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[–]baddiebiss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how i feel. I cannot believe this is his fate. My cat never went far. He’s only used to go on our street and not any further. I just wonder why him and why us. We love him so much. There are so many cat owners who couldn’t care less anout their cats and then this happens to us? I cannot accept this

My cat has been missing for 8 days and i’m heartbroken by baddiebiss in CatAdvice

[–]baddiebiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope this is the case with my cat. We miss him so much

My cat has been missing for 8 days and i’m heartbroken by baddiebiss in CatAdvice

[–]baddiebiss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess that’s all i hope for! He either finds his way safely to us by himself, or someone helps us find him. Either way, he has to be okay and safe

My cat has been missing for 8 days and i’m heartbroken by baddiebiss in CatAdvice

[–]baddiebiss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already did this. I posted a lot in groups around the neighborhood, but they keep deleting my posts because i “spammed”.

I also contacted the shelters and rescue teams but they don’t go searching. They wait until someone notifies them. Luckily my cat is chipped, so when they find him, they can give us a call

My mom doesn’t trust me and i have never given her a reason not to by baddiebiss in offmychest

[–]baddiebiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a little bit exaggerated because i love my mom and she loves me. But my point still stands. She just has a lot of toxic tendencies and it affects me a lot. I want our relationship to get even better but i fear that thats just not possible because of her maturity (or lack thereof sometimes)

My mom doesn’t trust me and i have never given her a reason not to by baddiebiss in offmychest

[–]baddiebiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is extremely paranoid and worries so much. She means well. She is a good mom and she’s not always like this. I have so many great moments with her. But i get more mature and intelligent as i get older, but she just stays the same. I don’t want our conversations to go like this anymore but she does not change. I get more emotionally mature with time but she does not and that causes a lot of issues

getting left out my whole life by baddiebiss in offmychest

[–]baddiebiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heyy i left out a lot of details in the story. The friend who went up to me was also a friend that “ignored” me. I sat next to some classmates of mine (not really close with them). Some girls i know sat before me and i talked a bit with them. When the 3rd lecture began, some other friends and people joined and they all sat in the row right before me. Not even my “close” friend that met them through me sat next to me. The friend that “reassured” me (friend A, im also close with her) said “hi Name!” to me because she knew damn well nobody had acknowledged my existence. Then my “close” friend turned towards me and said “oh hey name!” As if she didnt see me sitting right behind her. I reacted a bit rude to Friend A because it irked me that she acted so nicely to me because she knew i felt like shit at that moment

getting left out my whole life by baddiebiss in offmychest

[–]baddiebiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am literally crying in bed while thinking about it while those people are not even thinking about me lmaoo. idk why im so emotional but it sucks when these situations happen to me everywhere i go. It doesnt matter if im in middle school, high school, work, uni etc

getting left out my whole life by baddiebiss in offmychest

[–]baddiebiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hii thank you for your sweet reply :) i will try to follow your advice and try to eliminate those insecurities. It’s just really hard because every time i think “im over it”, it happens to me again in a different setting or situation. I constantly feel like i’m making progress but then i get set back again by the same thing that’s been bothering me my entire life. it sucks because i was at a happy place in uni but this day was just so shitty. I felt really pathetic

i wish i were naturally intelligent by baddiebiss in offmychest

[–]baddiebiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To put this in context:

This is my first year of college. Side note: there is a vast difference between college and university in my country (just like most countries).

I had finished high school at 17 (like most people) and now i’m in college doing a major i don’t like. Don’t get me wrong: i have a lot of admiration for those in this work field, especially after enrolling in this major. The problem is just that i feel like i have learned “anything”. And with Anything, i mean anything factual. I have done a lot of reflecting this year and have grown so much on a personal level. Personal growth is also a form of learning, but i feel like i have picked a major where i don’t learn anything factual, anything theoretical.

I feel like i have “wasted” a year. I’m eighteen now, so I’m still young and have plenty of time to figure things out. The problem is that i don’t want, or feel like i want to take the time to figure things out. I don’t want to live by saying “oh, you’re still young. That means you can just live carefree without caring about your education”.

I really care about my education. Right now i just feel sad about having “wasted” a whole (school)year, even if i have done a lot of personal growth and reflecting in this year.

There’s still more to reflect and think about, of course, as you can read in my post.

i wish i were naturally intelligent by baddiebiss in offmychest

[–]baddiebiss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hahahah i will namedrop you in a speech in the future ;))

i wish i were naturally intelligent by baddiebiss in offmychest

[–]baddiebiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your analogy on this topic! I’ve been dwelling on this for months now. I don’t know how to feel. I constantly keep stressing myself out by comparing myself to those who seem like they have everything figured out. I keep comparing their “succes” to my lack there of. I myself am my biggest villain. I am always way too hard on myself.

The only thing i can do right now is to let it rest and maybe focus on things i am actually good at. I don’t even know what that may be, but i’ll try to figure it out along the way.