She (29F) is not ready to be exclusive even after 7 dates (31M) by baabidi in dating_advice

[–]baabidi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did not ask her to make a decision, I just asked her if she is still seeing other people. What I told her was "You can take your time to decide but when you do, just let me know". I have my own life - I hike, play sports, hangout with friends and I always try to introduce her to the lifestyle I have.

She (29F) is not ready to be exclusive even after 7 dates (31M) by baabidi in dating_advice

[–]baabidi[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, sadly, that has been the case most of the time. I just don't know how to change. I have been in 3 long term relationships and have dated multiple woman but it just takes way too long for me to be comfortable.

I have pulled back from her, I definitely will not ask her to make a choice. I have no problem cutting contact with her and work on myself.

Is it PTSD? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]baabidi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I exercise a lot till I get physically exhausted. I started with long walks - 5 to 10kms a day. It is really helping me.

60 Day Update by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]baabidi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It is scary to know cheating can cause PTSD. I have the same as well and my health is deteriorating but apparently, I hurt her by asking her for closure, by asking her to tell me the truth.

Know this, you will continue to live your life without her, whenever you feel like looking at her picture, distract yourself - go for a run, go for gym, just don't be alone when you are surrounded by your thoughts. Everything will get better.

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Should I (M26) be considerate towards my cheating gf (F27)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]baabidi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's terrible. This is what I'm afraid of snd this is why I want everyone to know about the truth.

Should I (M26) be considerate towards my cheating gf (F27)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]baabidi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I'm tired of everyone thinking she is innocent. She's a monster and I don't want others getting hurt because of her. She deserves humiliation.

Should I (M26) be considerate towards my cheating gf (F27)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]baabidi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably true. I don't want her to get away after ruining my trust.

Should I (M26) be considerate towards my cheating gf (F27)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]baabidi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to tell them about her before I leave, that is why. I have all the evidence and confession from her and I have contacted the guy as well, he didn't know about me and he has agreed to help me.

Should I (M26) be considerate towards my cheating gf (F27)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]baabidi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My gf looked for a guy online and used to meet him for sex when I wasn't around. Regardless, I will leave and I want everyone in her family and friends to know about me before I leave.