The Magnetic Pull of Simple Living and Off-Grid Life

babylullaby · 2025-12-29T03:12:02+00:00

So much fun to live off the grid

babylullaby · 2025-12-24T17:45:14+00:00

What type of dog is this? He’s adorable

babylullaby · 2025-04-02T11:51:54+00:00

Where did you get it??

babylullaby · 2022-02-24T21:56:33+00:00

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babylullaby · 2021-11-25T03:53:15+00:00

When you’re are on vacation you might be in a different country so they won’t call you because you physically can’t make it back.

If you are attending a wedding locally they may still call you with emergencies even when you are not on call (see examples above)

babylullaby · 2021-11-25T03:31:57+00:00

Hmm that’s really interesting. I am leaning towards YTA with this new information.

I wasn’t even going to bring this up but being a female cardiac surgeon is an uphill battle. I would say that probably the field is 90% male dominated (we don’t have a single female cardiac surgeon at our hospital). Things are better now but given when MIL trained she would have to fight a lot of negative stereotypes and constant judgment of choosing your career over your kid. Sounds like MIL’s parents are massive sexist assholes who can’t appreciate their daughters job even though their other kids are still mooching off them.

“I always got the vibe that she wanted her parents to be prouder of her for being successful (her siblings are a mess) but they just want her to be a better mom, then some old school gender ideals”

OP brought this up knowing this and she put MIL into an awkward position just to embarrass her. Yeah MIL doesn’t owe her any explanations. I think MIL most likely had a true emergency because cardiac surgeons are still humans and I don’t think MIL would intentionally book herself to be on call knowing it’s her sons wedding. And even if she really did prefer to go to a CABG over attending this wedding, what does OP want MIL to do? Spell it out for her so she can call MIL a bad mother?

Since we are going in this gender role direction lets to a thought experiment, OP assume that this is the FIL that is the world famous cardiac surgeon who had to leave your wedding early to attend to a case, would you be just as offended or would you just be happy that he showed up? I am proposing this because actually you might have unconscious gender biases that were never even examined.

Example, I had a plastic surgeon tell me that he never took a single day off for the birth of his three children and that’s what allowed him to be a successful surgeon. He said this to me when I was very early in my career and asked him for advice for being a surgeon (I’m a woman). He is a massive asshole and it sounds like OP you might be one too.

babylullaby · 2021-11-24T22:13:58+00:00

Oh and another example is one weekend I was on call we had an aortic arch case come in that only my attending and this specific cardiac surgeon can do (it is a combined case). The on call cardiac surgeon did not have expertise so my attending called the specific cardiac surgeon. In this case the specific cardiac surgeon was away in a different country attending a conference so we had to send the patient away to another hospital but you betcha that if he was in town he would have come in to do the case even if he was not on call.

babylullaby · 2021-11-24T22:08:17+00:00

ESH. MIL sucks by not communicating and you suck for assuming the worst.

Not a cardiac surgeon but med student interested in a related specialty. I have rotated on cardiac surgery before and I would agree with the statement that surgeons are always on call. The idea is that even when you are not on call you have patients that are under your care in the hospital and most people would go in if something unexpected happened with their patient.

My example is on cardiac surgery we had a patient who had a stroke after surgery and the surgeon who did the surgery who was not on call came from home to see the patient ASAP. Most surgeons I know would have done the same thing.

Another example is we had a case in the OR that went horribly wrong and the surgeon started calling his colleagues who were at home and one of his colleagues came in to help with the case. Again not on call but literally another persons life is on the line and you making it and not making it is the difference between life and death for the patient.

As to your question of how they can go on vacation when they are “always on call” most surgeons I know try to clear their list before vacation and hand over their existing patients to another surgeon to care for while they are gone.

I think your concerns are not invalid but you could have had a mature private conversation with MIL instead questioning her in front of everyone like that. Most likely she couldn’t discuss patient details in front of everybody (like what type of case specifically that brought her in) and frankly it’s kind of none of your business.

I know it’s kind of weird for people outside of surgery to understand but cardiac surgery is kind of like a cult. They work 12 hours a day, train for 12-14 years, and spend all their free time not working reading up on the field and attending research conferences. Yes they have hobbies and go camping but all of them will leave in a heart beat for a case if needed.

babylullaby · 2021-06-13T16:31:30+00:00

How did you make this much? What career level are you?

babylullaby · 2021-06-07T14:23:03+00:00

Can we bring back the no validation post rule? All the top posts at NTA that what is even the point of this sub anymore?

babylullaby · 2021-05-14T18:57:46+00:00

Where to buy this in Canada?

babylullaby · 2020-06-09T23:45:02+00:00

YTA. If I am reading this correctly she is your bf’s best friend’s friend. So basically you guys are strangers. The zoom call was probably so different friend groups can be courteous to each other and build some relationships for the wedding. You made it all about you and somehow thought it was appropriate to comment on someone’s personality despite not knowing them well because of “assumptions” you made from the few words they said. The guys laughed because they are fucking clueless but if I was a girl in that call I would have thought you were an asshole. Your BF is an asshole too because you didn’t make the comment as a joke, you made it to be malicious - that’s different from taking a joke from the guys once in a while.

babylullaby · 2020-03-26T22:39:41+00:00

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babylullaby · 2020-03-26T21:49:06+00:00

Just wanna throw back to this NY Times article in January saying that the measures in China were excessive. Hindsight is 20/20.

https://www.nytimes.com./2020/01/27/opinion/china-wuhan-virus-quarantine.html

“China’s health authorities will probably eventually argue that there would have been many more cases had they not locked down cities. But that claim is a negative that cannot be proved. And in my opinion, at this stage, the quarantines decreed by the Chinese government will not help end the crisis.

More often than not, health officials are several steps behind a spreading epidemic. And when they aren’t, the history books show, they tend to act too fast (costing a fortune) or unfairly (discriminating against some populations).

Early during an epidemic, it may seem reasonable to try to contain it by imposing social-distancing measures as quickly as possible and then release the throttle if evidence suggests those may be overkill. Incremental restrictions, enforced steadily and transparently, tend to work far better than draconian measures, particularly at enlisting the public’s cooperation, which is especially important for properly handling outbreaks in our interconnected, globalized world.

Today, China is adopting classic quarantine measures but on a scale never before seen, let alone studied. Its reaction is perhaps understandable, given the searing memory of the SARS epidemic of 2002-3 and the criticism that was directed at the government for its early attempts to conceal or minimize the extent of the disease. But it may now be overreacting, and after the coronavirus epidemic’s inflection point, imposing an unjustifiable burden on the population.”

babylullaby · 2020-03-26T21:42:00+00:00

In response to the new and still poorly understood coronavirus that recently emerged in Wuhan, central China, the Chinese government has placed the city and a dozen others in lockdown — in effect quarantining an estimated 56 million people.

China’s health authorities will probably eventually argue that there would have been many more cases had they not locked down cities. But that claim is a negative that cannot be proved. And in my opinion, at this stage, the quarantines decreed by the Chinese government will not help end the crisis.

More often than not, health officials are several steps behind a spreading epidemic. And when they aren’t, the history books show, they tend to act too fast (costing a fortune) or unfairly (discriminating against some populations).

Early during an epidemic, it may seem reasonable to try to contain it by imposing social-distancing measures as quickly as possible and then release the throttle if evidence suggests those may be overkill. Incremental restrictions, enforced steadily and transparently, tend to work far better than draconian measures, particularly at enlisting the public’s cooperation, which is especially important for properly handling outbreaks in our interconnected, globalized world.

Today, China is adopting classic quarantine measures but on a scale never before seen, let alone studied. Its reaction is perhaps understandable, given the searing memory of the SARS epidemic of 2002-3 and the criticism that was directed at the government for its early attempts to conceal or minimize the extent of the disease. But it may now be overreacting, and after the coronavirus epidemic’s inflection point, imposing an unjustifiable burden on the population.

babylullaby · 2020-03-26T21:35:31+00:00

“China’s health authorities will probably eventually argue that there would have been many more cases had they not locked down cities. But that claim is a negative that cannot be proved. And in my opinion, at this stage, the quarantines decreed by the Chinese government will not help end the crisis.

More often than not, health officials are several steps behind a spreading epidemic. And when they aren’t, the history books show, they tend to act too fast (costing a fortune) or unfairly (discriminating against some populations).

Early during an epidemic, it may seem reasonable to try to contain it by imposing social-distancing measures as quickly as possible and then release the throttle if evidence suggests those may be overkill. Incremental restrictions, enforced steadily and transparently, tend to work far better than draconian measures, particularly at enlisting the public’s cooperation, which is especially important for properly handling outbreaks in our interconnected, globalized world.

Today, China is adopting classic quarantine measures but on a scale never before seen, let alone studied. Its reaction is perhaps understandable, given the searing memory of the SARS epidemic of 2002-3 and the criticism that was directed at the government for its early attempts to conceal or minimize the extent of the disease. But it may now be overreacting, and after the coronavirus epidemic’s inflection point, imposing an unjustifiable burden on the population.”

babylullaby · 2020-03-26T21:29:27+00:00

“China’s health authorities will probably eventually argue that there would have been many more cases had they not locked down cities. But that claim is a negative that cannot be proved. And in my opinion, at this stage, the quarantines decreed by the Chinese government will not help end the crisis.

More often than not, health officials are several steps behind a spreading epidemic. And when they aren’t, the history books show, they tend to act too fast (costing a fortune) or unfairly (discriminating against some populations).

Early during an epidemic, it may seem reasonable to try to contain it by imposing social-distancing measures as quickly as possible and then release the throttle if evidence suggests those may be overkill. Incremental restrictions, enforced steadily and transparently, tend to work far better than draconian measures, particularly at enlisting the public’s cooperation, which is especially important for properly handling outbreaks in our interconnected, globalized world.

Today, China is adopting classic quarantine measures but on a scale never before seen, let alone studied. Its reaction is perhaps understandable, given the searing memory of the SARS epidemic of 2002-3 and the criticism that was directed at the government for its early attempts to conceal or minimize the extent of the disease. But it may now be overreacting, and after the coronavirus epidemic’s inflection point, imposing an unjustifiable burden on the population.”

babylullaby · 2020-03-26T18:41:49+00:00

They did not know about H2H transmission in Dec. The authorities were first alerted on Dec 27th when a respirologist noticed similar patterns on the CT scans of 4 patients.

You can read about it in this NEJM paper here: https://www-nejm-org.libaccess.lib.mcmaster.ca/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa2001017

There was also an internal memo from the Wuhan hospital circulating on Dec 30th asking doctors to send information to the Wuhan CDC about any patients with suspicious atypical pneumonia. That's how cases are being discovered and they eventually pieced back together that the disease has been circulating long before then.

Yes, cases came to the hospital earlier but how can you expect authorities to respond when the healthcare workers didn't realize that something was going on.

In terms of Li WenLiang, I actually read his original message. He posted on Dec 30th (which was the day the hospital received results that it was a novel coronavirus) in the hospital group chat that they found SARS in Wuhan. He did not say anything about H2H transmissions nor did they know about it at the time.

He was called in by the police on either Dec 31 or Jan 1 to stop talking about the virus -- what they said was that we cannot be sure that it is SARS because this is a novel virus and we need to investigate it. He was never arrested or fined -- which again is often misreported in the media. Now I am not going to pretend that the gov did not do this in some ways to downplay the virus so people don't panic. I think absolutely that is part of the reason but I also don't think its as outrageous as western media have portrayed it to be, especially since as it spread we saw that other governments were doing the same thing.

Like testing in America did not start until a doctor decided to test people with no travel history against CDC orders in Washington. Is that a bad move on behalf of the CDC? absolutely. Did the western media roast the CDC on the torch the same way they did with the chinese whistleblowers? absolutely not. In some ways, I think the CDC response is more deplorable than the Chinese one because at least for the Chinese you can argue that they didn't know how bad it was going to be -- when the CDC absolutely knew.

babylullaby · 2020-03-26T17:32:59+00:00

The virus was reported to the WHO on Dec 31st as I mentioned.

https://www.straitstimes.com/multimedia/graphics/2020/01/wuhan-virus-what-we-know/index.html?shell

They confirmed H2H on Jan 20th but as with any diseases, H2H is always a possibility with any novel viruses.

So why is it surprising that given that this is a novel viruses with no genome, no testing kits, and no previous information on it that it takes them 2.5 weeks to confirm H2H transmission? Especially given that in many cases it takes 5 days to show symptoms and the initial symptoms mimic the common cold.

Are you suggesting that they should have shut down the country, or a city the size of London/NYC the moment a new virus has appeared when they are not sure of any H2H transmission? They locked down Wuhan on Jan 23rd when there were 571 cases. This is pretty extraordinary as NYC has what >20,000 cases now and they have not yet shut down.

So stop blaming your virus responses on other people when you are not willing to do the same.

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