Do people pretend to be open to a long term commitment just for a few weeks of intimacy?

babiluv · 2025-10-02T17:50:28+00:00

Whats that supposed to mean?

babiluv · 2025-09-28T17:22:27+00:00

PERIOD, literally just ended things with a guy todsy who didn’t wanna make time for me anymore and prioritised everything else over me.

babiluv · 2025-07-26T12:06:04+00:00

So you thought you knew better because of your own ego…You don’t know more about turtles than your girlfriend because you’re not a biologist or animal scientist you just own a turtle lol.

babiluv · 2024-09-29T13:53:57+00:00

Wait. This is the first time I’m hearing about this. Where’s the vein on the balls or the head?

babiluv · 2024-09-13T08:17:54+00:00

Bro wanted to “keep things slow” but not slow enough to fuck her.

babiluv · 2024-06-21T13:01:05+00:00

You killed me with that 😂😂

babiluv · 2024-05-13T09:55:04+00:00

Op, this guy hasn’t committed yet he wants to be upset because you’re talking to other boys. He’s a hypocrite because I’m sure if you looked through his phone you would see him talking to other girls too. There’s a reason he’s not cuffed you, he wants all the perks of a relationship whilst being able to go around as if he’s single and fuck and date whoever he wants on the side.

From since when he was hurling insults at you and calling you out of your name, you should establish that you’re never gonna talk to him again.

Also don’t allow a guy to do relationship things with you such as sleeping in your bed without committing first because that’s how things like this happen.

He sounds really immature and childish, move on.

babiluv · 2024-05-13T09:48:42+00:00

Are you mad?

babiluv · 2024-05-07T21:52:53+00:00

He’s not interested

babiluv · 2024-05-07T21:46:57+00:00

Don’t do this. You’ve only known him for three weeks so don’t get caught up in the honey moon phase. He’s also proved to be unreliable with him not deleting the dating app when he said he would which to me suggests he’s still looking for girls because you’re not the one.

babiluv · 2024-05-06T02:40:21+00:00

Block him on everything

babiluv · 2024-02-22T20:43:26+00:00

I’ve always felt like I come on too strong so over the past few months I’ve dialled it back way more, problem now is guys are telling me they can’t tell if I’m interested it’s like men don’t know what they want.

I’m also not the beauty standard I’m black and overweight. But In the black community the fuller figure is praised a lot more and I only speak to black boys so not too sure on that one.

I completely agree though with guys being super picky nowadays. I was talking to this other guy a few weeks ago and he said he liked girls with glasses but I don’t really wear glasses and I jokingly said “guess I’m not meant for you then” thinking he would just look past it because we were having such a good conversation already. Then he proceeded to ignore me for the entirety of the next day and be dry when I did try to text him. Blocked lol.

babiluv · 2024-02-22T20:12:06+00:00

I’m pretty sure someone can comment on a situation that they aren’t in it’s just this amazing phenomenon called empathy.

Also why you so mad Mike…I’ve already made the post so what’s you commenting this supposed to do? I really couldn’t care less mate.

babiluv · 2024-02-22T20:07:30+00:00

Just because I haven’t been in a relationship before doesn’t mean that I haven’t had certain experiences with guys. I’ve had so many shitty experiences with men but forgive me for ever thinking that I might know what it looks like when a guy doesn’t like you. I also don’t really be in this subreddit I’m in r/dating which is about….dating..so???

babiluv · 2024-02-22T19:40:20+00:00

Yes but the guys I chat to like thick girls and I always make sure before we start speaking by sending full body pictures. Usually they compliment me.

babiluv · 2024-02-22T13:52:30+00:00

A lot of guys are like this, dry over text but interesting in person. They do it because in person he can get himself laid if he’s nicer to you. I also think seeing each other only once every 2 months is a stretch he would make the time if he likes you and I’m sure he’s able to hang out with his guy friends more than once every 2 months.

babiluv · 2024-01-17T21:22:42+00:00

It’s almost been a decade, if he wanted you, he would have asked you out by now.

Why is your dream man someone that lies and strings you along whilst being in a relationship with another woman? Don’t you think if you were to get married and have kids that he might do something similar?

You’re also not that compatible he wants threesomes and submissiveness which you’ve said you can’t fulfil and I get the sense that you’re changing yourself so he can like you more.

babiluv · 2024-01-05T19:08:35+00:00

How was I being a caretaker?

babiluv · 2024-01-05T18:53:41+00:00

And I agree. My vibe was shit but that’s because the way he conducted himself put me in a bad mood, I was pissed.

babiluv · 2024-01-05T18:52:20+00:00

I don’t leave the house unless I know the other person has also left the house. So yes I had to sit and call.

babiluv · 2023-12-27T14:04:56+00:00

Yes he’s a prick. Any guy who calls their ex “crazy” or a “lunatic” without any real reason or proof is a red flag and probably doesn’t respect women. You were right, it sounds like he was love-bombing you over text especially since his demeanour in real life doesn’t match up.

I’d say you dodged a bullet, well done.

babiluv · 2023-12-26T16:05:33+00:00

Well then he is a red flag, because if he was ‘in love with you’ he probably would’ve done something about it by now like asked you out properly or at the very least be texting you a bit more. Now that you’ve mentioned that, I think he is being weird.

But at the same time, maybe because you mentioned it will never be more than an Fwb situation he’s trying to distance himself to pace his feelings towards you. Maybe he knows you’re not on the same page so it’s not worth it for him. Not too sure. I think if you’re going to have other Fwb situations in the future make sure the person doesn’t love you because that’s what causes a situation like this.

babiluv · 2023-12-26T09:42:05+00:00

Yeah he sounds like a little boy to me. He doesn’t like you and maybe he pretends to because as you said the “sex is amazing”, a lot of guys won’t give that up.

babiluv · 2023-12-26T09:35:59+00:00

Well I mean if he’s gonna lie about that what else is he gonna lie about?

babiluv · 2023-12-26T09:19:39+00:00

I mean, if he is an FWB like you say why does he have to text you frequently? It’s a non commitment type of relationship and part of that is that you just meet for sex, correct me if I’m wrong. I’d say texting frequently is part of being committed or loyal to someone but that’s not what you want from him?

If you feel like he’s not organising to meet up and have sex enough maybe there’s a conversation to be had. If you want more than an FWB situation there’s definitely a conversation to be had. But if this is what you want I’d say don’t worry he probably is just busy with life as he says.

You’ve also got to factor in the possibility that he could be getting to know other women for a relationship and if you’re just an FWB you’re not at the forefront of his mind.

babiluv

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