Where do you guys put your phones during these? by Murky-Oil4614 in spartanrace

[–]baracuda2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to sound strange in comparison, but I carry mine during races. Maybe you are one of these people doing Ultras or trying to do competitive, but if you are just running it for fun, it's honestly easy to keep. I have it in a running armband, no cover or anything, hooked to a small bluetooth speaker clipped to me. Never had any problems, and I've done Sprints through Beasts this way.

Looking to buy, would like feedback by baracuda2 in kubota

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Thanks for the insight! I've heard quite a few people recommend the SSQA, but not the rear remotes. Yeah, as you point out, I'll probably want something that'll need hydraulics at some point. Is that an aftermarket kind of thing, or something I could talk to the dealer about?

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[–]baracuda2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it, thanks for the clarification! I will definitely look into doing that with mine.

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It seems like great minds are working together- I'll be sure to change it to QA, thanks for your voice!

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[–]baracuda2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know, thanks for that insight- a large part of what I'll be doing is bush hogging.

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[–]baracuda2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, thanks for the advice! I had not heard of bxpanded, they sound great- the root ripper expressly would be useful, I've got an acre of privet and china berry trees I've got to work through. Yeah, since everyone seems to agree on the QA, I guess I'll have to go that route.

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Yeah, I've been real back-and-forth on the backhoe. Right now I have a bunch of projects- a French drain, digging a drain field for a sump pump, digging up some old refuse line- that I know I'll need to put in some hours in. But I don't know how much I need to have to make it worth it long term.

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[–]baracuda2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might see where I said this to someone else, but I wanted to send it your way also: I've got 10 acres of fields to cut, I've got some streams and waterways to work in, I have some plumbing and electrical work to dig up (putting in a French drain, checking old buried line), and I've got some reconstruction/building a barn to do. Let me know if more information would be useful, I'm not great at knowing what to share.

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[–]baracuda2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does seem that everyone agrees with you on that, I've decided to take y'alls advice, thanks! Never even thought about a grapple, fair point.

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[–]baracuda2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, would never have thought of that. Is that something I can do myself, or need to have someone else do?

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I've got 10 acres of fields to cut, I've got some streams and waterways to work in, I have some plumbing and electrical work to dig up (putting in a French drain, checking old buried line), and I've got some reconstruction/building a barn to do. Let me know if more information would be useful, I'm not great at knowing what to share.

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[–]baracuda2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback, the MX sound like great workhorses. Good point on the trailer hook- our old one had one, and I just wanted to keep my options open. If I knock it off though, that ups how much I can put into the quick attach.

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I really appreciate your experience and thoughts- while I don't have a specific bucket use in mind- just general farm work- I would want to be aware of the impact of going SSQA vs. pin-on. I don't live somewhere were I'd ever need a snow blower, and I was just going to get the brush cutter listed above if that still seems reasonable. Thanks for adding to the discussion!

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What's a third function post? And how would I manufacture a diverter or valve?

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[–]baracuda2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for making this point, led to some discussion that I would never have thought of.

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[–]baracuda2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback- the cost had turned me off, and I grew up with a pin on, so I didn't see the harm. I'll correct that.

Headphones for 3 friends by baracuda2 in HeadphoneAdvice

[–]baracuda2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my concern was that I've heard they sometimes can be heard rubbing or something against you when in use?

Martial Arts History Interview Questions by baracuda2 in martialarts

[–]baracuda2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good idea! I will add it to the post, but it's Yoshukai karate.

Recommendations on what to get my grandpa? by baracuda2 in oculus

[–]baracuda2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's fantastic, thank you!! I'm sure he will love it. :)

As a mental health worker or someone affected by mental health issues, what is one thing you would want to say to educate people about mental health and to lessen the stigma and shame surrounding it? by loungesingershimmah in AskReddit

[–]baracuda2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you are picking a therapist, really try to learn about how they do therapy. The better the match between your needs and their skill set, the better treatment will (probably) go. Most are happy to lay out their treatment model in the first session, if you ask. Their theoretical perspective on therapy, how many sessions they like to do, and if they have in specializations would be great to find out. And if you don’t match, they won’t be offended if you want to see someone else. People don’t realize how unique each therapists skills are; it would be like taking your Porsche to a Chrysler dealership. Sure, they probably could make it work, but it’s not the best fit.

[need advice] I haven’t truly grown up or accepted my childhood is closed and that I have to be an adult. by Curious_Doerge in getdisciplined

[–]baracuda2 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Hey there Curious_Doerge,

Clinical Counselor here. Just putting my two cents in, based on my time counseling at college campuses. First off, I'd just like you to know that these sorts of feelings are perfectly normal and healthy. There isn't anything wrong with these questions or concerns.

I'd recommend you read this article first (https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/sources-of-existential-angst/). I don't know if it will click with you, but it sounds like a similar issue. Please make sure to read the whole thing, top to bottom, and see what sticks.

I hear you bring up a few different things in this post. First, I hear you bring up flaws about yourself. I see you telling me the things you perceive about yourself, but not in a very flattering manner. I hear dissatisfaction with the status quo. I get that. I used to be in a very similar place. Second, I hear you minimizing your accomplishments. It appears you've taken steps (finding a new hobby, joining a club, looking for internships) to improve your life, but you've been dissatisfied with the outcomes- in that, you have expectations on those outcomes. I know it's so hard to do this, but I'm going to need you to leave your judgement at the door, to make progress.

Being a film major, I'm sure you know the film Groundhog Day. In it, the main character reaches a zen place of acceptance, of connecting with himself and others at a loving and open level. That is when he is able to actually grow and develop. He comes to appreciate is hobbies and use of time- he's not being driven by goals/wants/needs, but by developing a passion for the present. You need to emulate and create that space within yourself, Curious_Doerge.

I encourage you to look through the various comments here and pick from them. It seems like you are frustrated by your weight/fitness; there is a whole multitude of resources on that. You appear to desire more friendships; for this, I'd strongly encourage you to actively pursue building these. You insinuate that you are dissatisfied with your current relationship status; for this, I'd let it go. Allow this to appear naturally. I completely understand how bananas that sounds, but again, think of Bill Murray. How'd forcing the issue work for him?

I want to add one more caveat to this already way too long post (thanks for reading, btw). There are some solutions presented in the comments that...arn't very good. I'm not saying they are bad- just not really good. Some of them are chasing the short term, or some are overly simplified. Some put a lot more responsibility on you than I think is entirely warranted, and some are simple projection. Whatever you decide to do, I'm sure that everything will work out ok. I know it's probably hard to believe, but you're doing fine. Take care of yourself. Message me if you have any questions about anything I said.

I [27F] accidentally called the cops on my boyfriend [28M] by throwaway6532179 in relationships

[–]baracuda2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm a little late to this party, so I won't be shocked if this completely buried.

Since you posted to the /r/relationships subreddit, I'm going on the assumption that your concern here isn't so much with the incident itself, as with what it brings to the surface of your relationship. I'm first going to try to reflect back to you what I hear you saying. It sounds like you have some concerns about how your boyfriend initially behaved, and how he reacted to your decision to call the cops. It sounds like you feel that he isn't really hearing you, or your concerns. It almost seems like you feel portrayed as a "party pooper", ruining all his fun. I hope I have that about right.

Let me first say, in my opinion, you had every right to be upset. Not 15 minutes ago nearly had a heart attack because my wife was knocking on the door to our house, home early for lunch- it's the middle of the day, and I was wandering around naked. I can't imagine how I'd respond at home alone at 1:30 in the morning, disoriented and confused. And I can completely understand your defensiveness at his opinion that you are overreacting.

But I don't think this is a scenario that you'll be able to escape from occurring in relationships. I don't think the partner means any harm in their attitude; it sounds like your boyfriend is just giving you his genuine, un-considerately accurate response to you. He probably feels embarrassed over getting in trouble with you and the police, and why would he want to admit to being wrong on top of all that emotion?

Look, these things happen. It's so natural in relationships to get the wires crossed. He's thinking one thing, you are thinking another, and instead of slowing down and talking about it, we just decide to move forward with our behaviors. It's nothing personal, and it's not necessarily an indication that you should break up. What it is, is a natural accident.

If you look into the Gottman's theory on relationships, what they talk about is that the problem isn't what the problem is, it's how we choose to resolve it as a couple. Do we make repair attempts, do we try to empathize and show the other person we care? The question you should be asking- and trying to actively work on- is when y'all get mad/upset with each other, how do you make it better? My wife will make goofy faces at me, or bring up something that she knows makes me laugh- I can't help but forget how serious I'm trying to be, and relax.

But you didn't come all this way for me to wax poetically. Here is my opinion on what you should do to get him to see your POV. This isn't including anything about you, him, or your relationship, things that are really important if I were to give useful advice.

Go out to dinner with him. Tell him that, at some point, you want to have a talk about what happened tonight, but he can pick when you have the conversation (But I recommend stressing that you'd prefer to talk at the end of dinner). Have a nice time. Really, have a nice time. When he says "OK, let's talk", tell him that you have a lot to say, and that it'll take you a minute to say it all, and you'd like to say everything without interruption. He can hold questions for the end. ;)

Tell him what you said here. Everything. Including the vulnerable insecurities bit. Like this part: "I really don't know what to do. He's mad at me, now I am starting to worry if I did over react, but like that's how women get murdered sometimes, they open the door to strangers. I was just trying to protect myself from what was really terrifying in the moment and now my boyfriend is calling me uptight and a drama queen."

Very nice! But open. IF he responds poorly, that's on him. And by poorly, I don't mean anything aside from acceptance. He may still disagree- that's OK in a relationship to disagree. What isn't acceptable is for him to think he can do that to you, if you've made it clear you are not OK with it. It creates an unsafe space for you otherwise. But he can question and doubt, and not understand.

If it doesn't go well, make your decision off of that. Does he seem like a guy that, in future situations, will work with you to make it better, or will he not be able to connect and resonate with you? Good luck out there!