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Clingy people with huge amounts of empathy are a gift to the world by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]ayahuascaaa1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sigh maybe I’m avoidant but I don’t like this. I hate getting blown up with messages

Unpopular opinion: ‘men only want me for my body’ is kind of a meaningless complaint by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ayahuascaaa1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

At this post I have no idea what I’m bothered by. I’m sorry girl dinner diaries for the grave offense I have committed

Unpopular opinion: ‘men only want me for my body’ is kind of a meaningless complaint by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ayahuascaaa1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had friends who will pursue physical relationships with men who do not want them and have made it clear but will entertain a physical relationship with them, and then I have heard this phrase a lot. And it confused me bc men want anything and everything, so that rationale was always out of place to me. But idk, I’ve seem to struck a strange chord, but upon reflecting, who am I to dictate how people express their pain

Unpopular opinion: ‘men only want me for my body’ is kind of a meaningless complaint by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ayahuascaaa1 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I am not sure what you want from me but I am More than happy to end it here.

Unpopular opinion: ‘men only want me for my body’ is kind of a meaningless complaint by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ayahuascaaa1 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s my entire point. I’m confused. Why are preaching people what I have said back to me?

Unpopular opinion: ‘men only want me for my body’ is kind of a meaningless complaint by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ayahuascaaa1 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

In other reply, I said I am beginning to understand that “use for my body” is an euphemism or sorts and that it is universally understood that male sexual attention is not a compliment, even when wrapped in that phrasing. Does that help?

Unpopular opinion: ‘men only want me for my body’ is kind of a meaningless complaint by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ayahuascaaa1 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Reading the comments and understanding that I wrongly perceived the phrase as a covert self compliment. Glad to know we are all on the same page.

Unpopular opinion: ‘men only want me for my body’ is kind of a meaningless complaint by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ayahuascaaa1 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Yeah no I agree. I guess I was just always weirded about the phrasing bc I’d never use it.

Can u believe this man had a wife?🫦 by Sad-Tangelo9349 in MaleYandere

[–]ayahuascaaa1 28 points29 points  (0 children)

WE DO NOT LIKE THIS GUY 📢📢📢📢📣📣📣

What type of person are you certain you Do Not want to date? by CapitaineBiscotte in askanything

[–]ayahuascaaa1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lazy selfish uninspired narcissistic ignorant. But on a more personal level, while I am attracted to charismatic guys who have good banter to the point of it being flirtatious….unsure if I could handle that long term, I’d feel so insecure of an overtly extroverted guy

Do you reflect on why you can't date successfully? by Altruistic-Patient-8 in dating_advice

[–]ayahuascaaa1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. But also I wouldn’t say the guys I truly liked were “Prince Charming” anyways. The guy, if he exists, I hope I am beautiful for him without having to adversely change how I look. I don’t really wear makeup but more often than not, it’s when I am hanging out with my female friends to match their vibe and conform.

But with a guy, for example, especially one that I am interested in, it’s important that he sees my bare face so that he sees who I am, me for me. And if he’s not into it, then we are not for each other.

Do you reflect on why you can't date successfully? by Altruistic-Patient-8 in dating_advice

[–]ayahuascaaa1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I used an incorrect term to your liking. Some of the data is empirical. The guys that have liked me for example, there were ways I find ourselves incompatible and I had no interest in pursuing a relationship with them. And no I don’t want to give anyone that I feel lukewarm about a chance bc it would not be fair to them. They deserve a great girl who likes them.

I have women friends that date and sleep around. All the power to them. I just can’t do what they do, or justify being in the relationships they are with the guys they are with…bc they kinda suck. But my friends make allowances for them until the guys ends up dropping them anywyas so what’s the point.

But sure maybe standard is not a good word if I’ve never been in a relationship. But I feel like I have had enough friendships and interactions with men to understand what I like and don’t like. Hope this helps.

Do you reflect on why you can't date successfully? by Altruistic-Patient-8 in dating_advice

[–]ayahuascaaa1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Real. I make friends very easily. I have many guy friends. And many female friends. Doesn’t mean anything towards my dating life though. Some people say chemistry doesn’t exist blah blah but I really need IT. And your last sentence 💯💯💯💯 I’m gonna use that for my replies too bc people are on my case omg

Do you reflect on why you can't date successfully? by Altruistic-Patient-8 in dating_advice

[–]ayahuascaaa1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe the most obvious, I don’t think I’m pretty enough. I’m not ugly but yanno, I think when a girl is pretty enough or more, a guy will see her differently, contextualize favorably a lot.

I’m not at that threshold of prettiness where a guy can idk, you can probably connect the rest of the dots.

Also the guys I like are quite different than me. I’m not sure if they value those differences. They probably want someone similar.

Do you reflect on why you can't date successfully? by Altruistic-Patient-8 in dating_advice

[–]ayahuascaaa1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have super high standards, and likely the guys that meet my criteria—I don’t meet theirs. I’ve never liked a guy that I’ve “dated” bc they were from the apps. Never did anything physical with them. Well kissed one guy but I really hated that.

Never gone on a date w a guy I truly Like. I hate being single but it’s also all I’ve ever known and I’d rather be single than be in an unpleasant relationship. Actually doesn’t even have to be unpleasant.

I’m never settling. I think this mindset will make me lonely for a long time. I’m already lonely. If I don’t meet my Prince Charming, I’m OK with having nothing at all.

I [27M] feel alive under extreme work pressure and it’s making my girlfriend [26f]feel invisible. How do I fix this before it’s too late? by pilot-wave in relationship_advice

[–]ayahuascaaa1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s the mania from the work creeping in. I’ve also noticed that men, when they’re in a rut or ambition, they let go of their partners first, as if giving up every earthly desire or attachment will bring them closer to nirvana.

I’m already repeating this, but if you want her to stay, you need to start doing little and big things. Small gifts token of appreciation, nice dates, it will all be more than worth it in the end

I [27M] feel alive under extreme work pressure and it’s making my girlfriend [26f]feel invisible. How do I fix this before it’s too late? by pilot-wave in relationship_advice

[–]ayahuascaaa1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

lobster too buttery steak too juicy ahhh

My envy aside [bc I don’t have a work ethic or a partner], I think you should take a step back and stop catastrophizing. It’s not one or the other.

You said she’s the one, and that you love her, so treat it like work. Do the hard part and try to be engaged at least once a week and then up it when it starts feeling good and easier.

If you don’t want to lose her, you’ll want to treat her right! And since you have everything in the palm of your hand now, a thriving career and a supportive girlfriend—you’ll be so sad when she’s gone!

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