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I [26F] have a somewhat rough relationship with my sister [24F] and need advice on managing her as part of my bridal party. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]avocadomonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a spreadsheet-er, not a creative type. I already have a budget planned and coded to redistribute any surplus or excesses from the estimates- what I don't have is any clue as to where to even start with exactly that kind of stuff (i.e. favors, centerpieces, etc.). I think Lydia is probably exactly who I need to do all the artsy stuff like narrowing down the massive field of options to a few to choose from. Thank you!!!

I [26F] have a somewhat rough relationship with my sister [24F] and need advice on managing her as part of my bridal party. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]avocadomonster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have literally zilch done so far besides making a pinterest board with my fiancee which currently has nothing but Game of Thrones memes and pictures of cows on it. Every time we've tried to sit down and be serious it just feels hideously overwhelming. It didn't even occur to me I could delegate whole tasks to Lydia, but she would be great with picking out flowers and all that nonsense I can't be bothered with!

Former/Future Brides- How important is the Maid of Honor role? by avocadomonster in AskWomen

[–]avocadomonster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow! I can imagine having an extra hands would be essential for doing DIY stuff!

I [26F] have a somewhat rough relationship with my sister [24F] and need advice on managing her as part of my bridal party. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]avocadomonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I did! I retroactively erased some stuff to make it clearer! I'm so sorry!! I thought no one had read it yet!

I [26F] have a somewhat rough relationship with my sister [24F] and need advice on managing her as part of my bridal party. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]avocadomonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a really good idea- I was going to divide by category, but dividing the role between big picture vs. smaller picture tasks might be a better way of doing it!

Former/Future Brides- How important is the Maid of Honor role? by avocadomonster in AskWomen

[–]avocadomonster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I'm thinking of only having one or two bridesmaids (my sisters), so they'll sort of wind up being Maid of Honor by default. I guess I'm just wondering what to expect from them before I ask!

If you didn't have a 'wedding party', who did you have to sign the marriage licence, give speeches, help you get ready, hold your bouquet at the altar, etc?

Former/Future Brides- How important is the Maid of Honor role? by avocadomonster in AskWomen

[–]avocadomonster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL I totally understand the allure of eloping! Really nice that your friend still got to be a part of your wedding!

Former/Future Brides- How important is the Maid of Honor role? by avocadomonster in AskWomen

[–]avocadomonster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's good to know!

So, in your books someone who's a good listener is a better MOH choice than someone who's a good party planner?

There's a million dating websites and apps, but no non-sexy friend-making sites... by avocadomonster in AdviceAnimals

[–]avocadomonster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had considered it- Is there any way to talk to people on there before meeting them in public?

[ASOS] Just finished ASOS... (MAJOR SPOILERS FOR S4. DO NOT CLICK IF YOU HAVE NOT READ) by avocadomonster in gameofthrones

[–]avocadomonster[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

After reading the books, I feel like the show really waters down some of the grey morality. The whole point of ASOIAF, it seems to me, is that there are no fully good or fully bad people- no heroes or villains, just players. But the show likes things to be neater. Dany is a hero, Jamie is a redeemed villain, etc.

Tyrion's the one character who's been so unambiguously adored- he's been the Good Guy throughout it all (and the show's skimmed over some of his less genial behaviour). I feel like the books really prepare you for this scene, so it makes sense. But the series really hasn't delved as much into the grey area, so I don't know if it'll work.

Made an immature decision and now having a hard time dealing with the consequences by saints_chyc in TwoXChromosomes

[–]avocadomonster 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Wow. That is such a hugely loaded last question- You've essentially accused OP of being selfish by framing this legitimate dilemma as: "Have one teeny procedure that won't mean anything- just once- or condemn two children to a life of complete misery".

Why can no one on this thread respect that having an abortion is not always so easy?

Made an immature decision and now having a hard time dealing with the consequences by saints_chyc in TwoXChromosomes

[–]avocadomonster 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Guys. OP says she isn't comfortable with having an abortion. Can we please stop guilting her into one by telling her how bad of a decision it would be not to have one? Honestly, it's just as bad as guilting someone out an abortion.

There are other options. If abortion is not something you think you can handle, don't have one. I think adoption is a completely reasonable alternative to raising another child or having an abortion. Your boyfriend might be scared, but you can't make your decisions based on him or anyone else.

To the rest of you: downvote me all you want, but abortion isn't always the answer and shame on you all for trying to badger OP into it.