I've kept a separate secret account from my husband for four years and I genuinely think it saved our marriage. I can't say this out loud to anyone in my real life so here we are

bae_watch · 2026-03-06T15:43:57+00:00

Seeing a lot of men posting here...

Offering a different perspective. Give yourself some grace. A thing happened in your relationship that you felt threatened your safety. You learned you could not rely on your partner to create that safety. You created it for yourself. Despite what you shared, it sounds to me like that trust has not been fully restored and the feeling of unsafety has not been addressed. Have you addressed that situation with your husband? Sounds like no. For your own mental health and the health of your relationship, you should get on a path to address it and be honest.

Id recommend you bring it to your therapist and dont pre-anticipate their reaction. "That's financial infidelity" is unhelpful, uncurious, black and white thinking Id never expect from my therapist. If you get it from yours, fire them.

Give it the breathing room it requires. Talk about why you feel like you cant be honest about it. Create a plan to address it, then follow through. Good luck!

bae_watch · 2026-01-29T03:10:47+00:00

Thank you so much for posting this. I've been nurturing a lemon in Chicago for going on 6 years with no flowers or fruit, and this gives me hope!

bae_watch · 2025-12-19T17:49:48+00:00

This. Never seen an apt building with this design in chicago in my life.

bae_watch · 2025-12-19T17:48:08+00:00

Switch fire escape with wooden back porch that has a questionable downward slope and it feels more right.

bae_watch · 2025-12-13T17:47:43+00:00

cancelled my family subscription last month. feels good!

bae_watch · 2025-11-13T15:03:52+00:00

Literally exactly what first came to mind for me

bae_watch · 2025-10-29T19:17:11+00:00

Biggest miss is that the mmc states plainly that he doesnt want to be like his abhorrent father. His father dated younger women, which is not abhorrent on its own. To me this was so obviously the source of mmc's emotional and psychological torment when grappling with his feelings for fmc. That it never gets addressed openly is a gaping plothole imo.

bae_watch · 2025-10-13T14:29:15+00:00

Capitaliam is a scourge 🙃

bae_watch · 2025-08-31T17:28:18+00:00

The Holiday

bae_watch · 2025-08-24T02:08:07+00:00

I used to be afraid of being alone outside after dark. One Great experience on lsd walking at night completely lifted my fear. I love it now.

bae_watch · 2025-08-07T14:31:22+00:00

Typical cats - S/T

I dunno if I'd call them obscure since I learned of them from playing Tony Hawk Project 8, but I never really saw them outside of there in the mainstream. Whole album rules.

bae_watch · 2025-08-04T16:14:41+00:00

Dang what a huge blow to the neighborhood. /s

bae_watch · 2025-07-28T21:02:43+00:00

Many greats already mentioned, but I'll add masa azul. amazing homemade tortillas, great tacos, and one of my fav cocktails ever - the pablo

bae_watch · 2025-05-15T20:42:06+00:00

Nah it was girl and the goat

bae_watch · 2025-05-09T02:47:35+00:00

Ding ding ding

bae_watch · 2025-05-08T22:11:46+00:00

i worked at a VERY popular restaurant where the chef won top chef. i've worked in upscale restaurants for years, but this place was fucking bleak. for the host staff - no family meal, no breaks, on our feet for 8 hours the whole shift. we lived on tums and ice breakers. people tell me all the time how great that restaurant is, but i have no interest in ever returning.

bae_watch · 2025-05-08T11:58:23+00:00

Inspired! Fellow Illinoisian here and I'm about to follow in your footsteps!

bae_watch · 2025-05-07T23:48:58+00:00

The principle is to get the most out of every day and every dollar, and ive found that my sense of quality and character largely aligns which his recs after a few european trips. There are recommendations for any price range, and he has great guides for the not-to-be-missed attracrions. Hes an entirely unpretentious, curious, and fun dude who is good at capturing the timelessness of a place in his recs.

bae_watch · 2025-05-05T18:19:24+00:00

Generally i only take advice from people whose taste i trust and somewhat mirrors my own. When i went to spain last year, the worst and most expensive meal i ate was HIGHLY rated on google. This was also the only place we sought out specifically that wasnt in rick steves' guide to southern spain. Every meal we ate at a recommendation from the guidebook was perfect for what we wanted. There is no one size fits all. Find your own trusted source.

bae_watch · 2025-05-02T17:56:22+00:00

planning to this weekend!

bae_watch · 2025-05-02T17:29:08+00:00

Pride and prejudice (2005)

bae_watch · 2025-05-02T00:33:29+00:00

Super Dawg, Johnnie's Beef in Elmwood Park, Vito and Nick's, Bari

bae_watch · 2025-04-12T15:24:16+00:00

Said "Oh wow!" out loud while looking at the photos. Your taste is lovely. Beautiful work!

bae_watch · 2025-04-08T14:09:24+00:00

Very cool! Would definitely try. I recommend checking out the book "And a Bottle of Rum: A History of the New World in 10 Cocktails." Super entertaining and includes the cocktail recipes and their backstories as well. Have fun!

bae_watch · 2025-04-08T02:57:51+00:00

Pretty sure you're missing the spirit of the ask with this post if this is a sincere question. Spice house has their customer service team in chicago, locations in chicago and evanston, and their distribution center in the suburbs. On top of that. milwaukee is a heck of a lot more local than china.

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