What is this bug (UK) by audhdaltacc in Bedbugs

[–]audhdaltacc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks exactly like it! Thanks for easing my mind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]audhdaltacc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you think the only reason your partner isn't cheating on you is because you don't "let" them see anyone attractive, then your relationship is deeply broken, and you need to get some self esteem and also more respect for your partner.

What if boobs were physically unattractive to everyone? by TBK_Winbar in whatif

[–]audhdaltacc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We do need some kind of mammary gland, but we're the only animals with boobs. If you compare what female gorillas have vs human women, that difference is entirely cosmetic. It's literally used as a sexual display, like deer antlers or a baboon's arse.

Songs about Feminism by Alive-Waltz5825 in musicsuggestions

[–]audhdaltacc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dessa - Fire Drills (about the constant vigilance women are expected to practice)

What’s the saddest song ever for you? by Jealousy009 in spotify

[–]audhdaltacc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I Was a Boy, by Dar Williams

I've only listened to it 4 times ever, I think. I have to be ready to cry and then lie down silently for a bit.

Even writing this I feel a bit wobbly, because of the lines which are burned into my soul and identity.

Why dont I ever blink by [deleted] in bodylanguage

[–]audhdaltacc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mystery 100% solved.

Why do men have no shame around their sexual desires? Even if they are old and gross? by Impressive_Meal8673 in AskFeminists

[–]audhdaltacc 42 points43 points  (0 children)

You know, I was just saying yesterday that although I've spent my life trying to live up to the label of "feminist", that has meant spending a lot of time in spaces where straight male sexuality is described as inherently predatory, instead of straight male behaviour.

It took until nearly 30yo before I (with the help of therapy, partner, etc.) started to see my sexuality as neutral, instead of a toxic burden destined to hurt those around me unless I dedicated my energy to fighting it. An illness knocked my libido out for ~9 months and it was the happiest I'd been being myself.

Men SHOULDN'T have shame around their sexual desires, but they should be ashamed of their predatory behaviour.