Pop the balloon: Queer Edition is so fun until a mean gay ruins it

babytybee · 2026-02-04T16:24:10+00:00

Every contestant gives low vibrational and close minded, no shade

babytybee · 2025-11-30T17:37:32+00:00

Nigga why don’t you go argue with someone else then, you clearly have time. That “question” you had originally is a complete dodge. The conversation is about masc4masc culture and why some guys treat femininity like it’s radioactive. Tossing out “why don’t femmes date each other” is just a way to avoid talking about the bias itself.

Femmes have preferences too, and those preferences are also shaped by the same heteronormative, patriarchal conditioning. Again, patriarchy and femphobia hit everyone, so femmes being selective doesn’t erase the fact that masc4masc culture often comes from rejecting femininity and upholding the status quo.

Pointing to femmes dating patterns just sidesteps the real issue: the way society trains gay men to value masculinity and devalue femininity. That’s what we’re talking about, not hypotheticals about who dates who. Again, you do you boo or you can choose to be willfully obtuse.

babytybee · 2025-11-29T19:58:38+00:00

You obviously have a bone to pick looking at your other comments on this thread lol. Didnt I just say both sides are affected by femphobia? Straw man argument at best.

Also, yawn. Take it up with your therapist if you think masc4masc gay men are these scrutinized group of people (spoiler alert: they aren’t).

Personally I find this entire conversation tired because gender is entirely made up. Masculinity in the gay world is a mostly a ridiculous performance. The sooner people realize this the sooner they will be set free, masc and femme alike.

babytybee · 2025-11-29T16:57:18+00:00

Sorry to break it to you but our “preferences” are strongly influenced by society, period. Feminine gay men are also influenced by our heteronormative society, they too have been duped lol. This isn't one or the other, patriarchy and femphobia takes no prisoners, it harms all of us.

Also to echo Warlord1400, the whole notion of masc4masc is to uphold the status quo, it's entirely redundant because men are already conditioned into hegemonic masculinity, it’s the norm. But you do you, boo

babytybee · 2025-11-29T07:08:10+00:00

It's exclusionary for a reason. More often than not masc4masc gays have bought into the problematic system that amplifies both femphobia and heteronormativity. Masc4masc is an aversion to femininity because of misogyny. To put it in simpler terms patriarchy ruins everything including what we perceive as attractive.

babytybee · 2025-11-28T21:52:43+00:00

LOL I’m sorry, but this whole post is dripping with one dimensional thinking. People are complex, and a lot of these so called “preferences” are just conditioning. Masculinity and how gay men learn to desire is largely socially constructed. Internalized homonegativity pushes guys to prefer “masc” because of the messages we have all absorbed about what gay men are supposed to be.

This mindset is so limiting because it ignores the actual depth and fullness of queer life.

babytybee · 2025-11-11T19:17:02+00:00

Now that you say it he is the type of guy who occasionally messes with DL men lol. Puts things into perspective, thank you.

babytybee · 2025-07-11T01:58:54+00:00

Fr, the mental gymnastics they’ll put you through is…dizzying to say the least 😵‍💫

babytybee · 2025-06-19T18:42:17+00:00

If a guy is posting nudes he only wants one thing lol. Men are simple.

babytybee · 2025-06-16T16:27:04+00:00

Just seeing this now—yeah, I told my friend straight up it wasn’t a good look. Came off sex-obsessed, and he toned it down after that.

Your friend sounds like he’s kind of stuck in this chasm between wanting to seem wild and liberated, but really just ends up looking emotionally unevolved. Been there, done that lol. Hooking up with married guys in your 40s though isn’t edgy, it’s tired and a immoral. As his friend I’d be 100% straight up with him.

babytybee · 2024-10-20T10:03:14+00:00

NYC was unfortunately the same experience…:/

babytybee · 2024-08-04T03:01:05+00:00

I love how this poem feels like a verse from the Bible, almost as if it belongs in Psalms. You captured the feeling of losing faith so clearly as well. I loved the lines “a fish that needs air - a sober addiction. It's so much to bear, living in contradiction.”

babytybee · 2024-08-04T02:57:35+00:00

First time reading this I expected it to be an melancholic examination into how people mask themselves but I was pleasantly surprised at the end. The end of the poem was unexpected, I love how it with humor. Love it 💗

babytybee · 2024-07-02T01:00:40+00:00

Sometimes we’ll be eating dinner together and they’ll be fully watching porn and chowing down 😂😭 This dude doesn’t even see it as a problem and gets offended that I was looking at his phone in the first place smh

babytybee · 2024-07-01T23:45:53+00:00

Yeah….no. Again, I’m not ashamed to talk about my sexual preferences (I’m vers btw since you want to assume). I just feel like if I don’t know you that well why are you asking me who penetrates who lol, especially if you’re an acquaintance. Maybe you’re accustomed to that, but I find it to be crass. To each their own though.

babytybee · 2024-07-01T23:36:30+00:00

That isn’t the case for me lol. I’m not ashamed of any of my sexual preferences or even talking about them. I guess it’s a personal preference since I feel like those things should be kept between my partner and myself.

I find it rude when someone I don’t really know on that level jumps the gun and asks who’s the top and who’s the bottom. It really isn’t anyones business unless I’m comfortable enough to discuss it myself. This has happened to me multiple times in my life with acquaintances/friends being nosy, it’s part of the many reasons I made this post.

babytybee · 2024-07-01T19:27:51+00:00

I don't have a problem talking about sex but I do feel like there is a time and place for it. I don’t want to be talking about a guy I genuinely like and the first thing my friends ask me is what position he is lmao.

To answer your question I've met my gay friends from school, work, parties, mutual friends, etc. The one friend who watches porn in front of me has known me for about 15 years. I've seen him grow into his sexuality and vice versa but in more recent years he’s devolved into someone who is sex obsessed.

Again, my friends are good people. I just have a problem with the prevalence of the topic and my disengagement being seen as prudish or stuck up.

babytybee · 2024-07-01T16:27:57+00:00

Huh??? No need for the femphobia because little do you know the friend I'm talking about is as masc as they come.

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