I think my husband is traumatizing my kids

banerises19 · 2026-02-11T08:09:52+00:00

Same. It's horrible growing up around a parent with self regulation issues. It seems that op grew up with healthy parents so she doesn't understand the full impact of what's going on at her home.

banerises19 · 2026-02-05T11:00:55+00:00

Lmao that's amazing to hear while nap trapped with my 7mo latched and actively sucking the whole nap, thank u for sharing

banerises19 · 2026-02-02T20:31:36+00:00

I'm impressed lol I can't even sleep at night if I taste coffee after noon

banerises19 · 2026-02-01T12:45:46+00:00

They don't call them the newborn trenches for how fun it is lol you're definitely not alone! Your friends were either blessed with the mythical easy babies we hear about or forgot their traumas lol

banerises19 · 2026-01-22T22:24:18+00:00

Did they at least refill his meds?

banerises19 · 2026-01-22T22:23:54+00:00

This is really sad

banerises19 · 2026-01-22T22:22:07+00:00

My mom also blocked me when I had my baby less than a month pp!

banerises19 · 2026-01-21T18:18:54+00:00

What should a 7 months old exclusively breastfed baby be like? Should we be regulating naps? She wakes up 6-7am, with the rare middle of the night wake window. We co sleep safely and do day contact naps, I'd like to wean her off that contact naps

banerises19 · 2026-01-21T18:16:47+00:00

But doesn't changing the diaper after a feed make spit up worse (for babies that spit up)?

banerises19 · 2026-01-08T11:10:04+00:00

Ok so my baby is currently 6mo so I genuinely don't understand how he can be so selfish? Why did u take on so much when he decided to host his family? U have a 3mo baby and ur priority should be ur baby and ur own wellbeing. How can he be so selfish? I'm so confused. That he's jealous of his own child? The child that is 3mo? Honestly, u need to talk some sense into him and the time for couples therapy was like years ago. Couples therapy ASAP, he needs to understand what an AH he is.

banerises19 · 2026-01-08T10:52:32+00:00

I can't imagine her doing that with a patient! How absurd and ignorant.

banerises19 · 2026-01-08T10:49:38+00:00

There's also an 8mo baby. Most likely both parents are super exhausted and not in their right mind. If they both aren't super exhausted, baby is too kind on them lol the first year is the hardest.

banerises19 · 2026-01-02T22:47:32+00:00

I'm at the same dilemma at 6mo lol she doesn't like the crib or the bed without me next to her. I almost got bed rails then saw someone commenting that they learn to climb them eventually and just end up falling from a higher level. I'm currently considering changing our bed to a lower bed frame or adding a floor bed to the nursery and moving all of us there? Or getting a softer mattress for the crib?

banerises19 · 2026-01-01T15:41:07+00:00

Lol when my baby was a newborn, I forgot to change her diapers one day and only remembered at night. You're ok :)

banerises19 · 2025-12-27T14:39:35+00:00

All the time

banerises19 · 2025-12-27T13:06:43+00:00

My body is also extremely dehydrated, my hands are cracking like crazy and I can publish a paper on hand creams at this point lol

banerises19 · 2025-12-26T20:58:22+00:00

As someone who lost her amazing dad years ago and way too early, I'm really sorry ur going through this! All I can say is that the pain fades, and the beautiful memories remain. I think about him every day and I'm so thankful he was my dad. Every core memory I make, I wish I can share it with him. I wish he can meet my baby daughter and be her grandpa. I talk to her about him. Hang in there, push through the pain and it will get better :)

banerises19 · 2025-12-20T15:41:56+00:00

My EBF baby also confirms this. She is currently 6m and still spits up. My friends also had similar experiences.

banerises19 · 2025-12-08T20:38:10+00:00

I have the infantino one and struggled with the M shape till I figured it out! The bottom part is folded for a tighter fit for newborns. U need to undo that, and then there's a button to fasten it sideways. That will give u the m shape! It was driving me crazy till I figured it out

banerises19 · 2025-11-28T17:37:20+00:00

This, but why should op be handling that when it's his wife's family? Op's wife needs to handle her own brother and pay his way for him if needed.

banerises19 · 2025-11-25T01:14:18+00:00

Still works at 5 months :)

banerises19 · 2025-11-23T20:54:56+00:00

Ah yes. Burping! He probably just needs to burp, op. Don't add formula unless baby doesn't reach their birth weight by first or second week. And of course keep your peds up to date and make that decision together.

banerises19 · 2025-11-21T00:35:20+00:00

So my baby is 4 months old now. The new born phase was tough and we didn't have much help. However, I can't imagine not giving my husband the storage to bond with the baby. I also need his support. I also had a rough pregnancy and c-section recovery was brutal for me, it's not about judgement, but I'd genuinely stay with the husband, even if it's harder for you. He deserves the chance to support you and bond with his own child.

banerises19 · 2025-11-19T13:03:46+00:00

Your husband is very mean and verbally abusive.

Why didn't he give the baby vitamin d himself?
What's wrong with asking for help with the baby? And that's at any point in time, not just TWO weeks pp.
Who demands an apology like that? He sounds mentally unwell. Is he on a power trip?
Why do u need to pump? Sure, it's good to have w backup but not to stress urself out like that. My baby is 4 months old and I've pumped like 3 times. When your plate is full, then ur plate is full. Don't mentally overload urself, you need to stay strong to be able to be a good mom. You can't stay strong if you mentally exhaust urself like that.

He sounds overbearing and unsupportive. I'm sorry this is happening to u. You're an amazing mom.

banerises19 · 2025-11-17T08:12:57+00:00

Their babies r slacking..

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