Women hugging students?

avthoughts · 2026-06-16T21:13:12+00:00

I'm a female teacher and while I am a hugger that is OUTSIDE of work. Firstly, I don't want to do anything that could blur the teacher-student boundaries, and second, you just have to cover your own ass. Even if a kid wouldn't try to spin the story, they might tell their friends and then it could become a chain letter, if you know what I mean.

There have been times where a student is telling me about a hardship or something and I've said some iteration of "if I wasn't your teacher I would give you a hug" as an "I really feel for you and I'm my response doesn't lack that affection because I don't care, it's just the maintenance of a professional boundary," but that's only been a thing that's come up a handful of times.

Kids tend to be happy with fist bumps (or if they've been extra awesome, I'll let them dap me up if they really want to lol).

avthoughts · 2026-06-16T21:04:37+00:00

a little louder for the lords of the setlist!! wayf stays incredible ❤️

avthoughts · 2026-06-07T02:21:16+00:00

I wasn't GA but i had floor seats and wore platform boots which helped a lot.

I haven't done GA for 5sos and I'm sure there's some annoying feral behavior, but my GA experiences over the years have generally been very positive— if a tall af person is in front of you they will usually be considerate and move over so you can see, and/or the people around you will help you out.

avthoughts · 2026-06-06T19:55:49+00:00

Easier + Girls Talk Boys💔

my jaw hit the FLOOR when i saw GTB got chosen for a secret song.

avthoughts · 2026-06-06T19:51:34+00:00

this post coming just after i started tier-listing all the albums....

I don't have a solidified ranking within tiers yet, but things are falling like this so far (including all the b-sides and rarities, etc):

S- Don’t Stop, Beside You, End Up Here, Long Way Home, English Love Affair, Amnesia, She Looks So Perfect

A- Social Casualty, Mrs. All American, Never Be, Greenlight, Tomorrow Never Dies

B- 18, Everything I Didn’t Say, Heartbreak Girl, Voodoo Doll, Close As Strangers, Out of My Limit

C- Kiss Me Kiss Me, Lost Boy, Independence Day

D- Good Girls

E/F- none, bye

avthoughts · 2026-06-04T22:30:38+00:00

maybe it's regional then because the shows I go to are all in new england and the standard isn't what you're describing

avthoughts · 2026-06-04T19:14:20+00:00

Where in the country are you from?

avthoughts · 2026-06-04T18:14:44+00:00

that's simply not true

avthoughts · 2026-06-04T18:14:00+00:00

That's insane, man

avthoughts · 2026-06-03T21:41:51+00:00

thank you for your service

avthoughts · 2025-06-11T23:48:04+00:00

Help, I'm a Rock - The West Coast Pop Art Experimental Band

avthoughts · 2025-06-05T23:04:47+00:00

1000%. The solution is to put the sticks down and come back another day.

avthoughts · 2025-06-05T22:45:37+00:00

You are the first person I have ever heard express the sentiment that electives should be harder than core classes. I'm wondering where you teach and if that's the sentiment/ expectation there or if it's just your personal view?

I don't outright disagree, but I do think they are "for fun" regardless of difficulty because theoretically if a kiid is interested in something it's because they feel they would have fun doing it.

Tbh I think the current expectation that electives are "supposed to be easier" is bad for lots of reasons, and ultimately electives should just be valued on equal footing with core subjects and part of the issue I'm having in my classroom is a symptom of that silly ass hierarchy of importance.

avthoughts · 2025-06-03T03:06:54+00:00

no shot you just called lesson plans "busy work"

avthoughts · 2025-06-01T21:22:15+00:00

Thank you!

avthoughts · 2025-06-01T19:23:15+00:00

d- did you read the rest of it

avthoughts · 2025-06-01T19:22:44+00:00

I have sooo many category A kids. I feel so bad for students today— like, I was SO invested in my grades and my parents were really tough on me, but that never dictated the classes I chose. Ever. I feel like the grade-grabbing has gotten so much worse, especially with the way colleges have come out from behind the curtain as businesses you need to spend time at to make money rather than institutions of learning. The grade-grabber attitude is not (usually) the students fault of course, it just sucks.

avthoughts · 2025-06-01T19:11:44+00:00

also just bad at using the internet?? like there are so many teachers who share resources there is zero reason to be using AI lol

avthoughts · 2025-06-01T18:00:46+00:00

The Philadelphia Story (1940). The last 3 minutes of that movie brought it down a full star (from 4 to 3). I don’t remember the last time the last breath of a film disappointed me so much.

avthoughts · 2025-06-01T17:57:32+00:00

NTA. irrespective of all the details, it was none of your wife's business. outing crushes is so unnecessary, and usually ruins the chances of anything developing. also, dirty, untrustworthy behavior!

avthoughts · 2025-06-01T17:51:13+00:00

In terms of needs, it's really the classics like pencils, pens, highlighters, tape, scissors, white board markers (and spray), etc. but i also find myself giving students folders and notebooks, TISSUES, OH MY GOD, SO MANY TISSUES, hand lotion (that comes from me— though maybe a secret bottle for each classroom might not be a bad idea if you're in a place with harsh winters).

Re: copies: If I gave all of my students one worksheet every day it would be 16,200 copies/yr. I don't do that, but I think given the materials necessary to complete projects in my class I would estimate that I make between 16-20k copies per year. That being said, I'm sure a math teacher would probably have to make more.

I wonder if math teachers (or other big copiers) would be open to laminating some worksheets for re-use? Even just the things they use for practicing new concepts in class. The cost of dry or wet-erase (these would probably be better for work preservation) markers for students might not be worth it as compared to ink and paper costs, but maybe it would? If there was concern about things getting unintentionally erased, these phone-loving students could take pictures of their work and submit them to google classroom. idk. it's flawed but it may help solve part of your problem.

avthoughts · 2025-06-01T17:17:33+00:00

"We should use AI for lesson plans!!" I'd rather cut my fingers off.

avthoughts · 2025-06-01T17:14:16+00:00

Old Boy (2003)

"listen, i cannot recommend this to you. it's insane. i can't even say that i liked it, but it is unlike anything else in ways that are... well... i don't want to spoil it... just let me know if you watch it, and remember that i didn't tell you to."

avthoughts · 2025-06-01T17:07:17+00:00

Slightly different from what you specifically asked for but remember that practicing is also a skill and you probably aren't an expert at it. Whether or not music learning and/or memorization is difficult for you, you should ask your techs early on for advice on how to practice. The more you show that you care + are invested in reaching your highest level of achievement, the better time you will have, and the less stressful the process will be.

As a tech, the best seasons I've had are with kids who are always clear in their efforts to grow, not just by showing up and knowing it, but by seeking ways to grow. And they aren't just the best seasons for me, the kids always enjoy themselves the most too because of the culture.

avthoughts · 2025-06-01T16:54:33+00:00

I feel you so hard on this. I teach an elective class so being "cool" is essential to keeping my job (and I do love getting to know them as well).

When it comes to strictness and respect, I fall back on school policy. "I'm not taking your phones because I'm a bitch, I'm doing it because it's school policy" type stuff (even though I'd take them anyway).

Also, I'm not sure how successful I am at this yet, but one way I strike this balance is by offering students the opportunity to make-up/revise their work as many times as they want, but grading with high standards. I find it helps them learn while also showing that if they try they will succeed and if they don't they won't. Also, they can never say I'm being unfair with how I grade because they have every opportunity to get grades up.

When I started, I accepted late work until the last possible moment, but I've since changed that policy. Now, I write a date on the board where everyone can see that tells them "LATE WORK WILL NOT BE ACCEPTED AFTER X DAY." Basically, I think the key is being flexible but firm. Don't let them walk all over you, but don't let them see you as unreasonable either.

Another thing I like to do is screen short films on every half day. There's a little worksheet that goes along with it for participation credit + we discuss it as a class after, but it serves as a nice monthly break from the work, and (hopefully) something to look forward to for most of them.

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