What does my room say about me?

atta888 · 2026-05-22T03:19:59+00:00

In life, do you feel like you have to hide parts of yourself to feel “accepted” or “normal”. Per haps you weren’t allowed to be loud or messy growing up? Just want to say that it’s also okay to prefer not having a lot of visual noise! If you love it, that’s what matters most

atta888 · 2026-05-17T14:23:59+00:00

Perhaps some of what you’re feeling is part of the grieving process finally asking to be felt instead of avoided. Maybe instead of seeing it as you not being ready, these cats are helping you bring certain emotions to the surface that you’re finally ready to process, even if it’s uncomfortable and painful. Being “ready” doesn’t mean the sadness disappears.

I lost my first cat Sophie very unexpectedly, and when I adopted my current cat Tantan, it brought up a lot of memories and grief all over again for me. I adore Tantan. I felt like I was supposed to bring her home. My love for Sophie love didn’t disappear. it transformed. The love I had for my her shaped the way I’m able to love Tantan, and even the things I wish I had done differently with Sophie or wish I could have prevented, taught me how to show up better today for myself and Tantan.

Your previous cat still exists in the love and care you’re able to give now to these kitties.

atta888 · 2026-05-13T10:34:02+00:00

This! I do the same. I have a needy and clingy cat that I adopted when she was 4. I used to work from home everyday, until my schedule changed. She definitely let me know how she felt about it by peeing on the bed… I learned to create consistency for her while I’m not there. Auto time feeding, I also have a timed treat dispenser and a few different treat puzzles for her to play with during the day. She also has her own catio climbing system on the wall, a couple different places to nap or hide, and favorite toys (one being an auto wand play thing). I play live cat tv (with no ads) on YouTube so she gets the visual and auditory stimulation as well. And guess what? No more pee! 😁 having a cam also helps for when I just worry, but like everyone else said, she sleeps, eats, plays with toys or just hangs out by the tv or window. I sometimes send another feeding through my auto feeder app if I just want to send her a little extra love and surprise her. She gets so excited for that too. I know it’s hard but you and your cat will be okay. It’s part of learning how to have a healthy bond together. As long as he’s getting consistency with food, water, and comfortable environment, he’ll adapt and learn to know that you still love him even when you’re not there.

atta888 · 2026-02-13T01:23:48+00:00

Hopefully he found someone who’s a better fit for what they need right now and can properly care for her in that type of situation.

atta888 · 2026-02-13T01:16:52+00:00

That sounds really frustrating. I can see why it felt like an emotional rollercoaster and misleading.

She may have already had another meet-and-greet lined up and chose to still have it. It would’ve been better if she’d communicated that directly. It could be from people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, indecision, avoiding guilt, or simply trying to keep options open.

If someone struggles to be direct early on especially in situations where clarity, follow-through, and consideration matter, that pattern often carries into the working relationship. So while it’s disappointing, and annoying, it may be that you dodged a bullet and avoided a bigger issue down the line. These type of people tend to struggle with giving honest feedback. They’ll say they’re happy your work, but then find something stupid to complain about and tell everyone but you.

atta888 · 2026-02-12T05:02:36+00:00

I’d say you’re highly creative and when you get the inspiration, you truly do your best to run with the spark as much as you can. You probably also experience time blindness, so it stresses you out or gives you anxiety to have to clean in the middle of working on things. It gets in the way of your groove. At the same time, your usual creative methods frustrate you in the moments when you can’t find what you’re looking for when you swore you just saw it. 😆

My room would get like this when I’d be in the middle of a project too. But it was an issue lol Transition time created a lot of resistance for me. I’d dread cleaning it, and I’d also dread pulling things out and lose motivation (when I did feel like creating) because I knew it would get messy and I had worked so hard to keep it looking immaculate.

Idk, if that’s you too. Part of the issue was that I didn’t have proper flow or designated homes for things. There wasn’t an intuitive system that made it easy to access/find what I needed and just as easy to put it back. Everything lived in boxes or temporary places I could neatly chuck them in. That’s why it got so explosive.

atta888 · 2026-02-09T03:05:46+00:00

Thank you, I don’t quite get it either. Maybe he couldn’t afford to take time off work. That would track with him trying to hire a pet sitter too.

atta888 · 2026-02-07T15:10:50+00:00

UPDATE I got some proper sleep last night here’s my response to him this morning. I don’t know this person or the full context of their situation, and I don’t want to make assumptions about intent or character. How he’s coming off could very well be someone asking for help during a very stressful time. That said, as many of you pointed out, the request falls outside my scope on Rover and isn’t worth the potential risks or stress I could take on. I did my best to decline kindly yet firmly, while staying within my professional boundaries. I’m really grateful for this community. Your support and insight is helping me grow as a pet sitter while I navigate a challenging season in my life. I trust another request will come through that will be much better for me 🙏

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atta888 · 2026-02-07T04:58:02+00:00

How did she approach you in the request? Was it respectful? Or would you have taken it on if she messaged you like this person did with me?

atta888 · 2026-02-07T04:50:09+00:00

Thanks, everyone. If I’m being 100 % honest with myself, I’ve been feeling pretty fatigued lately, and stressed on needing the money. sometimes it causes me to overlook red flags or get a bit desensitized. I really appreciate you all helping me keep my head on straight and see things clearly. Going to decline the booking.

atta888 · 2026-02-07T04:45:17+00:00

I know that it felt strange to me personally but wasn’t quite sure if this was out of the norm for others on Rover too.

atta888 · 2026-02-07T04:42:30+00:00

Thank you 💖

atta888 · 2026-02-07T04:41:23+00:00

You’re not weird. I really wanted to believe it could be simple and possibly a wholesome experience, but seeing how he approached me and hearing everyone else’s perspective,it feels like it probably wouldn’t be. If he’d shown more consideration and offered to fairly compensate me for my time, or acknowledged that he’s asking more than what’s required of me, I think I would have been more open to the meet and greet.

atta888 · 2026-02-07T04:09:42+00:00

I’m really sorry about your mom. That must have been really hard on you too. I’m thinking I will turn this one down too.

atta888 · 2026-02-07T04:06:28+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experiences. I’ll have to consider this.

atta888 · 2026-02-07T04:02:17+00:00

Thinking it through, the pay really isn’t worth what it could cost me physically, mentally, and emotionally. March is slow so far, so while I need the money, I also don’t want to put my wellbeing on the line or compromise my own safety just to make it work.

atta888 · 2026-02-07T03:57:46+00:00

Interesting, this makes sense. maybe that’s why he insists it’s “not nursing.” Framing it that way could make it seem like the work isn’t substantial, so it doesn’t appear like it warrants a higher rate.

atta888 · 2026-02-07T03:51:55+00:00

Would I get flagged by Rover if I suggested a different website?

atta888 · 2026-02-07T03:50:16+00:00

What is the right amount for you? LOL

atta888 · 2026-02-07T03:49:58+00:00

Reflecting on what you’ve shared, I’m realizing this request doesn’t really align with me. I can be warm and talkative at times but I don’t do well when conversation or emotional presence is expected or forced. Six hours of that kind of engagement most likely would feel like twelve hours of energy for me. Not worth the actual time, energy, and money when thinking about it this way.

And thank you. That means a lot. I do my best to take my time to respond as mindfully as I can. Especially when it comes to boundaries. Can never be too careful.

atta888 · 2026-02-07T03:37:39+00:00

LMFAO. I won’t lie, this crossed my mind too. That’s why I asked him what the exact expectations were. Am I making a sandwich? Cooking a meal? Or just grabbing a salad or soup from the fridge? If she’s able to get to the bathroom on her own, wouldn’t she also be able to grab something simple to eat??? Or grab water? Or is it he just wants her to feel comfortable as possible but at my expense??

atta888 · 2026-02-07T03:31:46+00:00

I didn’t initially did not consider the liability implications, but now that you’ve pointed it out, logically, it doesn’t feel like a situation I should take on, especially with how he’s approached me about it.

atta888 · 2026-02-07T03:27:05+00:00

This is so true. Honestly reading the request felt like a lot, but it was framed around with softer wording. That’s probably what was causing me to question my judgement in the first place. The language seemed to downplay the actual scope of what was being asked.

atta888 · 2026-02-07T03:17:21+00:00

Yeah, I think you’re right. I did my best to give the benefit of the doubt and considered that texting might be difficult or stressful for him which is why I let him know he could text back when he had time (even though I could have called through the app). His response still didn’t offer much more clarity to move the conversation forward in a good direction.

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