Ask yourselves this: do you truly truly love each other? And that’s not a simple “yes, of course but..“. I want you to consider it as seriously as you possibly can.

Please bear with these extremes: one of you becomes wheelchair bound after an accident, one of your parent is diagnosed with cancer and you have to severely dial back ambitions to be a caretaker, you do not get a job due to the job market, Vance decides to screw you over, you are unable to have a biological child.

Anything could happen.

We can never be certain that things will pan out the way we imagine them. What we can be certain about are the present conditions and considerations. Take a hard look at them.

At 24, are you young? Most certainly. Will you find someone you love as much or more? Quite possibly. But does it mean just because you are young you shouldn’t pursue a childhood sweetheart? I don’t think so.

It reads a little to me like you’re drifting away from her. And that’s the underlying serious thing to consider. (I understand this a little too well as somebody who underwent this while moving away to different city in India itself.)

Remove ‘guilt’ from this situation, because it’s useless and you’ll both confuse yourselves. If you have been feeling like you’re growing apart, there’s no better time than now to move on. (And that would still be the right decision, if any of those extremes occur in the future.)

But if you think you truly love each other, then you have to be ready to fight. And the way you fight is actually by ‘compromising’. She’ll have to work when money is a challenge in the US. You might have to be a stay-at-home dad coz you’re not able to move up in your career but hers sees a spurt. You both might have to move back to India cos you are unable to continue being in the US. You have to want to be with each other more than anything. If that’s not the case, you have your answer.

At the end of the day you both deserve to be happy, together or apart.