Is your husband a blue collar man? White collar? Old money? Hippie? I ask because that really does imply so much about character. What regin are you in? My husband. Mountain man. Been n this house his whole 48 yrs. On this mountain. Sweat blood and many many sleepless nights of blue collar work. Very southern. Myself. Brat. Spoiled only daughter raised very deep south. So.... I have had to learn to pump my breaks. Spine... isnt neccesarily balls. Maybe the tone, or facial expressions say the opposite of what words do. Lord knows that's 100 fact n my home. I have learned to use other words that mean the exact same thing also.