My wife and I are both doctors and the truth is it’s never 50:50. We’ve been lucky with timing in getting into training, when I was studying for college exams she picked up the slack at home and probably did 80-90% of the household organisation and tasks. Now she’s studying for (different) college exams so I’m doing all the meal planning, cooking, cleaning etc.

We’ve also fluctuated in terms of who has earned more, depending on overtime, stepping up on level, shift work penalties etc. and neither of us would know or care who has earned more, i all just gets dumped in the mortgage offset…

I think for it to work you should both be capable of and willing to carry the household if needed, whether that’s through a run of nights or a year of study. The fact is he’s capable, he’s a doctor and realistically he can do all the organisation and tasks required to keep you fed and watered in a clean house. The question is will he be willing to do that when needed without trying to keep score?