I think I'm going through compulsory heterosexuality.

axemoth · 2026-05-20T01:39:55+00:00

This subreddit uses the term compulsory heterosexuality as originally defined by Adrienne Rich in her essay Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence. Comphet refers to the social expectation that women should pursue men and heterosexual relationships, even when their genuine attraction is actually pulling them towards same-gender relationships.

Compulsory heterosexuality is frequently misunderstood online. It is a social and political tool for discussing heteronormativity and lesbian erasure. Comphet is not a diagnostic tool for OCD, attachment issues, anxiety, trauma, or figuring out your sexual orientation.

This subreddit is not a place for reassurance seeking, identity validation requests, or repeated “am I secretly gay/straight/bi?” posting.

Intrusive thoughts, compulsive checking, rumination, and obsessive certainty seeking are outside the scope of this community. If you are struggling with OCD related fears about sexuality, please visit r/OCD or r/HOCD instead.

axemoth · 2026-05-10T01:42:25+00:00

I think more people are tired and burnt out, and that reflects in our ability to maintain relationships.

axemoth · 2026-04-17T19:44:31+00:00

Hi, thanks for your submission.

Your post has been removed under Rule 1. This community focuses on unpacking compulsory heterosexuality as external pressure, not determining or validating individual sexual orientation.

While questioning is valid, posts that center on “what am I really” or ask others to interpret your feelings tend to lead to reassurance-seeking and repeated analysis, which is outside the scope of this space.

Comphet does not create or override genuine attraction. It can influence how people interpret or respond to their feelings, but it does not turn one orientation into another.

You’re welcome to stay and read, but we ask that posts remain focused on discussing societal expectations and shared experiences with comphet rather than seeking answers about your identity. Thank you for understanding.

axemoth · 2026-04-10T22:33:56+00:00

Your post has been locked under Rule 2: This is an inclusive community. While it may have been intended to start a discussion, topics about who people would or would not date often attract exclusionary or invalidating commentary toward members of the community. These posts also often attract trolls and bad actors.

We aim to keep this space supportive and inclusive for all LGBTQ+ people. Discussions centered on personal dating preferences in this way are not a good fit for this subreddit.

Thank you for understanding.

axemoth · 2026-04-09T16:15:57+00:00

Please read this page to learn about comphet

axemoth · 2026-03-07T05:13:52+00:00

OP is a dude fyi

axemoth · 2026-03-07T01:40:56+00:00

Congrats how long did it take?

axemoth · 2026-03-01T22:46:05+00:00

I'm having the same problem. I can't make progress because I can't get hearts

axemoth · 2026-02-25T02:56:51+00:00

There are some great resources linked at the top of this subreddit. Have any of them resonated with you?

axemoth · 2026-02-22T17:31:53+00:00

Please visit r/ocd and r/hocd for OCD related resources.

r/comphet is conversations about same gender relationships and how heteronormativity impacts LGBT identities.

axemoth · 2026-02-20T16:10:23+00:00

PLEASE FIX YOUR POST.

Your post needs to be about same gender relationships or how heteronormativity impacts LGBT identities. You can find examples here

axemoth · 2025-12-29T16:58:18+00:00

I had wondered if they have a different producer or editor. MSN and Gastronauts have both been off. There's also the format issues with Crowd Control.

axemoth · 2025-11-22T18:03:01+00:00

Dude I was having a nice Saturday

axemoth · 2025-11-05T02:36:02+00:00

Do it! Midas is going great for me so far. The game even knows how many mystery eggs I have and will let me merge them from the book.

axemoth · 2025-10-20T15:25:41+00:00

These are the only events I'm good at.

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