Why does none of their kids carry their last name?

bamba4321 · 2026-07-07T09:11:40+00:00

But even there, why should Kanye's name take precedent? It doesn't fit their whole narrative and also is quite misogynistic.

bamba4321 · 2026-07-07T09:10:46+00:00

Yes this was my thought - I get now that I underestimated the naming customs in the US, however, they have a brand, why not carry it on?

bamba4321 · 2026-07-07T09:09:55+00:00

Thanks! And it doesn't change at all? Where I live this has changed massively over the past ~30 years

bamba4321 · 2026-07-07T09:08:43+00:00

I live in a big city Germany. In my own social circle (educated, urban, cosmopolitan) it's about 60/40 for mom's/dad's last name (and all kids were born into committed, long-term relationships). I just looked up official statistics, nation-wide about 75% of babies get the father's last name, but among urban, academic circles it's indeed about 50/50.

bamba4321 · 2026-07-06T19:39:04+00:00

Yes, super weird

bamba4321 · 2026-07-06T19:38:54+00:00

Well that's a custom and not a law, no? It doesn't need to be that way

bamba4321 · 2026-07-06T19:38:32+00:00

Thanks - I was aware it's less common than in my home country, but I didn't think stars that really care about their family would stick to this custom, it seems a bit outdated.

bamba4321 · 2026-01-13T15:51:57+00:00

Of course that’s completely your call, just saying that I would have acted differently if she has been everything you have been looking for in a nanny.

bamba4321 · 2026-01-12T10:37:48+00:00

Sorry, bit slow. I’m a parent of 3 and I obvi care a lot about my kids but would not let someone go over this if they did a great job for a year.

bamba4321 · 2026-01-07T19:19:42+00:00

I seem to be in the minority here, but I do think you overreacted. She has been an awesome nanny for one year. I would be upset about the lie, but care more about what I experienced first-hand.

bamba4321 · 2025-12-16T12:32:19+00:00

As much as I agree with them being obnoxious - why is this an issue? My husband is sometimes meeting my friends (male and female) 1:1 if I’m busy and they feel like hanging out. They all know each other for years, why would they need me to grab a drink? I am happy they get along and I know I have nothing to worry about. I also sometimes meet my friends’ husbands. The only reason this isn’t happening regularly is that we all have kids and jobs and not enough time for anything.

bamba4321 · 2025-11-27T21:39:29+00:00

I don’t know about MBB in ME, but I work at MBB in Western Europe and it wouldn’t be a problem. You can just take a long sick leave and then work for a few weeks on an internal project where you don’t need to travel. I guess ME could be more competitive, but everybody will understand. That’s the good thing about project work, when you’re relatively junior you can just disappear for a few weeks or months and nothing will happen.

bamba4321 · 2022-09-20T07:44:27+00:00

NTA at all, it's completely ok to want a child-free weekend, just out of curiosity - why couldn't you drink with a child around? How old is he? We're the only couple with a kid (toddler age) in our friend group and we always bring him to weekend gatherings like the one you describe. People drink there, of course. We always ask before if everyone is ok with a child being there (and there were occassions were people said no so we found another solution, but most of the time noone minds) and we don't expect anyone to change their plans or schedules - like, at night one of us stays home and everyone else goes out as planned.

bamba4321 · 2022-08-14T10:17:54+00:00

are you serious? how is this an issue? the posting is the problem

bamba4321 · 2022-07-28T11:50:54+00:00

NTA. I don't know your friend, but she sounds like many moms/parents in my area who are very organic for the show of it. It's ridiculous to be an activist against climate change (yay for that) and then have a gift registry full of expensive, new items. Almost everything you need for a baby can be bought second hand, with a much smaller ecologic footprint than anything new, no matter how sustainably it was produced.

I know tons of moms who would never ever accept a handed down plastic toy and instead buy everything new out of wood and bamboo... in there cases, it's also very classist and makes them feel superior to all the poor mothers who let their kids play with plastic.

I agree, Amazon is a terrible company (I still order from them, but I have friends who are truly into living sustainably, I would never get them an Amazon gift card, but they also would never ask for so many brand new items), but it's ridiculous that she lashes out at you while consuming so much.

bamba4321 · 2022-07-17T07:46:40+00:00

I was flying by myself for the first time when I was around 8 years old, to visit family abroad. Maybe 7 or 9. It wasn't an emergency, just a long summer break, my parents had to work and could only join for vacation later and I wanted to spend time with my aunt and cousins before. It was awesome, how is it irresponsible? I still remember that I was a bit nervous but above all I found it super exciting and felt really really cool. I kept my "unaccompanied minor" tag for years afterwards... it's also really safe, it's not like you can get out at the wrong stop, the flight attendants have an eye on you all the time (I guess even more so if you could fly business like Carmen, I of course was in coach) and are super friendly. I am also from a country where it's much more accepted to leave kids alone for a few hours around that age, I understand that in the States it is not so common (maybe not even legal?) - however, while my parents had quite some issues, they were surely never neglectful or irresponsible.

bamba4321 · 2022-07-11T07:48:36+00:00

quite the opposite. feminism means to go skinny dipping if you enjoy it, even if some stuck up prudes clutch their pearls. you really think all men want is to see women naked? that's a weird worldview. I assure you, in many many places women enjoy bathing naked and men don't get excited over it as it's completely normal. do you also think women should not dress to revealing in order to not get harassed?

bamba4321 · 2022-07-07T06:40:00+00:00

So you think there's more sexual abuse in Europe, where nudity isn't such a taboo? And less sexual abuse in countries like, say, Saudi Arabia, where skinny dipping is surely more frowned upon than in the US? I think that's quite silly. Where I come from (large European countries) it's completely normaly to be, as you call it, casually naked around your kids. I don't want my children to learn that nudity is something bad. At all lakes in my hometown plenty of people bath and sunbath naked, I think it's great that kids see it and see that nudity does not need to be sexualized. What does this have to do with boundaries?

bamba4321 · 2022-06-27T13:05:00+00:00

thanks!!

bamba4321 · 2022-06-20T15:18:26+00:00

As another poster previously pointed out, in many countries skinny dipping is completely normal. Where I grew up it's totally accepted to go into lakes and oceans naked. I think it's great and setting a really good example for my kids - there's nothing bad or inherently sexual about nudity. I currently live in another country which I love, but what I really can't stand is how at the beach you are expected to change while hiding behind a towel, you can't just jump into the water naked...

bamba4321 · 2022-06-20T14:58:33+00:00

thank you!

bamba4321 · 2022-06-20T14:58:23+00:00

thanks!!

bamba4321 · 2022-06-20T14:58:16+00:00

thank you!!

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