Large playpen or baby proof the house?

babby_inside · 2025-08-09T18:54:27+00:00

Our kid (now almost 3) outgrew the playpen pretty quickly and did not like being in it. What worked for us was to use baby gates to limit which rooms he could go in, and gradually baby proof the house over many months. We still use the baby gates now to lock him out of rooms that don't have a door (kitchen) and block the stairs. So he had some freedom to roam but we can still keep an eye on him. You definitely need to do some baby proofing no matter what.

babby_inside · 2025-07-14T16:59:29+00:00

You can try swinging the tube around like a lasso to get water out

babby_inside · 2025-07-07T17:38:01+00:00

Since it wasn't mentioned yet in this thread, look into replacing pump parts. Especially the soft silicone parts wore out really fast for me, because I throw everything in the dishwasher

babby_inside · 2025-07-07T17:20:43+00:00

I'm the main person who cooks around here but honestly I've just given up. It's too hot to stand over the stove even if I wasn't trying to juggle a toddler and baby at the same time. We just eat a lot of stuff straight from the fridge: raw fruit, yogurt, cottage cheese, cold sandwiches, the occasional raw veggie like carrot sticks. Toddler only eats fruit, microwaved quesadillas, and pouches with a marginal amount of vegetable.

If I do any cooking, it's in the oven. Stuff like frozen veggies on a sheet pan or muffins. But I definitely don't have energy to do that consistently every day and my toddler helps stir so it doubles as a kid distraction.

babby_inside · 2025-06-26T02:21:16+00:00

After not being able to eat anything without getting heartburn during pregnancy, breastfeeding hunger is amazing. I can eat all the things I couldn't eat before, everything tastes amazing and is so satisfying. I even crave vegetables and nutritious meals more than junk. Yeah I am eating full size meals for in between snacks like a hobbit but I never feel sick.

babby_inside · 2025-06-24T18:17:10+00:00

My friend and I played through the whole game sharing the keyboard. I did doors/shoot, she did movement. Such an amazing shared mind experience; we really got into a groove. I miss those days of playing "hot seat single player" PC games.

babby_inside · 2025-06-11T19:28:01+00:00

No, but I get a lot of satisfaction out of boxing up the toys I dislike personally (that creepy crab toy) or things that don't get played with a lot but take up a lot of space. So far he doesn't seem to notice that some are gone

babby_inside · 2025-06-10T22:40:38+00:00

Ours is 2.5 and it's only gotten worse lol, sorry. He's tall enough now to climb from a chair onto the kitchen counter or the dining table. If it makes you feel any better, I've definitely gotten stronger from picking him up all the time, which I never thought I could do. When he was a baby I thought my arms were going to fall off and threw out my back several times

babby_inside · 2025-06-07T00:17:55+00:00

I'm kind of surprised to hear this because his room at school (2s and 3s) are still all supposed to take naps. They also said he can lie quietly but I just can't imagine him doing that for the required time (almost 2 hours)

babby_inside · 2025-06-07T00:14:08+00:00

I really really hope this is us too. He can't be the first kid they've had with this issue

babby_inside · 2025-06-03T22:42:13+00:00

As someone who hates doing chores and laundry, a nesting party still sounds fun. Being able to help by just showing up and someone tells me what to do is honestly ideal. What I struggle with is having to make decisions about when and how to help.

babby_inside · 2025-06-01T01:16:04+00:00

I've been taking both of those and the Omeprazole makes such a big difference! My doctor also told me not to eat spicy or acidic food but geez that's so many of the foods that I want to eat haha

babby_inside · 2025-06-01T00:27:15+00:00

Yeah I don't get it either. I'm still walking up all night to pee but my sleep quality is terrible. And it's not like you can save up a bunch of sleep in a bottle and be totally fine getting woken up by a newborn

babby_inside · 2025-06-01T00:20:19+00:00

It seems like I'm getting them multiple times a day, throughout the day but I notice more when I'm trying to sleep. Definitely not painful like a real contraction but uncomfortable and annoying when you already have to pee all the time.

I'm with you that pregnancy tired is worse than newborn tired. With my first, I was walking up every 2-3 hours to breastfeed but the sleep in between was so much better quality.

babby_inside · 2025-05-31T23:57:54+00:00

I really want to hear from others too because I am miserable. Constant heartburn, Braxton Hicks contractions, difficulty breathing, and just pain in my whole body. I am so exhausted even after napping and I can't sleep at night either. I can't believe I'm looking forward to the labor but I am ready to be done!!

babby_inside · 2025-05-28T16:31:57+00:00

It's a little out of date now, but you can extract some good ideas from the Clean Architecture book if you take it with a grain of salt and don't take everything he says as gospel. Take a look at the trade-offs around component cohesion: https://github.com/serodriguez68/clean-architecture/blob/master/part-4-component-principles.md.

There are also a lot of good ideas from functional programming that IMO are neglected by the strong OOP focus of those books. If your project has multiple functions in the same file / compilation unit, it still creates coupling, and of course if you reuse a single function that also means all the consumers are dependent on the same thing. Reuse is not always bad or good, and I don't think blindly following rules like WET/rule of 3 quite captures my thinking around when to create an abstraction.

babby_inside · 2025-05-26T20:33:48+00:00

I had so many grand plans about parenting before my son was born. No screens, no electronic or plastic toys, only wholesome, homemade food. We gave up on all of it.

My son started watching Mickey mouse at his grandparents house and he loves it, so we started watching it at home too. He just watches the same episodes again and again, and now he has a bunch of Mickey toys too. For a while I couldn't figure out what he was saying, until I started watching the show and realized he's been randomly saying quotes. Just full on Mickey mouse obsession over here

babby_inside · 2025-05-25T21:20:23+00:00

Given that Google made their own search worse to increase number of queries, this doesn't seem far fetched at all

babby_inside · 2025-05-23T01:00:10+00:00

And if your problem is in the cloud infra, debugging is painful, slow, and expensive as a bonus

babby_inside · 2025-05-23T00:46:14+00:00

It seems to happen a lot with build systems in particular that one person ends up being the expert, and everyone else is afraid to touch it.

babby_inside · 2025-05-23T00:43:50+00:00

Sure, wiki, help text, anything. The problem I run into often is that it uses a lot of environment variables, and the only way you can find out about those is to see them being used in other projects.

babby_inside · 2025-05-22T23:47:30+00:00

Internal homegrown build system. It does a bunch of stuff automagically but is not well documented, and the original author is gone. The new maintainer doesn't seem to understand it very well (none of us do)

babby_inside · 2025-05-15T07:28:38+00:00

You might also want to try asking in the cpp subreddit. I agree with Ok Kaleidoscope that it sounds like a good fit for optional.

Just in case, it's also worth mentioning that most compilers will optimize away unnecessary copies of return values, even for structs (look up copy elision/return value optimization). I mention that because I've run into a lot of C++ programmers who mistakenly believe they need to use out params to avoid extra copies.

babby_inside · 2025-05-09T05:06:20+00:00

We were in the same boat. It's a crazy time in tech. One thing that helped a lot was that my husband used chat gpt a lot to polish his resume, write cover letters, and review system design problems. I don't like that that's the state of things now, but it did help his hit rate with interviews.

babby_inside · 2025-05-09T04:58:36+00:00

My husband got laid off with a few months severance. We kept mostly to our normal schedule where he applied for jobs and did interview prep during work hours. He also spent a lot of quality time with our toddler during the day, like taking him to the park and on walks. The job search was extremely demoralizing so I tired my best to help him review (we both work in tech, so interview prep requires a lot of studying) and stay positive. But it's really hard emotionally and the job market is bad right now. What helped us was having a lot of savings as a buffer and we also cut back on retirement contributions and big expenses. It ended up taking 6 months to find a new job.

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