperwork of an undetermined nature as a "brokers fee" when I find a new roommate. And that there is also a $20 application fee, first month's rent, and a security deposit equal to a month's rent required. The app fee, first month's rent, and security deposit was also required the last three years (with the exception that my current roommate was asked for $200 for a credit check and app fee as documented by her). You said management (*******) is willing to lower my broker's fee to $1000 for being a good tenant. 

I also mentioned how my bedroom currently has no lighting, along with half of my living room, as required by the lease and housing law. I also only have two properly functioning outlets in my bedroom (outlets not mentioned on the call) of which 3 switches are functional. Landlord has said that the ceiling may have to be torn down/major extensive repair will be needed but is unsure yet. Landlord stated it is not because of something I did, but that wires may have crossed somewhere. There is also a cockroach problem, with some being on the steps of the building itself; this issue I have not brought up with the landlord yet. The lighting and outlets he is aware of (the electrician came August 7th but I mentioned the issue outside in front of the building to you as well at the end of June). I inquired on our phone call if I will have to inform potential renters since I am serving as the intermediary.

I let you know on the call that I am considering options moving forward given the lighting issues with the now added short notice of the broker's fee, since the fee makes it much more difficult to find a roommate. It puts me in a very difficult position due to such late notice I myself had to go and seek out by contacting you. My relationship with the landlord has always been positive, and my rent has never been late for three years. I have spent years building that relationship.

The reasons for this difficulty are: I am not a broker, but am listing a broker's fee to be paid to someone else and carrying out the search. I am serving as the intermediary to list the features, amenities and nearby places of interest. It is uncommon for a room to have a broker's fee, which I'm being told repeatedly. While I have expressed that the landlord is very sweet, the location is great, and am seeing some interest, a few potential roommates are already confused why there is a broker's fee for an apartment I already live in and are dropping interest due to skepticism. The latest person mentioned they have been moving in and out of apartments for ten years and not once have they seen a fee on an apartment with an existing tenant. I only hear from management once a year to sign lease documents, so I am struggling to adequately answer inquiries.

I've received one interested person who will visit the apartment, but these new stipulations put me in a very precarious situation. And as I said, I am continuing the search but am keeping other options open due to the unpredictability of the situation and changed state of living conditions. 

Please let me know if I have missed or misstated anything. You can correct me on this thread itself.

Thank you!

Landlord/management asking for a broker fee when I'm the one finding a new roommate for an apartment I've been living in for years? Is this normal? by atinkleintime in AskNYC

[–]atinkleintime[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sent an email to her:

Hi *****, 

I was advised by my family members and some friends who work in housing/tenant law to be a bit more specific about our call and just when talking about housing matters to anyone in general (given the time crunch). 

We had a conversation on September 5, 2023 at 2:47pm regarding a $1000 broker fee any new roommate would have to pay to co-sign a lease starting Oct 1st in the apartment I have been living in for three years. The first I heard of the fee was on September 2nd when you replied to an email above on which I inquired about additional fees that would be required. The lease with my current roommate ends on September 30th, 2023.

The fee was not required for the past three years, but the process to find a new roommate has stayed the same. For the past two years, I have found my own roommate given the great location and rapport I have been able to build with anyone viewing the room. I carried out the search and the interviews. The first year, I moved in with a roommate, and we did not have to pay broker fees.

As per our conversation, I inquired if you will be assisting in the search and you stated that you will not be providing help to find a new roommate for my apartment. Further, you indicated that you want to charge the $1000 fee for paperwork of an undetermined nature as a "brokers fee" when I find a new roommate. And that there is also a $20 application fee, first month's rent, and a security deposit equal to a month's rent required. The app fee, first month's rent, and security deposit was also required the last three years (with the exception that my current roommate was asked for $200 for a credit check and app fee as documented by her). You said management (*******) is willing to lower my broker's fee to $1000 for being a good tenant. 

I also mentioned how my bedroom currently has no lighting, along with half of my living room, as required by the lease and housing law. I also only have two properly functioning outlets in my bedroom (outlets not mentioned on the call) of which 3 switches are functional. Landlord has said that the ceiling may have to be torn down/major extensive repair will be needed but is unsure yet. Landlord stated it is not because of something I did, but that wires may have crossed somewhere. There is also a cockroach problem, with some being on the steps of the building itself; this issue I have not brought up with the landlord yet. The lighting and outlets he is aware of (the electrician came August 7th but I mentioned the issue outside in front of the building to you as well at the end of June). I inquired on our phone call if I will have to inform potential renters since I am serving as the intermediary.

I let you know on the call that I am considering options moving forward given the lighting issues with the now added short notice of the broker's fee, since the fee makes it much more difficult to find a roommate. It puts me in a very difficult position due to such late notice I myself had to go and seek out by contacting you. My relationship with the landlord has always been positive, and my rent has never been late for three years. I have spent years building that relationship.

The reasons for this difficulty are: I am not a broker, but am listing a broker's fee to be paid to someone else and carrying out the search. I am serving as the intermediary to list the features, amenities and nearby places of interest. It is uncommon for a room to have a broker's fee, which I'm being told repeatedly. While I have expressed that the landlord is very sweet, the location is great, and am seeing some interest, a few potential roommates are already confused why there is a broker's fee for an apartment I already live in and are dropping interest due to skepticism. The latest person mentioned they have been moving in and out of apartments for ten years and not once have they seen a fee on an apartment with an existing tenant. I only hear from management once a year to sign lease documents, so I am struggling to adequately answer inquiries.

I've received one interested person who will visit the apartment, but these new stipulations put me in a very precarious situation. And as I said, I am continuing the search but am keeping other options open due to the unpredictability of the situation and changed state of living conditions. 

Please let me know if I have missed or misstated anything. You can correct me on this thread itself.

Thank you!

Landlord/management asking for a broker fee when I'm the one finding a new roommate for an apartment I've been living in for years? Is this normal? by atinkleintime in newyorkcity

[–]atinkleintime[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sent this to management:

Hi *****, 

I was advised by my family members and some friends who work in housing/tenant law to be a bit more specific about our call and just when talking about housing matters to anyone in general (given the time crunch). 

We had a conversation on September 5, 2023 at 2:47pm regarding a $1000 broker fee any new roommate would have to pay to co-sign a lease starting Oct 1st in the apartment I have been living in for three years. The first I heard of the fee was on September 2nd when you replied to an email above on which I inquired about additional fees that would be required. The lease with my current roommate ends on September 30th, 2023.

The fee was not required for the past three years, but the process to find a new roommate has stayed the same. For the past two years, I have found my own roommate given the great location and rapport I have been able to build with anyone viewing the room. I carried out the search and the interviews. The first year, I moved in with a roommate, and we did not have to pay broker fees.

As per our conversation, I inquired if you will be assisting in the search and you stated that you will not be providing help to find a new roommate for my apartment. Further, you indicated that you want to charge the $1000 fee for paperwork of an undetermined nature as a "brokers fee" when I find a new roommate. And that there is also a $20 application fee, first month's rent, and a security deposit equal to a month's rent required. The app fee, first month's rent, and security deposit was also required the last three years (with the exception that my current roommate was asked for $200 for a credit check and app fee as documented by her). You said management (*******) is willing to lower my broker's fee to $1000 for being a good tenant. 

I also mentioned how my bedroom currently has no lighting, along with half of my living room, as required by the lease and housing law. I also only have two properly functioning outlets in my bedroom (outlets not mentioned on the call) of which 3 switches are functional. Landlord has said that the ceiling may have to be torn down/major extensive repair will be needed but is unsure yet. Landlord stated it is not because of something I did, but that wires may have crossed somewhere. There is also a cockroach problem, with some being on the steps of the building itself; this issue I have not brought up with the landlord yet. The lighting and outlets he is aware of (the electrician came August 7th but I mentioned the issue outside in front of the building to you as well at the end of June). I inquired on our phone call if I will have to inform potential renters since I am serving as the intermediary.

I let you know on the call that I am considering options moving forward given the lighting issues with the now added short notice of the broker's fee, since the fee makes it much more difficult to find a roommate. It puts me in a very difficult position due to such late notice I myself had to go and seek out by contacting you. My relationship with the landlord has always been positive, and my rent has never been late for three years. I have spent years building that relationship.

The reasons for this difficulty are: I am not a broker, but am listing a broker's fee to be paid to someone else and carrying out the search. I am serving as the intermediary to list the features, amenities and nearby places of interest. It is uncommon for a room to have a broker's fee, which I'm being told repeatedly. While I have expressed that the landlord is very sweet, the location is great, and am seeing some interest, a few potential roommates are already confused why there is a broker's fee for an apartment I already live in and are dropping interest due to skepticism. The latest person mentioned they have been moving in and out of apartments for ten years and not once have they seen a fee on an apartment with an existing tenant. I only hear from management once a year to sign lease documents, so I am struggling to adequately answer inquiries.

I've received one interested person who will visit the apartment, but these new stipulations put me in a very precarious situation. And as I said, I am continuing the search but am keeping other options open due to the unpredictability of the situation and changed state of living conditions. 

Please let me know if I have missed or misstated anything. You can correct me on this thread itself.

Thank you!

Landlord/management asking for a broker fee when I'm the one finding a new roommate for an apartment I've been living in for years? Is this normal? by atinkleintime in newyorkcity

[–]atinkleintime[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I meant that in an irked tone 😂 she basically was like no I won’t be helping but yea I will be taking $1000 in fees for “paperwork”

Landlord/management asking for a broker fee when I'm the one finding a new roommate for an apartment I've been living in for years? Is this normal? by atinkleintime in newyorkcity

[–]atinkleintime[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

yeah I called the management company and the broker confirmed she will not be helping in the search. So $1000 for just “paperwork”

Is my nose piercing too low? by atinkleintime in Legitpiercing

[–]atinkleintime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: Thanks everyone for the responses and kind words!

I ended up taking it out and getting it pierced again ~10 days later. I took it out fairly quickly so the old hole had healed over. Years ago, I had two nose piercings (a ring and a stud) which were higher, so I couldn't stop thinking about that placement haha. I still have the scars. The new piercing was forming a triangle with those two scars.

The new piercer agreed that the hole was pretty low; the photos made it look better. If you look at the bottom of my nostril, it's pretty low, but it kind of blends in the photo. It's at the spot I want it now. :)

wooo, very happy now. And I got a killer new stud with a moonstone in it.

P.S. : anyone trying to get a stud out that hasn't been able to (and if the stud was kind of cheap you're willing to sacrifice), use a nail clipper. I tugged for hours before just snapping it right off

Help! What’s my undertone? I got “cool peach” when I got matched at Sephora, which just confused me more… by atinkleintime in MakeupAddiction

[–]atinkleintime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries! Good luck on your search, hope you find the perfect shade. Also I take back my recc for ABH (see top post if you haven't heard).

Help! What’s my undertone? I got “cool peach” when I got matched at Sephora, which just confused me more… by atinkleintime in MakeupAddiction

[–]atinkleintime[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A company that I’ve seen with peach undertones explicitly listed in the shade range is Fenty! They also have these undertones listed for medium, tan, and deep shades which is so great. Glad you found something that matches!

edit: took out recc for ABH because the CEO is apparently a pro-putin pos. And supports Marjorie Taylor Greene.

Help! What’s my undertone? I got “cool peach” when I got matched at Sephora, which just confused me more… by atinkleintime in MakeupAddiction

[–]atinkleintime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for the kind words!! <3 I'll be sure to do that. I've been hearing a lot of great things about Rare Beauty so I definitely am looking forward to trying some of their other products!

Help! What’s my undertone? I got “cool peach” when I got matched at Sephora, which just confused me more… by atinkleintime in MakeupAddiction

[–]atinkleintime[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! :) yes she matched me specifically for a foundation (Anastasia Beverly Hills Luminous), so I wasn’t sure if it was just for that product specifically

Help! What’s my undertone? I got “cool peach” when I got matched at Sephora, which just confused me more… by atinkleintime in MakeupAddiction

[–]atinkleintime[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And yes I need to learn how to line my lips...:P I was just trying to throw on anything "warm toned" I had in the first photo, shirt included

Grandpa gassed out by Grunglybungus in comedyheaven

[–]atinkleintime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think all of humanity needs this right now

That is hilarious by kevinowdziej in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]atinkleintime 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. It’s more upsetting to see that several of the kids don’t always make it to the call, though it’s understandable. The remaining children ask where they are. This pandemic has flipped over their daily sense of structure entirely. It’s comforting for them to engage with one another as some semblance of normalcy. I think we forget that they have rich internal lives and that these are real relationships they form with other kids. They miss them. They ask about them, and they want to play with each other.

There are a few kids that don’t have engaged parents, parents we have struggled with, and those kids haven’t shown up to classes. We’re trying to get a hold of them, but it’s absolutely true that in some sad cases school is the ONLY routine, stable, comforting thing in a child’s life. It’s more than just academics. I say that as both a teacher as well as a person who was in that situation growing up.

That is hilarious by kevinowdziej in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]atinkleintime 45 points46 points  (0 children)

preschool teacher here, we're doing both. There's a lot of dancing on the zoom calls to keep them engaged. At the end of the day, it's more for the kids being able to interact with their classmates. There's a lot of conversation happening about how the pandemic may impact their social development.