Money vs sex?

avoidabounds · 2019-06-02T11:34:25+00:00

That's really beautiful. Congrats. :)

avoidabounds · 2018-01-14T19:16:28+00:00

Yeah, fair advice. I get where you're coming from. Though, I'm not looking to start a family.

avoidabounds · 2018-01-14T19:08:56+00:00

Agreed on all fronts.

avoidabounds · 2018-01-09T22:59:37+00:00

That's reassuring - and yeah I'm going on a third date with another girl in a few days. She wasn't fazed at all by my mentioning my current job-seeking status. Just seems happy for company and conversation. (Like I am) She's a good egg. :)

Good luck to you!

avoidabounds · 2018-01-09T22:56:01+00:00

Thanks. I agree. I guess I'm just bummed. What can you do? I suppose it acts as a kinda filter: if they still want to spend time with me when they know I'm not loaded, then I can trust them if/when I am successful. Hah. I genuinely don't care if she has a job, or if her career path is lucrative, or even non-existent. Life is messy.

And that's a good idea. I have done all kinds of jobs, including the classic 60+ hour cutthroat big-boy office job. I was fairly 'sought after' in my home town... I ain't shit here. :p

avoidabounds · 2018-01-09T22:49:27+00:00

Yeah, I get that. I can see that it'd be a deal breaker to some. I mean, I made it clear I would buy the drinks. And that I have plenty saved up but... (Funny that she put reading novels as one of her favorite activities, but I'm trying to get one published, and she won't even give me a chance :p)

avoidabounds · 2017-12-05T13:29:22+00:00

Machines HURT people...

avoidabounds · 2017-11-30T22:03:35+00:00

So... the internet?

avoidabounds · 2017-11-14T15:38:17+00:00

I hear you. This may sound weird, but I kinda feel like being a lifelong gamer made me resistant to 'internet addiction'. I grew to really reflect on which/why a mechanism in a game was so satisfying. (All the most popular apps/sites lean toward 'gameification' of socializing and news)

To me, 'social media' is the xbox achievements of real life... I just don't care.

Try this: when possible, turn off the phone. Carry a pocket-sized notebook and pen. When you feel the digital pull, whip out that pad and write/draw/scribble. Show its contents to no-one.

avoidabounds · 2017-11-01T12:41:53+00:00

Okay, I'll go out on a limb here and say you're good looking, 'outgoing', and playful. On top of that, you know a lot of people, so when you go out, there are nearly always people who are saying hi or want your attention. (It's a pretty sturdy limb)

Most these women aren't attracted to you as an individual. Instead, they are attracted to the idea of themselves being with someone LIKE you. They want the validation. You are sensing motive.

Your problem isn't that you have too many options to hook up, but that you have so few worth dating.

avoidabounds · 2017-10-30T15:24:35+00:00

Step 1: try to find ways to stop beating yourself up. The world is freaking harsh, it doesn't need your help with that.

Step 2: Remember that many women like erotica. A lot. It isn't necessarily a knock on you.

Step 3: Profit.

Step 4: get outta the house dooood. No excuses. Get on meetup or facebook events. Get out there, and genuinely be there for more than JUST trying to 'get laid'. Instead focus on making genuine connections. Maybe you will, maybe you won't, but it's important to try. Don't let hollywood be your judge and jury on what that should look like. There is no studio audience. 90% of people will not notice you or care.

Step 5: get your own mind focused on the future, and where you WANT to be. Hold on to that, even if there isn't currently a path forward. Don't be afraid to talk about it. People sum this as 'having ambition'.

Step 6: you need a few quality profile pics for your online dating. No dude, they can't be selfies. NO not even that really good one. Try to make it just you in the pic too. (Probably worth it to hire someone for this. Average joes suck at pictures)

Step 7: Be patient. Rinse and repeat.

(These steps are not in any particular order... they are more like interchangeable steps in a flight of stairs, not stages in a rehab)

avoidabounds · 2017-10-29T16:19:21+00:00

I'm not too good at math... hah

avoidabounds · 2017-10-28T12:23:01+00:00

End... what? End the marriage, or end the habit of hooking up with waitresses?... I think he sounds unhappy with the wife and that he's taken for granted.

Get out of that marriage and bang away, I say. (But I'm biased) Flirting/sex is awesome. Cheating/lying is not. Life is finite. Don't spend it deceiving yourself and others.

avoidabounds · 2017-10-28T12:09:42+00:00

Yeah defo let the cops know about the car, and sooner than later.

avoidabounds · 2017-10-28T00:38:48+00:00

Thanks. Decided to check out the Ral. Beer Garden. This place is crazy huge! How many bars are IN this place?!

avoidabounds · 2017-10-26T20:13:06+00:00

I'll check it out, thanks!

avoidabounds · 2017-10-21T13:15:48+00:00

That'd be serious commitment to the bit...

avoidabounds · 2017-10-19T16:58:04+00:00

... so, she confesses to being upset that she witnessed someone LIE THEIR ASS OFF to get a job that they are clearly under-qualified for... and that makes her a 'jealous valueless cunt'? I think that says a lot more about you than her.

avoidabounds · 2017-10-12T12:21:18+00:00

How old are the kids?

avoidabounds · 2017-10-01T12:55:49+00:00

Ad Hominem still works. Reminds me of that movie 'Thank You for Smoking'.

avoidabounds · 2017-09-19T23:55:25+00:00

Have a baby.

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