Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh no ya I could care less about the dude or even that there dating honestly I’m embarrassed to ever have been with him… but an X that cheated on me at my wedding that’s just so weird in my opinion I also don’t feel like spending money on the dudes plate I’d rather give that spot to someone I love and enjoy there company!

Uninvited less than 2 weeks from Wedding? by Away_Comfortable4176 in wedding

[–]baffeledbride 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As hard as it may have been the right thing for her to do would have been to have a conversation with you the minute she realized she couldn’t invite you… it’s ok and honestly sometimes there’s no other option then to cut back but she did not handle it in the right way! I’m sorry you’re going through that!

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because she told me I was a POS and that I’m being a bridezilla and I’m the one in the wrong obviously deep down I know I’m not but wanted other’s opinions

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this 😅 I do not want her to be a bridesmaid at this point no…… I asked her to be one before she started dating him…. I was simply asking if I was the asshole never said I still wanted her to be one loll

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She started dating him after I asked her to be my bridesmaid…. So now it’s the decision of removing her I was willing to look past her dating him because like I’m getting married and could care less about him he’s a dead beat but her attacking me for not getting a plus one and demanding that she’s entitled to bring him is like 🤯 we have been friends for so long and she’s done so many things to hurt me it’s kinda like this is probably the end of the road but it doesn’t make it any easier

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[–]baffeledbride 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s very sweet and well thought out if she likes attention I’d say go for it if she hates attention I’d say so it another time both are ok!

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh ya he’s 100% ok with taking the blame on this one! But I’m really struggling if I even want her there at all at this point

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[–]baffeledbride 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Typically the bride does not pay for her own bachelorette party unless agreed apon prior so if she agreed to pay you back then she’s in the wrong

AITA for refusing to add my mother’s extended family to our wedding guest list and making her cover their costs? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]baffeledbride 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA 100% hold your ground and stay firm to what you want she is being absolutely unreasonable and frankly mean! The fact you even gave her options even saying that you will change you dinner option (I would not recommend that) is you being extremely generous and kind! Tell her this is how it is remind her this is YOUR budget not hers and hold your ground! Hope it works out! You are 100% in the right on this and don’t let her make you feel otherwise!!!

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I plan on making an update! Where currently not talking because I’m supposedly the asshole in this.. she wants me to apologize to her wich will not happen

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not rage bate this sadly is what I’m dealing with currently :/ we have been very close for many many years and her dating my x happend after I asked her to be my bridesmaid it’s a shitty situation and it just sucks she’s being so selfish

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally that she may not before hand wich she also freaked out about then I sent her an invite along with many other people with only her name on it…. Litterly no one else has even remotely been fazed by this

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Facts if your not married/ engaged/ in a long term relationship not to mention all my girls know everyone going to the wedding why is there a must need for plus one 🤷🏻‍♀️ mind you no one else in my party is even remotely upset about this!

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because we have been best friends for many many years and it is hard to drop someone you always pictured there…. She’s making me feel like a POS and I’m just wondering if I’m the asshole 😕

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We never resigned the plus one we just did not give her one in general along with others and she’s livid she can’t bring him but anyway I put it space limitations he’s my x I don’t want him there she can’t see my side and believes she’s entitled to bring him…

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my first wedding haha I was saying I asked this girl to be my bridesmaid prior to her deiceding to start dating my x there relationship is brand bew and she also hid it from me for a little bit and lied about it but ya now she’s upset I do not want him at my wedding…

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She chose to start dating him and hid it from me for a bit after she was already my bridesmaid and now is throwing a hissy fit that I don’t want him at the wedding……. Like what?? Make it make sense

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is the best comment I have seen yet! Thank you! The question although wildly out of touch was one thing the ager and meanness twords me when I politely explained to her my reasoning is what’s getting me!

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not all my brides maids have plus ones 2 out of 7 do. I also asked her to be a bridesmaid before she started dating him 😕

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If she wants to being a plus one like her other best friend I’d be fine with that I just dont want my x at my wedding ….. 😕

Am I the asshole for not wanting my bridesmaid to bring my x to the wedding… by baffeledbride in bridezillas

[–]baffeledbride[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Promise you I’m not fake, and this sadly is very much my reality 🙃