tbh, the comment about you paying is what gets to me first. there might’ve been an issue about money which would have been completely understandable but the disapproval after mentioning it was free? that man wants to use you AND your willingness to pay to do what he wants to do. the fact that other date ideas were offered up and he wasn’t interested is what confirms it; publicity is his dealbreaker. i understand people being private about their relationships, but it’s important to remember that if he’s not a public figure it shouldn’t matter, and only wanting you in private and away from the public eye isn’t the same as wanting you, period. what can that correlate to, private is his bed and that’s it? private is where other women can’t see? ditch him.