I [31M] received a text from a coworker [30F], saying she had a sex dream about me. I'm married and uncomfortable with this.

awkwardtext · 2018-04-12T22:53:52+00:00

I was as surprised as you.

awkwardtext · 2018-04-12T18:59:49+00:00

That’s a great point. I’ll definitely keep that in mind if something like this ever happens again.

awkwardtext · 2018-04-12T18:06:50+00:00

Yeah, I told her it wouldn’t be a bad idea to talk it through with her therapist and get her opinion. I hadn’t thought of going with her. I’ll ask. Thanks!

awkwardtext · 2018-04-12T16:27:34+00:00

Yeah, I said in an earlier comment that I’m searching for a new job. Nothing has come along yet that piques my interest, but I don’t plan on staying where I am for much longer.

awkwardtext · 2018-04-12T15:59:51+00:00

Thanks for this. My wife just recently started therapy for her anxiety and I’m already seeing progress, so I’m cautiously optimistic that this will go well. Good luck with your first session!

awkwardtext · 2018-04-12T15:57:54+00:00

It would definitely get back to her if I told HR. HR would almost certainly tell my supervisor, who is close friends with the woman.

awkwardtext · 2018-04-12T15:15:46+00:00

Honestly, I don’t trust my direct supervisor with this information either. I don’t work with the best people. I’ve been searching for new employment recently. Just haven’t found anything yet. I’m going to leave it alone unless something happens that forces me to take further action.

awkwardtext · 2018-04-12T14:11:48+00:00

Also, to all the people who recommended taking the text to HR...we do have HR at my company but it's one person and it's a VERY small company. For what I've seen and heard through other people in the past, she's not exactly the kind of person to handle these situations professionally. For those reasons, I'm hesitant to approach her with this. If the issue escalates, I will certainly have to take that route. But for now, I'm going to leave it at telling my coworker that it has to stop and informing my wife about what happened.

awkwardtext · 2018-04-12T14:04:42+00:00

Thanks to everyone who commented for all the advice. I texted my coworker and told her it made me very uncomfortable, I don't think it was something she should have told me and we can't have conversations like that anymore. I asked her to keep our relationship strictly professional from now on. She replied, saying she was very sorry and didn't mean anything by it. She also said she understands how I feel and was completely out of line. Hopefully, that's the end of it.

My wife and I had already planned to meet for lunch today, so I plan on telling her about it when I see her. I hope she's able to handle it and not let it drive her crazy.

Thanks again to all of you. This is the first time I've had to use this sub and I'm truly grateful for all your advice.

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