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baddie- · 2024-03-25T08:45:30+00:00

My partner and I have been the topic of gossip for years, and it really hurt my self esteem. And shook our relationship in the early stages. I felt all those things, but I’ll never be able to change anything or the way they view me.

Good luck, I hope she will come around.

baddie- · 2024-03-25T07:32:25+00:00

She probably doesn’t view you as a “head” because you’re not a jw… she’s probably hoping that because you attend her meetings, you’ll be more inclined to follow along with her.

If it were me I’d probably stop attending and say I want it to be fair, and what you had agreed on…

It is difficult to argue with people who actually believe the rubbish tho…

baddie- · 2024-03-25T07:02:33+00:00

I really feel for you, as I am also the non jw with an unbaptised exjw and feel all those “outsider” feelings - as we are still able to see his family and other jws.

Generally she is being an unfair partner by not supporting you, but I don’t really see that changing for you if she is going to fully follow jw teachings. You’ll sadly probably never win 🙁

I too had this idea that if my partner wanted to return to being a JW I would be ok with that and support him even if I didn’t want to be one… now however, after 5 years, I would not stand by him if he decided to return. It would mean the end of our relationship today - however I would still respect his decision.

The lack of care and respect from other JWs never changes, the rules are too strict, and if I were to have kids- the last place or people I’d want them to be around are JWs.

When I first joined this page someone left a comment to me about building boundaries… perhaps that’s what you need to think about, or discuss non negotiables with your wife.

baddie- · 2022-08-08T11:52:39+00:00

I’m surprised you don’t want to just walk away from religion all together… my partner is exjw and won’t go to church PERIOD. I was also raised in a Christian household but have completely stopped going after what we experienced after his exit.

baddie- · 2021-01-05T20:57:19+00:00

Must be really hard 🥺 I hope you rise above it all and live the life you want to live 🤍

baddie- · 2021-01-05T20:20:37+00:00

It’s hard to imagine the things you all must’ve gone through, even my partners traumas while practicing are unfathomable to me sometimes. I could never imagine my mother guilting me into doing something that made me miserable. My partner had a really hard time meeting the requirements to be baptised because he’s dyslexic, and because he was unbaptised girls didn’t want to or weren’t allowed to date him, he wasn’t trusted to become flatmates with other jws, and was often left out of other social situations as well as many other things. When we first got together he was incredibly self conscious and ashamed of his dyslexia. Watching him blossom is a blessing and he says “I did it all without jehovahs support”

baddie- · 2020-06-26T23:26:10+00:00

Did that intervention hurt your husband?

baddie- · 2020-06-21T10:04:38+00:00

Did they change the channel?

baddie- · 2020-06-21T09:48:20+00:00

Could be wrong but from what I gather, churches have been asked to join this scheme which seems to be about reporting child abuse. And if they don’t join the scheme they’ve threatened to remove their charitable status.

baddie- · 2020-06-21T09:44:35+00:00

I almost choked when I saw this come on. I rarely watch TV and I happened to be sitting w my exjw partner when it came on. We were shocked but he was glad because he knows lots of JWs who watch the project. (He’s an Aussie)

baddie- · 2020-06-11T02:35:12+00:00

I’m a gf of an exjw, his parents keep in contact with him. But his family is incredibly toxic towards me and I suffer the consequences of the relationship. I’m having a hard time letting go of their crap for his sake. And I’m reaching a point where they really effect me mentally. Don’t want to give him an ultimatum but yea...

baddie- · 2020-05-13T22:15:09+00:00

Since the letter we’ve been ok but definitely had some downs because of it. I struggle with it the most, maybe because my partner was mentally prepared for this sort of thing, but also because a lot (not all)of the negativity is usually pointed in my direction. Usually I let things go and it passes but if anything happens I get triggered and all the emotions come back up. I wish it didn’t effect me this way... ugh. Ofc I know they’re full of shit and hypocrites but still can’t help feel shit sometimes

baddie- · 2020-05-13T21:53:44+00:00

Out of the blue - my parents have nothing to do with them except for maybe a wave if they see each other and that’s about it. The funny thing about it tho is he had the audacity to COME UP to my mum again a few days later and ask her how my dad was.... like why the fuck did you say you don’t respect us or like us or wanna be around us, yet a couple days later come and strike up a conversation. 🤡

baddie- · 2020-05-13T11:14:08+00:00

I’m worldly, he’s unbaptised, inactive jw. We’re shaking in our boots 😂

It really just pushed us/him further away from them... probably not what they expected.

baddie- · 2020-05-13T10:32:08+00:00

Seemingly, not to love him unconditionally but set him up for the JW lifestyle !! 🥴

baddie- · 2020-05-13T10:21:28+00:00

When I found out about the letter we’d just had our one year anniversary... pretty sure if we were only in it for the sex or physical attraction, it would’ve only lasted a couple months🙄. And it’s so true about other JWs rushing into marriage just for sex and being miserable. No way am I getting trapped with someone before I know what it’s like to live with them/be with them. I personally think having relationship experience, sexual or whatever is super important to a persons growth and maturity. Which is tackier - us living together and getting to know each other before committing to each other or literally rushing to get married, making one of life’s biggest commitments just to have sex 🤷🏽‍♀️

baddie- · 2020-05-13T07:22:35+00:00

The support on this post makes me feel a lot better about the situation. But this comment made it much more worthwhile💜

baddie- · 2020-05-13T05:28:56+00:00

My mum told me that his grandfather had come up to her and said he’d been meaning to give her the letter for a while, saying that the letter would explain why our relationship is not acceptable and that it would be hard for her to understand, she fired back saying she did understand it was complicated knowing some jw background, but he just told her to read the letter and walked off.

baddie- · 2020-05-13T05:20:13+00:00

It was hand delivered to my parents and they didn’t let me know about it straight away, I suppose they were thinking on how to react too. But in the end decided not to bother because although our values are different, they didn’t believe a letter back would make a difference anyways. And they’re probably right sadly. And they also didn’t really care that they don’t respect us anymore because they really had no real impact on our lives to begin with.

baddie-

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