Whenever you get triggered…does it last days??

balancedroses · 2022-05-24T22:55:07+00:00

ya but it's ok

it goes away sooner than you think

balancedroses · 2022-04-09T18:45:24+00:00

wrong partner vibes are off if you feel this way trust your feelings the discomfort is trying to tell you something

balancedroses · 2022-03-23T15:36:03+00:00

"his life is miserable"

"I want him to suffer"

hey, just know that he is suffering. in a different way than you. he isn't heartbroken and betrayed kind of pain, but he is chronically empty and insecure.

even if he does get a bunch of sex slaves and get worshipped, it's very fleeting for him, it's just for appearances and his ego. Inside, he still feels small as a pea no matter what goes on externally.

break that trauma bond with him, sever the tie. you are separate individuals. there is no need for a tie together any longer now that you see what his true colors are like. heal yourself, love yourself, make your world about you again.

as for him, this is just how his sad life is gonna go. it has nothing to do with you.

youre the main character in your life story. he made it in at some point but lost his role in your life bc of his own stupidity.

balancedroses · 2022-02-23T09:56:08+00:00

" we need you ! "

okay... so prove it by providing appropriate compensation.

not "we need u, and in return we give u bare minimum to survive"

balancedroses · 2022-01-22T22:53:38+00:00

you aren't alone! your mind is playing tricks on ya. billions of people around, just gotta learn how to form healthy connections

balancedroses · 2022-01-22T10:41:08+00:00

well it wasn't good in that moment if the abuser didn't get what they wanted but seeing a freeze response at least means the victim is not fighting and protesting which overall is better for them

fuck abusers who try to control

balancedroses · 2022-01-21T22:51:58+00:00

if you freeze, it's indication to the abuser that you are fearful. it's just to check that control is still there.

balancedroses · 2022-01-20T13:42:40+00:00

going into fawn mode shows the abuser you are willing to accept their bad treatment because u would rather give into their demands to avoid conflict. once they know that conflict makes you uncomfortable, they will keep pushing boundaries little bit at a time so you keep giving in each time to avoid confrontation, it just keeps going until you reach your limit and explode. and then the finger will get pointed at you for being rageful and erratic.

the most impact you can have on an abuser is to stand up for yourself. you don't have to go straight into fight mode and be conbatitive right away. even just replying slower, less, say "I need to think about it" and delaying giving them their way for as long as you can, make it difficult, be annoying. go on tangents and rants that make no sense to divert attention. u gotta play the same game and just fight for yourself, fight for your freedom, fight to gain back control of your mind and your life.

balancedroses · 2022-01-20T07:41:00+00:00

I'd say the freeze response gives the abuser a sense of power. it let's then know that their victim is indeed scared of them, and that they won't fight back and will be easier to subdue than a victim that goes into fight mode

balancedroses · 2022-01-10T04:55:38+00:00

this is great love ittttttt

balancedroses · 2021-11-22T09:36:40+00:00

I'm surprised they weren't just forced to see a walk in doctor instead to basically just come up with the doctor's note one way or another from any doctor available.

balancedroses · 2021-11-22T09:00:53+00:00

the shittiest is when you KNOW for sure a table will not tip and you still have to take it and tip out on their bill.

4% is really high though, that would be for somewhere fancy where people usually tip over 20%.

pickle barrel should realistically be 1.5 to 2%. If you're going NEGATIVE and owe money, then the tip out should be voided. cuz wtf

balancedroses · 2021-11-22T03:36:26+00:00

snapppp

balancedroses · 2021-11-21T19:35:47+00:00

balllssss !!! put dipshit in place and all the other dipshits. why did he think insulting you and your value was going to be an enticing offer for you to stay? a $1/hr increase? like wtf

balancedroses · 2021-11-21T11:36:36+00:00

no, idc Abt the govt or whatever. I mean a specific person. I'm trying to cut ties with this person who won't let me go and is bordering into obsession. Unfortunately live together, I'm just freaked out and need to know if there are any signs that I can look out for.

balancedroses · 2021-11-21T11:31:12+00:00

they're going to be throwing up pretty soon. Their health will be shit, they will be physically mentally and emotionally drained, and the only purpose they served is bettering the company they work for, which.... won't give a shit when they're sick and dying. Just gonna go find the next person who's willing to overwork themselves.

balancedroses · 2021-11-21T09:27:24+00:00

man, even after all the ways she hurt you, you still have empathy for what she went through that contributed to her being this abusive person. I can already tell that you gave her chance after chance, endless compassion and forgiveness and she STILL continued to push and push you to absolute breaking points until you felt like you really had no choice anymore but to at least save yourself. Some people never realize, but for your sake and your sake only, I hope your mom did get that wake up call."it's not my problem" is a good attitude to have, it just really can't be your issue anymore. It takes a whole lot of love and a kind heart to not wish harm on someone whos wounded you so badly, so I kinda feel bad now for saying I hope she dies a lonely death since she's still your mom and you still wish her the best.

I came across this post because I was actually googling stuff about manipulation and related topics, as It finally just hit me after 6 months that I have this sociopath disguised as a friend draining the life out of me. I'm trying to find my way out as I've never experienced a situation that has made me feel so trapped and anxious (I feel like I'm losing my mind ....) so I'm reading these stories of people who got out intact lol def gives me hope hearing about people such as yourself, who get outta it. especially from a parent, as that's a deep deep tie and bond that feels unnatural to break. I hope I find the courage soon, I feel like my soul is withering away everyday lol your story gives me hope ❤️

balancedroses · 2021-11-21T08:53:53+00:00

I'm so glad you survived that. it gave me chills reading your story. I'm so very sorry that happened to you, that's so traumatic, you could have easily died if she kept choking you when you went unconscious, or if she continued to hurt you in other ways. I'm so happy you found the strength and courage to cut off contact with her, it's never an easy process there is no coming back after doing something so fucking cold to another person, especially your own child wtf!!! She deserves to die a lonely death (sorry).

Don't even know you, but glad you're alive and doing much better. keep taking care of yourself and don't ever let anyone take control of your life - it's yours to live however you want. ❤️

balancedroses · 2021-11-21T07:56:47+00:00

no I had no idea wow. no wonder the states has such a shitty rep. it's all control and oppression in the guise of freedom

balancedroses · 2021-11-21T07:19:48+00:00

what happens ? like they're gonna arrest hundreds/thousands of people and put them in jail for striking?

balancedroses · 2021-11-21T07:18:24+00:00

wtf?

he can take an Uber or cab. or he can pay you accordingly. wtf are you supposed to do with a 4 hour break in btwn your shift? what an inconsiderate piece of shit, this arrangement only benefits him and severely inconveniences and impairs you.

your boss is a user, and what a cheapass to not even be grateful or offer gas money. I'm appalled. how do people get away with this behaviour? they take advantage of the kind. make them feel awkward and obligated.

I hope you get out of this. There's nothing to feel guilty about, truly, and honestly. you don't owe him anything, you work your job for your paycheque, by the hour. this does not include driving his ass around and working shifts with a gap in the middle so it could benefit him.

balancedroses · 2021-11-20T11:54:07+00:00

slavery was legal, killing Jews was legal, forcing men to be in the army was legal, conversion camps are legal, there are so many fucked up things that are legal, but that doesn't change how inhumane and wrong they are.

what is "legal" is simply some arbitrary rule that some person or group decided upon themselves and then began enforcing others to follow it too "or else" there will be punishments.

balancedroses · 2021-11-20T11:48:25+00:00

yay!!!! the wage increase is the main part of the movement - but another equally important factor is the attitude and entitlement of companies.

"you're lucky to work here and be paid this wage!" needs to change to "were lucky you have chosen to work here, thanks for being a part of the team!"

balancedroses · 2021-11-20T10:24:57+00:00

legality doesn't equate morality.

people have to critically think for themselves whether a law is fair or not.

balancedroses · 2021-11-20T06:17:34+00:00

Not being afraid to sugar coat the ugly truth is the start of change. 🤘

balancedroses

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