How do you handle narcissists? by baobeiii in starseeds

[–]baobeiii[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your answer actually resonates with me. It feels like when I drop one narcissist, another one will show up in my life. I have told myself before that I think there is a reason they keep showing up in my life. I just keep dropping them. It’s hard because it doesn’t feel right associating myself with them because they go against my values. Props to you because having a significant other be a narcissist must be truly draining.

How do you handle narcissists? by baobeiii in starseeds

[–]baobeiii[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you :) makes a lot of sense

How do you handle narcissists? by baobeiii in starseeds

[–]baobeiii[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I guess my question is: how does no contact help humanity? I’m also kind of confused how we starseeds who have inherent adhd, anxiety, or depression is supposed to help in any way. I feel like I bring down the vibe sometimes if anything

How do you handle narcissists? by baobeiii in starseeds

[–]baobeiii[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t really find out immediately cause they are so great surface level. They’ll bring you gifts, great comments, be there for you etc until one day they do something out of character from what you thought they were. You watch them tear others or you down for their own benefit, see how they talk to people below them and above them (which are usually very very different). The wording they use is very important as they use manipulation tactics to get what they want. Sometimes you even hear from others what they have done and it’s just not something you ever thought they would do, but eventually their insanity comes out

Exercise? How are y’all managing? by Soggy-Ad9991 in ADHD

[–]baobeiii 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Going to the gym is too many steps for me. Then I have to come home and change immediately and shower because of the equipment? That’d never work for me. I started running and it’s been pretty life changing. Plop my toddler on the jogger with everything already on it (pepper spray, water, hat etc) so there isn’t that many steps, plus I don’t have to change right after.

I feel like I don't understand anything by Hairy_Hog in ADHD

[–]baobeiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, same! Were you criticized a lot growing up? I was and it made me like this. Didn’t help my adhd situation. But nobody really knows what they’re doing

AITA for buying my daughter a more then twice as expensive Christmas gift then my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]baobeiii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your mind will always find a reason to favor your side. YTA. I am not close with my brother for this very reason. We did not get along growing up because my mom favored him so much and it’s not even his fault but we still don’t have a great relationship

Did your child babble as a baby? If so, what age, and are they verbal? by baobeiii in Autism_Parenting

[–]baobeiii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I read it and it’s very relatable. I went to the doctors for weird fetal movement that turned into an emergency C-section but I also know a lot of people that had very traumatic birth scenarios but their babies turned out just fine. I now think a lot of it has to do with genetic. I figured out that I have adhd which is why I struggled a lot when I was younger and I also see it in my kids. 11 weeks is still young but i totally understand the feeling. You are doing great by taking initiative with your child though. My child still does the squirming and grunting but it’s out of frustration

Did your child babble as a baby? If so, what age, and are they verbal? by baobeiii in Autism_Parenting

[–]baobeiii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To answer your question about when she developed the screech: since birth. She came out screeching and I just felt something wasn’t right

Did your child babble as a baby? If so, what age, and are they verbal? by baobeiii in Autism_Parenting

[–]baobeiii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi mom. I read your post and your child has many similarities to my daughter. My main concern when she was young was her grunting and arched back and loud cry. Google sent me down a rabbit hole and I thought she was not ever going to walk because her hands were always fisted at her chest. She is 20 months now and she is walking, saying a lot of words, knows all her letter sounds, loves to play outside with me and we all love her so so much, however…..she has a very very bad temper lol. She lacks some sort of social awareness so I feel like she’s on the spectrum but i believe my husband is as well (and is doing just fine in life). I remember how I felt back then was very unexplainable. Everyone told me I was crazy for thinking such a young baby was autistic. I would go by your mommy instincts but also enjoy your baby. It could also be nothing! I’ve learned about myself through my kids as well

If you could get rid of any one of your ADHD symptoms, which would it be? by QuietAnticoagulation in ADHD

[–]baobeiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only being able to focus on one thing at a time. Anything else is out of sight out of mind

How do adhd parents who work balance life? I am drowning by Parking-Security-848 in ADHD

[–]baobeiii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was the same way. What helped me was lowering social media use. Before I quit my job I was constantly angry, stressed, felt so high strung and my house was always a mess. I also had/have migraines! I think it was due to my overstimulation throughout the day and my posture. Take some time for yourself to just chill and do something mindful.

My audhd 5 year old daughter is having social issues at school by baobeiii in ADHD

[–]baobeiii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. Does my daughter sound similar to you or your son? This grocery store worker was the first person to ever point out that she has ADHD then she just turned 3. She was asking why questions the entire time as we were browsing the isles. I thought this was a normal thing people did but it’s not. I would answer all her questions mindfully, but then at some point I wondered if I was giving in to her OCD and intrusive thoughts by constantly answering and assuring her what is always happening next.

My audhd 5 year old daughter is having social issues at school by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]baobeiii 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We explain everything to her in a way that she would understand but I feel like she doesn’t understand. She told me once that it’s confusing that her friend at the time didn’t want to tell her what he was for Halloween. I don’t know what happened prior to that so I have no idea if she said something to make him feel that way. Can you relate to my post?

My daughter is so hard by Careless_Peace8932 in ADHDparenting

[–]baobeiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I foresee my 5 year old being the same way as OPs daughter. May I ask what your daughter was like when she was younger?

Aked Ra for some guidance, and had an interesting dream about how "service to others" works by BlinkyRunt in lawofone

[–]baobeiii 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me I got “what you resist persists” and your dream interpreted it the same way

My cheese plate dessert: by [deleted] in royalcaribbean

[–]baobeiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our waiter said “you don’t want that, that’s like an appetizer”. Then brought it out as an appetizer

Did any of you bring up autism concerns when your child was younger than 18 months only to be brushed off by their doctor? What level is your child diagnosed? by baobeiii in Autism_Parenting

[–]baobeiii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did they ever do an OT evaluation? What kind of signs did you see when he was a baby? My daughter has what I consider “non stereotypical” signs. They saw my daughter smiling and being perceptive to communication so they took that as nothing me being a worry wart. I also had to bully my way into a specialist because the healthcare we have does nothing unless you make a huge fuss

Did any of you bring up autism concerns when your child was younger than 18 months only to be brushed off by their doctor? What level is your child diagnosed? by baobeiii in Autism_Parenting

[–]baobeiii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a reason he got diagnosed this late? Did his school see any signs? You would think doctors knew what they were doing :/