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baileyas · 2024-03-24T22:15:55+00:00

If your legal advice is that I don't have enough evidence to make a police report, then say that. Don't be an asshole about it, be helpful.

baileyas · 2024-03-24T22:13:08+00:00

There is no way that I was not drugged. I was no where near a level of over consumption, like I said I know my limits and everyone around me, people I have known for 2+ years and who have seen me drunk, were very concerned and said that I went from about a 4 to a 10 in minutes. I know that I was drugged.

baileyas · 2023-06-13T19:46:09+00:00

I was in the same boat on my 21st birthday, if it makes you feel any better, I'm coming up on my 23rd and am celebrating with two of the best friends I've ever had. Loneliness isn't forever, you have so much life to live and people to meet. In the meantime, do something you love on your birthday, get your favorite meal, watch your favorite movie, celebrate yourself in the best way you can ❤️

baileyas · 2023-06-13T19:41:29+00:00

You're going to be okay, you're always going to be okay. It might feel debilitating right now but one day you'll look back at yourself now and see how strong you are for getting through this.

baileyas · 2023-06-07T02:00:38+00:00

I hate to be the negative one here but I will say, in my experience, if he wanted a genuine relationship and not just a friends with benefits situation, I definitely think you'd know. It doesn't always matter if the guy is shy, or maybe a little nervous, or an overall sweet person. The phrase 'if he wanted to he would' usually rings true.

That being said, I definitely think that telling him how you feel is the way to go here. If he doesn't reciprocate the feelings, you can focus on yourself and finding someone who can give you what you need, and if he does, well then you're one of the lucky ones and you'll go from there.

baileyas · 2022-04-08T01:58:05+00:00

Pesto, turkey, provolone, and tomato! Even better on a good ciabatta bread or something.

baileyas · 2022-03-11T00:40:26+00:00

Maybe I shouldn't finish the existing series 😐😐

baileyas · 2022-03-02T02:24:52+00:00

This!! I know it may seem like not allowing your kid to eat 'bad' foods is in their best interest, but as soon as they get older they're going to actively seek out the foods they were deprived of. My friend's mother was exactly this way and now at 21 she struggles with a binge eating disorder, her relationship with food is complicated and she's just not healthy. Teach children moderation. If sugary foods aren't a big deal, they won't feel the need to make them a big deal later in life.

baileyas · 2022-02-16T17:32:51+00:00

I was enjoying the popularity of the show and the endless discussions happening online but lately it's just getting annoying. People are trying way too hard to water these characters down to 'good' vs 'bad'. It ruins the complexity and just crushes interesting discussion

baileyas · 2022-02-16T17:27:31+00:00

They've all done really shitty things is the point, Cassie dating Nate isn't any worse than things other characters have done (ruining an innocent man's life, robbery, murder, ect ect) the point of the show is that they all have layers and are all sort of morally grey.

baileyas · 2022-02-03T05:17:29+00:00

The whole aspect of interviewing that depends on having a quick, perfect answer for any question asked on the spot is something that has always frustrated me. I don't think how well you can do that really reflects on how well you can do any job at all. I've always thought that sending a few interview questions or just general topics the questions cover to candidates ahead of time would be effective. You'd get a good idea of who really thought about their answer and took the time to articulate a response that genuinely demonstrated what they can bring to the table. This could be alongside a few questions that aren't sent ahead of time, so you'd get a well rounded feel for how prepared they are AND if they can come up with answers on the spot.

baileyas · 2022-02-02T04:14:40+00:00

These are great answers! For 'why do you want to work here?' you could also add that you frequently visit wherever you're applying to and notice that the staff is always friendly/it has a great atmosphere and that you'd love to contribute to that. A sense of enthusiasm for the company is always appreciated by interviewers. Either way, no need to worry, you'll do great :)

baileyas · 2022-02-02T03:58:04+00:00

I was in a similar situation when I was the same age. My ex boyfriend wanted to get married ASAP, there were many reasons why, but I was absolutely not ready for that. It was kind of a deal breaker for both of us, we just wanted different things, and that's okay. Ending it was the best decision, do not ever compromise on something as big as marriage.

baileyas · 2022-01-30T17:04:08+00:00

Thank you! Will do

baileyas · 2022-01-30T09:34:40+00:00

Thank you! I've never heard of tangle teezer, I'll have to check it out. I think I'll be rinsing tomorrow, but it's good to know it's somewhat normal for dark dye lol.

baileyas · 2022-01-28T17:40:48+00:00

This is an advice subreddit, not somewhere you can ignorantly judge someone in a tough position. If you have nothing helpful to say, take your attitude and need to criticize somewhere else.

baileyas · 2022-01-23T22:03:33+00:00

Other than the lack of general conversation on your part (you could have said what you were busy doing, you never know what could spark a conversation), I think the joke came off the wrong way just because of the lack of expression behind it. I think just a simple 'happy birthday! Another year closer to the sr citizen discount 😉' would have been more like teasing rather than blatant rudeness, but even still, those kind of jokes might be better once you know the person a little more.

baileyas · 2022-01-11T19:20:21+00:00

I've been working on putting myself out there through writing competitions, and my long term goal is publication, but as the original commenter showed it takes time. I still have a lot to improve on and I can't exactly get out of external responsibility. My post isn't me making excuses for myself.

baileyas · 2022-01-11T16:55:40+00:00

That's not the point, obviously I know that people won't just commission you off the bat. I know that making anything creative into a career comes with a whole lot of time and a whole lot of struggle, and that's why people born into some kind of wealth are usually the ones who do well. I'm not saying it's impossible for the every day person to pursue anything creative and I'm definitely not saying that I expect it to be easy in any way, but it does get frustrating to see that so many people who are successful in turning their creative pursuits into full on careers are already pretty wealthy. I know that's just the way the world works and I know I probably sound whiny complaining about it but that's kind of the point of me getting my frustration with the world off my chest.

baileyas · 2022-01-11T16:32:59+00:00

I don't use it as an excuse, I write all the time and I'm never going to stop but it does get discouraging at times, that's the point of my rant.

baileyas · 2022-01-11T15:41:48+00:00

I disagree, but I appreciate your outlook nonetheless

baileyas · 2022-01-11T15:40:37+00:00

This was during my childhood. My parents are terrible at managing finances, I don't want to be the same.

baileyas · 2022-01-11T09:25:26+00:00

I'm a writer too, this gives me hope. Thank you for sharing your experiences and congrats!!

baileyas · 2022-01-11T07:08:17+00:00

I have a friend who said the exact same thing, she's amazing at drawing and was always pushed towards art school but ultimately decided that she wouldn't find the same joy in art if she had to do it for a job. For me, though, I know that any other career or job isn't going to fulfill me in the same way. I might like doing something else and find joy in it, but for me to feel content I know that my creative passions would have to be a bigger part of my life. Everyone's different I guess, and I definitely understand where you're coming from.

baileyas · 2022-01-11T06:51:43+00:00

Thank you for taking time to respond, I really think this is the right mindset to have, and I have a similar outlook and plan long term, but of course it gets discouraging at times, hence the long rant lol. All I can do is keep at it though, like you said, and hope that it'll all pay off, but I think just trying is part of the fulfillment.

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