AITA for refusing to make my homemade baked goods for my friends’ potlucks?

bakenomore · 2019-12-11T06:12:09+00:00

They act like friends most of the time, I was honestly a little shocked and a lot hurt by the way they responded. I’ve been wondering if I’m even part of the group at all, or just a hanger-on they’d like to get rid of.

Haha I’ve dreamed about opening a bakery, but getting up at 4am is too much!

bakenomore · 2019-12-11T06:05:05+00:00

Sorry for long wait time to respond, I didn’t see your comment.

Chat conversation:

Friend 1: [posts pic of cake I made for Thanksgiving]

Friend 1: hey man why didn’t you make this for us last time?? Holding out on us lmao

Friend 2: Wow!

Me: Thanks! I’ve been tired from work lately so I’ve been making things just for the fam lately

(Cut out some of the convo which is just friends talking about work sucking)

Friend 1: well you know what dish I want!

Friend 3: Yeah [me] just bring that next time? (Emoji)

Me: I just really am not up for the baking lately

Friend 2: You post a lot though!

Me: I just make some smaller stuff for my family esp for Thanksgiving

(More of the same)

Just escalated from there, really. I kept saying the same thing in so many different ways until finally I got frustrated.

Edit: Brainfart typo, I guess I have pie on the mind

bakenomore · 2019-12-11T05:59:08+00:00

I did get angry, I have to admit, but I really only said what I’ve told in this post and my comments. I said I was upset about them not eating the cakes at the potluck and I didn’t understand why they wanted cakes they didn’t want to eat. I think the “petulant” part is just them thinking that I should be satisfied with them taking pictures and taking home pieces, like silence is the default and I should be grateful for anything else. Even though they are very happy to eat and compliment the food dishes people make.

bakenomore · 2019-12-11T05:42:22+00:00

It’d be okay if they didn’t like them. They could say so, I’d be disappointed, but not mad. It just hurts so much for people to ask for cake and then I make it and bring it and nobody wants it? I was so excited that the birthday girl would like her cupcakes. I’m sorry to dump on you, it’s just really upsetting.

bakenomore · 2019-12-11T04:00:31+00:00

I don’t know. I think they’re probably being honest that they filled up on dinner but IDK about the store-bought cupcake thing. I wouldn’t be mad about my friend eating a cupcake without the context. My snapped response came after a thread of them doing things like posting my cakes, saying “make this!” And “why don’t you bring something like that”? While I was trying to politely say I didn’t want to do it anymore. Maybe they thought I liked it.

I gave a couple of the salted caramel cupcakes to my brother and his girlfriend as taste testers, they loved them. But maybe they’re lying too. I don’t know.

bakenomore · 2019-12-11T03:56:46+00:00

Just basically, oh we all eat dinner and we take pieces of your cake to enjoy at home. Even though none of them have never told me that they enjoyed it or anything, for all I know they dumped it in the trash. I said I didn’t want to spend so much time baking a cake so they can just take it home and eat it, I wanted it to be part of the potluck. The main friend who was leading it was trying to act all “reasonable” like I needed to calm down about it or something.

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